cococandy:
Men don't leave their families to join their wives families,change names and be expected to please every member of the wife's family.
Marriage especially in Africa is very different for women than it is for men.
The woman is expected to put up with attitude from in-laws and you find husband's brothers and sisters and mothers and fathers and aunts and uncles etc etc always on the look out for what the wife is doing wrong so that she can be labeled a bad wife.
The wife's family will hardly be holding their son in law to standards of their own making neither will you find the wife's siblings trying to bend the man to their will because he married their sister.

That's the reality of African marriage for most women. Except the ones who are lucky to get nice and not too culturally biased in laws

moca:
Money to collect list
@breadplanet, let me advise u as a sis.
We all hv been there.
Ur marital journey starts with this list of a thing so listen carefully.
Its not hidden that in some parts of igboland, u will see some outrageous and bogus lists by d lady's people.
Be d smart and at d same time d foolish one here.
If they collect the list, take it and mark out d constitutionaly compulsory ones in ur kindred. Go and ask.
Then d rest should be discarded(whether he is dangote or not).
If ur people raise their voice, sternly wran them to stay clear or u will simply elope(mumsy will then control popsi who then controls others)but know that u alone call d shots here.
And if ur hubby want to do show(like,honey, don't worry, I will do all, its nothing)abegi forget that, he will revisit d issue in less that 2yrs time or use it as an example to a friend in ur presence.it always bring problem and d cycle continues.
Be wise dear, ur marriage will be d way u want it to be.
All d best.

breadplanets:
Yeaaaaaa im so happy my mom is back!!!! So no stress for me o. When she asked me last week how im preparing as in what i will cook n what i will wear dat day i tell am say i go wear pant n bra and feed her in laws bread n fanta! No b person tell am make she make plans to come back hehehehehe..... Im happy jare. Thanks for this my online family u guys are d best. Kissessss....... Btw i didnt knw that they use money to collect list o. Though its quite cheap in my place, just N2700. I'll keep y'all posted

byvan:




Dey no use money collect mine oooo.

breadplanets:
Really? I heard that in some places its as much as 15k!!!

byvan:




My dad was rejecting list sef, he scraped out lots and threatened to marry me off without their list , he is not really big on following the rip off program . The truth is that me no send them, i would have run off with the dude for free anyway .

breadplanets:
Prahahahahahahahahahaha...... Abeg byvan leave me this night let me start strategising on how to dismantle the list. What nonsense! How many of these so called uncles have ever really been there for one in the first place? I remember one time in secondary school i was stranded on the road while travelling back from school then i managed to beg a driver to take me to park that i have an uncle there that i will collect money from to pay him. You know drivers na after much much he agreed. When we got to the park his conductor followed me to my uncle's shop thankfully he was around do you know that this man did not give me money to pay the conductor.!! After telling him my plight even if he didnt have he could have borrowed and the money im talking about is less than N50 o! The conductor nearly beat nonsense commot for my body that day. It was just God that saved me. I just dey wait am that day make i see the mouth wey e go use they drink palmy on top my head! Mtchewwwwwwwwwwww........ I don vex this nite

byvan:



Nne no too vex, just dey zoom them in 3D. It will come and pass soon enough. Once bride price don land, even ancestors dey game for the sharing .

breadplanets:
. Btw i didnt knw that they use money to collect list o. Though its quite cheap in my place, just N2700. I'll keep y'all posted

eagleeye2:

yes ohh.... list is usually collected with a token. mine was #6000. Though one of my cousins was told to bring #30,000 and the guy just soft pedal and began think twice about the babe.....

alutacontinua:



smh for your guy
He must be very poor

alutacontinua:



smh for your guy
He must be very poor

eagleeye2:

Yeah, he isn't all that bouyant. Moreover, we gathered that the lady wasn't all that into him. Maybe it was a scare tactics.

Ilovenigeria:

30k for collection of list?

alutacontinua:


If he had other reasons that made him think twice, maybe
But if 30K was too much for him to pay as bride price, he really needs to step up his game
My sources say some parts of naija pay hundreds of thousands
If things were super-tight and the babe knows, she should have tried to help tone it down though

eagleeye2:

No. No.
#30k was for collecting list. You can ask others (igbos) it's way too expensive just for collecting list.
The girls brother, who was even telling him to go and bring the money isn't responsible for the girl ohh.......the girl was adopted by a reverend gentleman who trained her. But in Igbo land na still the biological family of the girl that will dictate things concerning her trad wedding.

byvan:




Dey no use money collect mine oooo.

dBard:


collected my list with about 7k

dBard:


collected my list with about 7k

byvan:



Nawaoooh!!!

byvan:



Nawaoooh!!!

alutacontinua:


God help my father if he tries to dull when time comes
E be like say na me go do this list thing myself
My father fit dey form over-nice like that

#assuming I'm female#

Ooopsss
Did someone almost "slip and fall"?

Lmaooo.

RoyalRoy:



Ooopsss
Did someone almost "slip and fall"?

Lmaooo.

alutacontinua:


bwuhahahahahahahahah
where have you been?
Complements of this beautiful season

Have you seen aplonius?

Av been around eating chicken all over Lagos Island and Ibadan but i haven't seen Apolonius oooo
A bit worried about his gradual/sudden dissapearance since he entered this "jungle". Hoping he is fine though!!!

RoyalRoy:


Av been around eating chicken all over Lagos Island and Ibadan but i haven't seen Apolonius oooo
A bit worried about his gradual/sudden dissapearance since he entered this "jungle". Hoping he is fine though!!!

RoyalRoy:


Av been around eating chicken all over Lagos Island and Ibadan but i haven't seen Apolonius oooo
A bit worried about his gradual/sudden dissapearance since he entered this "jungle". Hoping he is fine though!!!