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Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 4:39pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Trust me aisha2 this man knows what he is up against. I told him everything and also asked for his help on when i start acting up based on my past experiences and he has been a rock. I know that i have issues as in Issues! But thanks be to God my fiance comes from a strong family background where the love between his parents was rock solid as in a blind man would know that these couple adores each other therefore he *my guy* believes that marraige works. I guess im just looking for reassurance that opening my heart and loving this guy with my whole being is the right thing to do. This warm and yeye feeling i get when i think about him is it normal? Aisha your last line *pls dont use and hurt this guy* i wish guys would also follow that advice and not hurt women. Why should they be doing the hurting everytime? Im not planning on hurting anybody o! Thanks for your advice im working on myself seriously. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 4:48pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
breadplanets: Hurting is not a girl or guy thing everyone has been hurt even the guy acting tough. So men are not the enemies. Women can also be evil. Imagine spending a weekend with your boyfriend telling him about a business you have been planning and making hin collect a loan from his office cooperative to fiance the business only for you to use that money to go and get married the next week, isnt that devilish? What I am saying is that all men are not bad, all men don't do evil same way all women are not saints or bad too. There is this Jerome guy relationship coach don't know if he is still in it, contact him or a therapist in the hospital and deal with these issues some people think going to a psychiatric hospital is only for crazy people no its also for people with issues like this. You need to help yourself before you marry this guy. I myself have been hurt beyond measure but because I came from a background where I saw real love i was lucky not to develop an unhealthy attitude towards love, you have childhood issues you need to deal with before you become any mans wife. Marriage is challenging on its own talkless of when you are going into it for the wrong reasons and going into it expecting the other to fail or live up to impossible standards 2 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 5:00pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Thanks aisha2 can you help me with the contacts of a therapist? Is that possible? Or how do i go about locating one? |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 5:13pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
breadplanets: Where are you located in Nigeria? I can ask a therapist friend for one in your location |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 5:16pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
aisha2:I'll be in Aba for the next 3mths. Thank you |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 5:25pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
breadplanets: Give me till tomorrow let me find out for you. I know there is one in Enugu not so sure of aba |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by cococandy(f): 5:30pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Breadplanets you're lucky to find a man you can love. Pls don't let him gobfor anything Goodluck |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 5:31pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
aisha2:God bless you. 3 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 5:35pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
cococandy:coco nwannem i aint letting go for natin! Im willing to go book a room in a psychiatric home just to keep this one o! Abeg. 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by bukatyne(f): 5:48pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
eagleeye2: A round of e-appaulse Looking at tthings from your partner's POV helps a whole lot. Some things intepreted as being bossy, wicked or selfish mmight not always be so. I honestly think some people work hard at making their marriages fail. How difficult is it do the right thing or treat your partner How you want him or her to treat you? 5 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by bukatyne(f): 5:54pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
@Breadplanets, I wish you all the best and I am happy you opened up to bobo. You really need to heal before getting married else you are seeing yourself up for failure. @Aisha2, Weldone 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by cococandy(f): 5:57pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
breadplanets:awww |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by cococandy(f): 5:58pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
bukatyne:most people can't take what they dish to others |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 8:14pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
@aisha2 Can I mail you? the thread 'how much violence should a spouse endure?' is too close to home so i wanted to ask you something offline. Sorry for derailing the thread |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 8:17pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
salsera: Send a mail to aishagift@outlook.com |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 11:47am On Jan 30, 2015 |
breadplanets: Kai, I wasn't successful oh. Contacted my friend, he says the closest doctor he could locate was in Uyo When do you leave Aba? And where are you headed? Anyway in the absence of a therapist I suggest you write down all your worst fears about marriage and love, then google fear and insecurities, write down key points too, compare notes everyday slowly and gradually and teach yourself why fears of the past and insecurities should not determine your future. Also refer to the bible verse which says perfect love casts away fear, perfect love in this case is not the love he has for you but the love you have for yourself which will help you understand yourself love and accept your past and love yourself enough to build a good deserved future 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 2:18pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Awww aisha2 you are a blessing to this generation. Im grateful. Our wedding would be by april this yr by the special grace of God and i will be joining him in lagos by then. I'll do all you have said. I know that they would be a thousand and one therapists in lagos. Thank you once more. 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 2:49pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
breadplanets: God bless and keep your home now start speaking positivity into your love life and your home |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Wendy80(f): 4:45pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
aisha2: WHAT? Haaaa. Wickedness in high places. Jesus. That's building Marriage on false foundation. Kai I'm shocked. That girl is evil. 2moro she go say one Aunty de 'winch' her from villa. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by LaShawn: 9:21am On Feb 14, 2015 |
Hellooooooo! Anybody home? *looks around. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 1:52pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
Oh mehn! Aisha2 has deactivated? But why?..... |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 5:37pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
breadplanets: Don't worry, she will come back with another username. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 6:12pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
thanks phema |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by prissyluv(f): 6:23pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
Hello Family. Happy val to you all. Sorry to bother you guys but I am really having a hard time coping with my parents disapproval of the man that wants to marry me I spoke to my dad this morning and he told me I should never think I will get his consent. He said its impossible for him to give his consent. My dad feels so disappointed that I chose a benin man to marry. Questions like : do i care about my welfare,how am I going to interact with the people there,how will they come and visit me and interact with people around?? That i should know that I am an ada,how many people did I hear in my town married to benin and many more things he said. I dont really know how it will be for me letting this man go. I know If I do that I will never be completely happy with my family and I am not so sure how happy I will be with another man coming my way. I am utterly confused,disturbed and depressed. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by prissyluv(f): 7:15pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
Chrisbenogor:Maybe I didnt thank you enuogh when you wrote this. Thanks so much for such wisdom. Happy Val. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by apolonius(m): 11:14pm On Feb 28, 2015 |
I am hale and hearty.How are you guys?Back to the UK.
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Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by apolonius(m): 11:15pm On Feb 28, 2015 |
Don't worry,I am fine o.How you dey na? RoyalRoy: |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by RoyalRoy(m): 2:10am On Mar 01, 2015 |
apolonius: Good to read from you!!! Am fine and well. Thanks bruv. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 9:08pm On Mar 15, 2015 |
breadplanets: My stomach should be included in the item7...! Goodnews! I'm happy 4u.... Wish u success... Soon u'll be welcomed into world of motherhood. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Wendy80(f): 5:18pm On Apr 09, 2015 |
This lovely thread has gone quiet. Where are u all? |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by opeoluwa2(f): 3:02pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
[quote author=LyndaRoyce post=31652605] My stomach should be included in the item7...! Goodnews! I'm happy 4u.... Wish u success... Soon u'll be welcomed into world of motherhood.[/q Hello lyndaroyce it's been awhile, hpe you re gud |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by nice14: 8:52pm On Apr 11, 2015 |
Nice thrend. Been married for 4yrs now. My hubby has hurt and still hurting me, that i so RESENT him. One day he will pay 4 every tears he has brought 2 my eyes! |
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