Decryptor:

Thank you my brother. We are on the same page. Women are usually attracted to men who are hostile and volatile! Trust me...i used to be the endearing and phenomenal lady's dream man and i saw women treat me like shyte but when i became more eruptive and rigid in my relationships, they seemed to hang on and love me. Just like you rightly posited, any man who is serious to settle down should not exhibit most of the characters the OP pointed out out because the woman will eventually say "I DO" to a more dogged and unyielding man.

Women love challenges. They unconsciously take it upon themselveys to go on a quest to refine a crude man than settling with an already refined man. their motto is usually, "I BELIEVE I CAN CHANGE THIS MAN FOR GOOD"

Decryptor:

Thank you my brother. We are on the same page. Women are usually attracted to men who are hostile and volatile! Trust me...i used to be the endearing and phenomenal lady's dream man and i saw women treat me like shyte but when i became more eruptive and rigid in my relationships, they seemed to hang on and love me. Just like you rightly posited, any man who is serious to settle down should not exhibit most of the characters the OP pointed out out because the woman will eventually say "I DO" to a more dogged and unyielding man.

Women love challenges. They unconsciously take it upon themselves to go on a quest to refine a crude man than settling with an already refined man. their motto is usually, "I BELIEVE I CAN CHANGE THIS MAN FOR GOOD"

DestinedSharon:
I agrees with U that women loves challenges. We unconsciously take it upon Ourselves to refine a crude man. This is because we philosophically believes the word ''all that glitters is not gold''. When a guy is too soft and too good, we see him as ''a wolf in sheep clothings'', we hardly believes in him. You might be the type that hardly have time for women, U do not cheat or flirt around, just a nice guy. Ladies perceives U differently, we logically put it that it's either u ar yet to find another or U ar not really ladies choice so U were being turned down. A once loving lady might just quit U for a more handsome sweet mouthed playboy. Not that her intuition didn't tell her that he isn't good for her, but she'd rather believe ''I can change him''. That is where we go nuts. Some get to succeed, while many get to regret for the rest of their lives.

Islie: when i look at the title of this thread ...... this song by Micheal bolton comes to mind

Lily4star:

Hmmmnnn, nah my pp make u want make I come close shey? , thanks Dear

experimentist: maga

rattlesnake:

Death by fantasy

udemzyudex: lol...always imagining things,and the funny part is no girl will want to marry a guy like that..

Girls don't want a guy who is not challenging, a guy who they can control.when they believe he has given them his powers,it becomes boring and really want to try out new things.

Any girl will think twice before accepting such guy proposal

DestinedSharon:
I agrees with U that women loves challenges. We unconsciously take it upon Ourselves to refine a crude man. This is because we philosophically believes the word ''all that glitters is not gold''. When a guy is too soft and too good, we see him as ''a wolf in sheep clothings'', we hardly believes in him. You might be the type that hardly have time for women, U do not cheat or flirt around, just a nice guy. Ladies perceives U differently, we logically put it that it's either u ar yet to find another or U ar not really ladies choice so U were being turned down. A once loving lady might just quit U for a more handsome sweet mouthed playboy. Not that her intuition didn't tell her that he isn't good for her, but she'd rather believe ''I can change him''. That is where we go nuts. Some get to succeed, while many get to regret for the rest of their lives.

Lenzz:

Yeah I think I agree with you. Women are very unpredictable set of people. They easily get bored with routine; whether its routine love or routine pampering, they just get bored.

With d benefit of hindsight, I've come to learn that women over time prefers to explore further than where they are however sweet nd comfortable their lives currently is. Women need unassuming nd sometimes unpredictable men most of d times. I once had a GF in university who left a very faithful nd caring partner for me simply because, in her words, he wasn't phenomenal nd challenging. Simply put, she got bored from d tones of care. Can you beat that.

My point? There is no quick fix to holding down these daughters of Eve. By default they're designed to not know what they really want when it comes to love nd expectations from love, and that's not me been chauvinistic but just laying dem facts bare.

I still believe in love though. Nice submissions once again Ms Sweetlemon. You have a follower

Sweetlemon: !

stinggy:
see me ooo... na wetin I tak notice u nw. but with or without ur pp, wld u still blow in my direction pls?

Sweetlemon: NLers at it again.

I see most have mistaken this write-up as "attributes of a good man" instead of signs to look out for that a man loves you.

Like seriously!

I give up on y'all! No more threads from me!

Sweetlemon: NLers at it again.

I see most have mistaken this write-up as "attributes of a good man" instead of signs to look out for that a man loves you.

Like seriously!

I give up on y'all! No more threads from me!

Islie: when i look at the title of this thread ...... this song by Micheal bolton comes to mind

caseless: lean on me, when u ar not strong. Dnt lean on me pls if u ar a guy.

glitest:




I wanted to send 1 E slap to you, then I looked at your pics, and decided to send 200 hundred.

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olubukato:

Aboki how far?

charles316:



your search for a husband has really intensified. God will do it for you.

Sweetlemon
DesperateLemon

Sweetlemon: NLers at it again.

I see most have mistaken this write-up as "attributes of a good man" instead of signs to look out for that a man loves you.

Like seriously!

I give up on y'all! No more threads from me!

caseless: men, i de o. Whr hav u been?

Decryptor: I agree with majority of those points but the major problem is that women take these kind of men (whenever they find them) for granted. I can clearly relate to all those points and yet see the women i got involved in betray me or make me walk away from the relationship out of frustration. The thing about majority of women esp Nigerian women(I believe that there are a few good ones out there) is that no matter how good a man is "whether he is an intending or already-wedded husband" to his woman, she still believes that the grass is more greener at the other side.

Watch Tyler Perry's "Temptations: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor" and the Upcoming "Addicted" and you will be so discouraged to give your whole heart to a woman both in relationship and marriage.

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