Ok. Peeps with experience please wade in.

I'm 31. I didnt believe that I would get to this age as a single person. In my earlier years, I used to feel attraction for girls, even though I was kinda shy approaching some of them. Now, I want to marry. I can practically count (with my fingers, that is) the number of my friends who are still single.

I'm done with school, started a business, doing well, but the problem I now have is that I have NO iota of feeling for girls. At first, I thought it was a passing phase, but alas, I was wrong.

3 months ago, there was this girl I thought I liked. I went to her ofice and toasted her. She showed signs of acceptance, but I dont know what came over me, I lost interest in the girl, (take note, I didnt sleep with her). I have tried to rebuild my love for the chic, but its just not there. The girl is not a bad girl, so nobody should accuse her of anything. I dont want to lead her on when I know I dont feel nothing for her.

Anita's case is just 1 out of about 6 within the past 1 year. One girl said I was possessed. Another said I was GAY, but denying it. Well, may God forgive them sha. I know I am NOT.

Has anyone been through this before?
How did you overcome it?

Have u ever had a long relationship that ended in heartbreak? sometimes our heart tries to shield itself due to history of heartbreaks and disappointment..dont jump straight into relationship,start with friendship with a lady so that she can warm her way into ur heart,thats the only way u can let ur guards down and rediscover ur interest in the opposite sex..dont rush things

Maybe you just wiped the feminine side from your mind. It could be due to an experience that ended on bad terms. Only you should be able to decipher what it is.

A clear case of spirit wife... hmnm..this one is strong!!!

Lmao!

Is it because your friends are married that you're pushing yourself to get huckup......... it does not work that way. if you see any girl you like, don't just ask her for a relationship immediately. Try be friend with her, spend time together as friends. In so doing, you 're building memories; incase you finally ask her out and you find yourself loosing interest, that memories you built before will make you wanna stay put.

Hmmm. Highly spiritual!

Sijo01: Is it because your friends are married that you're pushing yourself to get huckup......... it does not work that way. if you see any girl you like, don't just ask her for a relationship immediately. Try be friend with her, spend time together as friends. In so doing, you 're building memories; incase you finally ask her out and you find yourself loosing interest, that memories you built before will make you wanna stay put.

That's my lady, I just read her post and forgot what I wanted to type

ITbomb:
That's my lady, I just read her post and forgot what I wanted to type

Lol.

Tymax: Hmmm. Highly spiritual!

how s dat one spiritual now??

Sijo01: Is it because your friends are married that you're pushing yourself to get huckup......... it does not work that way. if you see any girl you like, don't just ask her for a relationship immediately. Try be friend with her, spend time together as friends. In so doing, you 're building memories; incase you finally ask her out and you find yourself loosing interest, that memories you built before will make you wanna stay put.

darling sometimes that same fond memories becomes an obstacle in moving forward in life...some guys are still in some bad relationship due to the awesome past they both shared

Maybe your the kind that it takes something out of the ordinary to fall in love. All you need is a spark from that special one to go gaga. And trust me you go too mumu for her. Keep an open mind and don't settle for less till she waltz in. Till then, keep improving on yourself and be the best you could be. Love is a beautiful thing.

Go see yr pastor before u clock 32

You need to stop mas. turbating

temigracie: how s dat one spiritual now??

It is not ordinary. "Snake get hand inside."

Tymax:
It is not ordinary. "Snake get hand inside."

....hmmmm....yinmu

temigracie: ....hmmmm....yinmu

Lol. Yes na. How will a grown single man not have interest in women? Plus he's not gay or something. Nne, bone! This is a spirishua sontin.

Bro, go and pray well.

Can't love girls any more neh? That makes two of us. U need to date ladies like me who don't love guys. Try it to see how it goes.

Wow. Am so happy that I finally find sm1 lyk m. Before I approach a gurl am usually lyk wow... Buh d moment I xk her dem out, den I alwayz loose interest

Tymax:
Lol. Yes na. How will a grown single man not have interest in women? Plus he's not gay or something. Nne, bone! This is a spirishua sontin.

Bro, go and pray well.

Mr Tymax....

temigracie: Mr Tymax....

mmm?

Bro. Just take it easy don't force ur self to love anyone because u will end up breaking their heart.
Once u meet ur soulmate, the one ur meant to marry u will know and won't leave her. I'm talking from experience. I think she will start from being a friend and have a lot of things in common with u such as being smart and business minded before u know it ull come back to drop ur story on nairaland.

Safe bro

Tymax: mmm?

...i blive its nt spiritual..mayb he shud c a therapist....den if it doesnt work,he needs serious prayers....BTW,happy salah

Tymax: mmm?

...i blive its nt spiritual..mayb he shud c a therapist....den if it doesnt work,he needs serious prayers....BTW,happy salah...malam Tymax

temigracie: ...i blive its nt spiritual..mayb he shud c a therapist....den if it doesnt work,he needs serious prayers....BTW,happy salah...malam Tymax

compliments of the season Grandma.

Tymax: compliments of the season Grandma.

...lol...r u still working??

temigracie: ...lol...r u still working??

I've stopped for the day. Can't kee myself na. Will read a bit before I turn in.

jennylove7575: Can't love girls any more neh? That makes two of us. U need to date ladies like me who don't love guys. Try it to see how it goes.

Give him your number then
Or how else do you want him to meet ladies like you?

Tymax:
I've stopped for the day. Can't kee myself na. Will read a bit before I turn in.

....eeyah..sowie,dear...aal izz well

I am having similar problem too. I am 32 now and the last time i loved was in 2005, though my heart was broken. I want to get married but i just dont feel anything for most ladies. i have even called a radio station for advise.

the advice they gave isnt working. If i see a lady, i only see sex now and i know its wrong.

God help me and you

temigracie: ....eeyah..sowie,dear...aal izz well

Thanks honey

Tymax:
Thanks honey

....u r w...lol @ honey