marieolae: Mr man, you do not love grace, you are lusting over her. You love your wife. You married her. You were not sleeping when you married her were you? This grace is still in school, she is still young, so chances are that she will still find another guy who will loves her. As for you, you gotta get back with your family. Remember the vows you made on your wedding day. Be loyal to yourself.

defendedvictim: u can't b dp sure he is lusting after Grace. marriage z honorable though..buh d wife sha, y wud she leave her man for a year?

marieolae: women are stubborn. They don't want to give in. I'm very sure she was missing her husband dearly. Its all part of the game.

defendedvictim: game? dat game lasted way too long. I wudnt blame op for falling for Grace..

marieolae: Well, that's your opinion

andromida: Its possible you love grace and just want your wife back because of your son but you should give your marriage a chance, tell grace that your wife is back and you'd like to rebuild your home and yes you have to let grace go.

GoodFaith:
If he is not happy with his wife
what good it is to bring her back to the house?

ehispapa: Lets be mature here. If a woman that claim to be your wife can leave you for one year over something trivial, then she has stopped loving you. What are her sudden reason for wanting to come back? why did her family allow her to stay with them knowing she is married? My GUY think twice, that your wife is after something and i believe you will regret loosing grace because of this her cheap stunt. Forget all this people saying marriage vow and be a man..you can not force a horse to drink. your happiness first before others..your son will definitely aligned with time ....bro whatever decision you took,your happiness and safety should come first cos woman any woman that leaves a husband for one year have no good intention for him. But how she take dey cure her kongi for that one year sef?

andromida:

Well because he is separated not divorced and has been in that state of limbo for a year if he was done with his wife he would have divorced her already now she is back so why not give it a try, he is already confused if he goes back to grace he will keep wondering if he should have tried harder if not for anything because of his son and grace will suffer waiting for him to decide by the time family and friends weigh in the chances of the relationship with grace growing is really low. He needs to let her go NOW if in the future he finds himself single and grace single then just maybe they can make it but now he should free grace confused feelings will not let him treat her right. He will feel bad and she will suffer. Lose-lose.

GoodFaith:
he is already confused----- beacuse of his son
I hate divorce but if the wife can stay at her family house for one year--- that is a big issue for me
He need to be happy--- wife or Grace

andromida:

Yeah happiness first but will he be happy if he didn't do all he can before walking away? If he was sure he wanted to be with grace, do you think he will be asking NL for advice? He is not sure of what he wants.

andromida: Then he should pray for guidance.

marieolae: Mr man, you do not love grace, you are lusting over her. You love your wife. You married her. You were not sleeping when you married her were you? This grace is still in school, she is still young, so chances are that she will still find another guy who will love her. As for you, you gotta get back with your family. Remember the vows you made on your wedding day. Be loyal to yourself.

egokudiowomoney: There is a lady called Grace that do come to charge her phones in my room.Atimes she will wait for like 15 minutes for her phone to come up with at least one bar so that she make short calls.During that 15minutes we normally discuss about life in general.Thi s lady know that i’v once married and not living with my wife again (separated).Atimes goes on she started complaining about untidiness of my room,the way i used to put clothes on chairs etc.One day she came as usual but not to charge phone but to watch movie,after the movie she asked me to loose all my window curtains including the one in the bedroom which she does not know whether they(the one in bedroom) are dirty or not.I was surprisd when she returnd the following day with the curtains and hung them herself.I was suprised with her attitude but just to appreciate what she did,i pecked her but the pecking immediately turned to kissing.We kissed for over 15 minutes and will later have s*x that day.Although she always tell me about her boyfriend which i know from our conversations that she loves him very much but she always say that guy is playboy.
Due to the love between us,she always tell the guy whenever he calls her that she is no longer interested in him again and that he should go and meet,Rita,Amaka or Elizabeth which she later confide in me that the guy has been dating the three ladies as well.The lady love me and i love her so much to the extent that i cannot do without calling her about 4 to 5 times in day because she has gone back to school. On my birthday she posted a very romantic post on my wall in which my family members and friends know that she is the one i’m dating.
The problem now is that my wife recently sent my friends to me that she want to come back and that i should forget what happened in the past.Although what happened between us was just minor misunderstanding but she took it high.so she decided to come back to me after spending more than a year in her mother’s house.Now i have forgiven her because of my son but the problem is that i still love
Grace and again if i tell her to go i will hurt her .Should i tell her that i have reconcile with my wife or what should i do that will not hurt her feelings?

egopersonified: Op, I was in a hurry to open this thread becos of this your moniker, only for me to read about two women, I thought it was money matters. No advice for you ohh, you are OYO on this ohh.