Okay guys. I will spare you unnecessary details. Im above 27, Mum has always been complaining about me being single and all that. Was on a visit, when she introduced me to a 'close' friend of hers, who hails from a neigbouring town in Kaduna (They actually hate being referred to as Hausas). Next thing i heard was "we were just discussing about you and her daughter, you guys will make great couple!. Sounds like a typical scene in a nollywood movie right?. I bursted out in laughters and it was embarrasing. The poor girl is just 17 going 18!. I made them see reasons, they said you guys would like each other, sha meet her first. They even went further to show me her pictures. She's fair, young and tall (taller than me actually, about 5.9' sha). I kinda admire her but i consider three things, 1. The age gap (seems wide) 2. She's inexperienced (probably a V) 3. I detest arranged relationship (especially when moms are involved).
What do you guys think?

I think ur mom is just suggesting,and not imposing d girl on you, so d case is so simple ..

What ur mum did is the best. U get married to girl who would be respectful because of age gap 2. After child birth she would not be as old 3. Dont miss this chance because you may marry a virgin. Sorry abi na girls wen after child birth then they look like your mother then look for girls ur senior with seven years below. Marry her and love her age gap is nothing.

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akpur1: What ur mum did is the best. U get married to girl who would be respectful because of age gap 2. After child birth she would not be as old 3. Dont miss this chance because you may marry a virgin. Sorry abi na girls wen after child birth then they look like your mother then look for girls ur senior with seven years below. Marry her and love her age gap is nothing.

You should be happy her mom is trying to give out a precious jewel to an old cargo like you. Lol

Na joke I dey o

Hmmm at this new age!

akpur1: What ur mum did is the best. U get married to girl who would be respectful because of age gap 2. After child birth she would not be as old 3. Dont miss this chance because you may marry a virgin. Sorry abi na girls wen after child birth then they look like your mother then look for girls ur senior with seven years below. Marry her and love her age gap is nothing.

What is this one saying? What has age got to do with virginity nowadays? Next time, you smoke RESPONSIBLY!

igbagbomi: Okay guys. I will spare you unnecessary details. Im above 27, Mum has always been complaining about me being single and all that. Was on a visit, when she introduced me to a 'close' friend of hers, who hails from a neigbouring town in Kaduna (They actually hate being referred to as Hausas). Next thing i heard was "we were just discussing about you and her daughter, you guys will make great couple!. Sounds like a typical scene in a nollywood movie right?. I bursted out in laughters and it was embarrasing. The poor girl is just 17 going 18!. I made them see reasons, they said you guys would like each other, sha meet her first. They even went further to show me her pictures. She's fair, young and tall (taller than me actually, about 5.9' sha). I kinda admire her but i consider three things, 1. The age gap (seems wide) 2. She's inexperienced (probably a V) 3. I detest arranged relationship (especially when moms are involved).
What do you guys think?

I don't think its a bad idea, you guys can start with friendship that way you do not proceed to husby and wife if you don't like each other enough also i think she has a lot of growing up to do to know if she wants to marry a man like you.

Let me be real with you ehn..this girl is still very young. In her mind now I dnt even think she is ready for marraige. What she's focused on now is her education. I don't really believe in arranged marraiges because they never seem to work. But anyways, get to know this girl very well and see if she is mature enough to fit your standards. And by the way..being a virgin is a very good thing oo..many guys are looking for what you have right in your hands.

marieolae: Let me be real with you ehn..this girl is still very young. In her mind now I dnt even think she is ready for marraige. What she's focused on now is her education. I don't really believe in arranged marraiges because they never seem to work. But anyways, get to know this girl very well and see if she is mature enough to fit your standards. And by the way..being a virgin is a very good thing oo..many guys are looking for what you have right in your hands.

Thanks. My point is shes yet to get her footing in life. At that age, her self-knowledge is just coming up, as in what she likes or love. Btw, i dont really care about the virgin ish..maybe cos i never had any v bfore!

ur mum is sharp woman na
am 30 yet my mum always advice me to stay away from woman until am fully ready to settle down

igbagbomi: Okay guys. I will spare you unnecessary details. Im above 27, Mum has always been complaining about me being single and all that. Was on a visit, when she introduced me to a 'close' friend of hers, who hails from a neigbouring town in Kaduna (They actually hate being referred to as Hausas). Next thing i heard was "we were just discussing about you and her daughter, you guys will make great couple!. Sounds like a typical scene in a nollywood movie right?. I bursted out in laughters and it was embarrasing. The poor girl is just 17 going 18!. I made them see reasons, they said you guys would like each other, sha meet her first. They even went further to show me her pictures. She's fair, young and tall (taller than me actually, about 5.9' sha). I kinda admire her but i consider three things, 1. The age gap (seems wide) 2. She's inexperienced (probably a V) 3. I detest arranged relationship (especially when moms are involved).
What do you guys think?

This sort of arrangement is good if both parties are of marriageable age. Once two people are introduced the obvious step is to build a "short" relationship towards marriage. This lady 17/18 is NOT ready. If you go ahead with this and she agrees to a relationship with you, one day she's going to wake up to realise that she didn't quite catch the fun she's supposed to have in the 17 - 21 years of age. Women start thinking of a stable marriage-bound relationship after 21 (Just generalizing here based on experience and what I have seen).

Getting back to the issues you have raised -
- You have an issue with the age gap - fair enough
- She's inexperienced - em, everyone's experience starts somewhere
- You detest arranged relationship - fair enough

Based on your own personal score... Your mind is in this with a probability less than 30%. My submission - BOLT and close this chapter

Dygeasy: ..

Nah its not just you,

my brother make you marry the girl ooo. She will grow with you. It is this kind of marriage our fore fathers did that made them have respectable and faithful wifes till they became old.

To add, many old ladies here will want to discourage you because of the good thing that has come your way.

Abi na the one wey all the boys for area don knack finish you want go for? Or the one wey don born pikin for her papa house you want go for? Or na the wey don catch all the fun awey her pusssiiii don wide like Abuja-Lokoja Road you want go for?

Its your choice mr man.

Goodluck

akpur1: What ur mum did is the best. U get married to girl who would be respectful because of age gap 2. After child birth she would not be as old 3. Dont miss this chance because you may marry a virgin. Sorry abi na girls wen after child birth then they look like your mother then look for girls ur senior with seven years below. Marry her and love her age gap is nothing.

Brother

mencade5: my brother make you marry the girl ooo. She will grow with you. It is this kind of marriage our fore fathers did that made them have respectable and faithful wifes till they became old.

To add, many old ladies here will want to discourage you because of the good thing that has come your way.

Abi na the one wey all the boys for area don knack finish you want go for? Or the one wey don born pikin for her papa house you want go for? Or na the wey don catch all the fun awey her pusssiiii don wide like Abuja-Lokoja Road you want go for?

Its your choice mr man.

Goodluck

man ur funny. Abuja 2 Lokoja road.

dumo1: man ur funny. Abuja 2 Lokoja road.

lol...my brother its true ooo

Classic!

mencade5: my brother make you marry the girl ooo. She will grow with you. It is this kind of marriage our fore fathers did that made them have respectable and faithful wifes till they became old.

To add, many old ladies here will want to discourage you because of the good thing that has come your way.

Abi na the one wey all the boys for area don knack finish you want go for? Or the one wey don born pikin for her papa house you want go for? Or na the wey don catch all the fun awey her pusssiiii don wide like Abuja-Lokoja Road you want go for?

Its your choice mr man.

Goodluck

dumo1: man ur funny. Abuja 2 Lokoja road.

Many guys make this same mistake every time.

Ignore the good girl cos she's good and start searching for modern girl (bad n experienced).

Who tell u sey 18 name young girl. When 15 yr don grow nya.sh and tittiez like Kim kardashian , and dey memorize Kamasutra.

No girl ever regrets marrying or dating a man if she is well cared for. At this age, u can start by the time she's 19 - 20 , you can pay the bride price.

I assure 97% of the girls u have not met are not better than this one.

LoveDecay:

Many guys make this same mistake every time.

Ignore the good girl cos she's good and start searching for modern girl (bad n experienced).

Who tell u sey 18 name young girl. When 15 yr don grow nya.sh and tittiez like Kim kardashian , and dey memorize Kamasutra.

No girl ever regrets marrying or dating a man if she is well cared for. At this age, u can start by the time she's 19 - 20 , you can pay the bride price.

I assure 97% of the girls u have not met are not better than this one.

The overage singles wey full nairaland go soon pounce on you spitting fire saying you are going after a child instead of to come to dem.
[s]FYI, any girl, 1 to 5 yrs younger than me is overage[/s]

OP the description you gave of the girl suggest she's a beautiful girl, but since you are averse to the idea of dating/marrying her, abeg forward the babe to me.

LoveDecay:

Many guys make this same mistake every time.

Ignore the good girl cos she's good and start searching for modern girl (bad n experienced).

Who tell u sey 18 name young girl. When 15 yr don grow nya.sh and tittiez like Kim kardashian , and dey memorize Kamasutra.

No girl ever regrets marrying or dating a man if she is well cared for. At this age, u can start by the time she's 19 - 20 , you can pay the bride price.

I assure 97% of the girls u have not met are not better than this one.

#WORD. Brother d way these young ladies of nowadays are growing like Agric fowl. I just wonder what happens in d next 7yrs 4rm now. Sometimes u just have to ask a girl her age just so u don't go for underage girls.

jihday: OP the description you gave of the girl suggest she's a beautiful girl, but since you are averse to the idea of dating/marrying her, abeg forward the babe to me.

Proper gbajue na em you wan be.

All of u shouting inexperienced nd Virgin, i hear oo...you would be suprised that some 17/18 yrs olds re already very experienced nd re already nonvirgins. I absolutely find matchmking absurd in dis century.

Medunah: All of u shouting inexperienced nd Virgin, i hear oo...you would be suprised that some 17/18 yrs olds re already very experienced nd re already nonvirgins..

Tell me more baibe, how experienced r u?

Oh my!...can't even start to imagine the embarrassment involved...go find urself wife or accept that which as been given unto you

But sh*t man...you getting old!...and mama wants a g-son