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Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by SAMBARRY: 6:52am On Sep 01, 2014 |
baralatie:weakness of the man means he has character issues like aggressiveness, quick anger, filthiness, in consideration. Strength is theoopposite of every thing I have listed ahen mods.una no dey hear word? I said come and lock this thread na this is a brand new month o.all this one chance/bad market thread I no wan see am again royal roy, t girl oya o.ijo kan yin 1 Like |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 6:58am On Sep 01, 2014 |
3cycle: I'm a Nigerian.....don't know of this culture 2 Likes |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 7:07am On Sep 01, 2014 |
pickabeau1: On the contrary in my experience women have the highest standards. A lot of young ladies I counsel these days will tell you I am not getting any younger at 24 oh. Most have been brain washed to accept every and any man. They will gather and fight over one randy man consoling themselves that they are main chicks. I speak from my own experience yours could be different, go to the romance section and see what young girls are willing to put up with just to be married. Telling young ladies that without a man they count for nothing has done a number on them. Then another set of young ladies just see marriage as a way out of poverty so any man as long as he offers some comfort is good enough regardless of if he cheats or hits. It's about time we change the message, marriage is great but only and only when you are a whole yourself and you find someone who is willing to do the work with you. Even for the young men there are still issues, the list he has been given which is supposed to be the perfect wife material is not full proof. One man's wife material may be another man's bore, he may marry the great cook, home maker, submissive woman and still yearn for the one who never cooks, is loud, argumentative and us far from the picture of wife material mummy gave him that may be his own wife material but society says no, he marries the one society says is okay then he cheats in her with the other who excites him and everyone starts asking what is wrong with him after all he has the perfect wife at home. Point is everyone should realise they are responsible for their actions and will live with it not society, make good decisions and have the right to be happy on their own terms 7 Likes |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by pickabeau1: 7:18am On Sep 01, 2014 |
aisha2: I fully agree with this conclusion |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 7:21am On Sep 01, 2014 |
3cycle: Nwoke adi njo ..have you not heard that before??.. Btw is this man living in onitsha or Lagos?? |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 7:25am On Sep 01, 2014 |
Isiterere: The man is Sadist...simple.. |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 7:28am On Sep 01, 2014 |
aisha2: you are always on point. 1 Like |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 7:35am On Sep 01, 2014 |
gbosaa:Hian Owekwa umu nwoke di njo oo He doesn't reside in any of those places |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 7:37am On Sep 01, 2014 |
pickabeau1: On the contrary in my experience women have the highest standards. It depends on what you mean by standards Will a ritualist chief who already has 3 wives at home fit some womens standards and get a wife? Yes yes yes . . .so long as he is rich Even here on NL, look at some of the qualities some women consider to make a man good, He is nice, he is handsome, he is generous, he is caring bla di bla di bla You wont hear them talk about the nitty grity such as Integrity, Godly, Honest, Strength, Fair, Consistent, Hardworking, Kind, Reliable and other key attributes. 90% of the time, the man hasnt changed. Its the woman who wants to change the man. You see ladies fighting their finaces girlfriends every day but they still went ahead to marry the guy and on the wedding day they dance down the aisle flouting their new ring. Then start crying when he starts spending 7 days a week having drty chats with his girlfriends on facebook. Has the man changed? He certainly hasnt! its the new wife that is trying to change him. Walking down the aisle and saying I DO doesnt suddenly bring a total body/brain reset back to factory settings to anyone. You either have it within you or you dont and signing a peice of paper doesnt suddenly make you a different person. 5 Likes |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 8:05am On Sep 01, 2014 |
chaircover: There is a thread now about the quality of engagement ring with little focus on the quality of the man giving the ring. What is a world class ring when if the wedding notice is shown in church 2 women come forth one pregnant and the other in an active relationship with the ring giver? Dont forget the man with 4 wives who scattered wife No 3's face because of N200 fish. Do you think the other 3 wives have left him? I doubt they are probably celebrating the departure of wife 3 forgeting that the next time it could be them |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 8:08am On Sep 01, 2014 |
These days self they go into the marriage with the expectation of misbehavior they only cry when he takes it a notch higher. Like you say how much you set on your wares is how much them go price am, they seem to want just any man and are not patient enough to get their own men |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by pickabeau1: 8:08am On Sep 01, 2014 |
chaircover: Find below the meaning of standard. Standards - a principle used for judgement I dont believe females dont show good judgement except you females are buying into the same stereotype that females dont know what they want noun
Nothing wrong with this... they are also standards... they may not wash with another person but as humans we have our freedom of choice
Since we all agree that standards can mean different things to different people What is meat to you is poison to another Making a statement that women have no standards is inaccurate.. ditto for men |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by damiso(f): 8:11am On Sep 01, 2014 |
I know it is not always the case and yes your spouse is meant to support you in fulfilling your potentials but I am just not comfortable with this man training girl through the university and then expecting marriage as a reward for his investments thing. . All this 'reaping investments' based marriages can get as e be jare(again not saying all marriages that the man sponsors the wife's education are bad or abusive) but it's more as a precaution to parents(am guessing and hoping most NL parents will be more enlightened sha ) not to abdicate their responsibilities to a another person who may or may not want to use it as leverage in the future.I know life is more complicated than that and we don't have a student loan/scholarship/work through college system in Nigeria yet but really I hope we get there someday. 1 Like |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by pickabeau1: 8:14am On Sep 01, 2014 |
damiso: I know it is not always the case and yes your spouse is meant to support you in fulfilling your potentials but I am just not comfortable with this man training girl in university and then expecting marriage as a reward for his investments thing. I get your point but this is not only aquality of the males Marriages r being contracted nowadays and what u hear is the lady already preparing for post divorce shortly in the marriage What will i get if we split |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 8:16am On Sep 01, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Yes standards are different to different people and that is why I used the chief example I dont think that all women dont have the right standards Some do, some dont . . . and some that dont have the right standards, just havent had a chance to think about it all in depth. What Aisha is trying to make them sit and think about what they are doing before they make a mistake. |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by pickabeau1: 8:25am On Sep 01, 2014 |
Fair enough and as i said earlier... we all have standards.. its just relativity Mr A married for love; Mr B married for money.. all na standard.... everybody marries for whatever reason as they deem fit The morality of the reasons why the married is not anyones' to judge on chaircover: 1 Like |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by damiso(f): 8:27am On Sep 01, 2014 |
pickabeau1: I am not actually saying it is the mans(or anyone's fault) you know everyone has a right to choose what they want to do with their money.My point was more based on the recipient of the gesture i,e the girl and her parents weighing the pros and cons of basing a marriage based on ' haa it won't be good after all this money he has spent' even if the guy has some other traits that the girl might not necessarily like or if the girl in question might not necessarily have married him if not for that fact. I know poverty is rife and sometimes people sometimes have to do what they have to do but sometimes the long hard road might actually not be that bad it's just that sometimes girls 'want' all those extras that their parents might not actually be able to give them.I had people in my class in university who probably had just 5 outfits in total cos buying clothes was a luxury that could affect their actual living costs and they did not mind and faced what they were in university to do.Today they too are graduates with those that were the 'best dressed' so I guess it's different priorities. |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 8:30am On Sep 01, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Fair enough and as i said earlier... we all have standards.. its just relativity Oga B People can marry for whatever reason, but should not cry foul if mid marriage they expect other things beyond the initial reasons to change and they dont. If you married 3 wife chief for money . . then dont start crying foul when he brings in wife 6. Afterall he is still providing you with your yearly holidays to Dubai and changes your car every year. |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 8:31am On Sep 01, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Fair enough and as i said earlier... we all have standards.. its just relativity I agree like in this case the wife no talk say she get problem na "concerned Neighbour" carry the matter come here, she married a provider and she is willing to beg and come back to the house so thats her own standard. As long as he provides water and food she is fine regardless of how he treats her |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by pickabeau1: 8:38am On Sep 01, 2014 |
damiso: Yes.. that is why enlightenment and empowerment is key aisha2: Fair enough.. chaircover: I will agree with you 100 percent but the fact is that people change Even people who said they will have only four kids decide to have kids later -- example People who will not tolerate inter ethnic marriage are open to it Life is dynamic You are not the same person you were 10, 15, 20 years back As long as people are open to reason, marriage is mostly about tolerance 1 Like |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by baralatie(m): 9:29am On Sep 01, 2014 |
SAMBARRY: weakness of the man means he has character issues like aggressiveness, quick anger, filthiness, in consideration. Strength is theoopposite of every thing I have listedwhat is aggresivrness what is filthiness what is righteousness finally what is weakness of a man and you have not clearly answered the question. |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by NoQualms1(f): 11:10am On Sep 01, 2014 |
5minsmadness: Sorry to digress, are you the same as 'guitar life'? |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by SAMBARRY: 11:15am On Sep 01, 2014 |
This is a new month with new style so therefore baralatie: 1 Like
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Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by 5minsmadness: 11:29am On Sep 01, 2014 |
NoQualms1:Who? Never heard of him. |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 12:01pm On Sep 01, 2014 |
3cycle: Unfortunately,the wife didn't notice that. He must have compensated with a very deep and beautiful pockets. |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by bukatyne(f): 1:31pm On Sep 01, 2014 |
Mynd44: I find it more disturbing that the woman wants to beg him..... Nor bi naija we dey? You want another woman to come and enjoy all her hardwork She is fighting for her home 1 Like |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by cococandy(f): 1:40pm On Sep 01, 2014 |
aisha2: |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by bukatyne(f): 1:47pm On Sep 01, 2014 |
ileobatojo: Where have you been? How are you and family? Take care P.S.: 5minsmadness has started siding the man na The woman will still come back to beg. You know respect is NOT reciprocal/mutual that's why men can treat their spouses like sh.it The man is only trying to be a Naija hubby. The woman has started begging 1 Like |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by bukatyne(f): 2:03pm On Sep 01, 2014 |
aisha2: Its easy to blame men for all our woes when we women enable it. Hmm But when women are encouraged to stay for the kids, why wouldn't the kids especially females think that way daddy behaves is ok? And why will she leave a man with daddy's characteristics? 1 Like |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Nobody: 2:22pm On Sep 01, 2014 |
Chai! Naija don dey better small small o. 4 days of uninterrupted power supply! No gen since thursday night. Still can't believe it. Eerm, abeg sorry for derailing. Its just too good to be true. 2 Likes |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by Godmystrength: 2:27pm On Sep 01, 2014 |
I don't even like all these idea that because a man sent you to school then he must control your life. Is that how our parents treat us after seeing us through school? When i was in the university, there is this lady in my class very lovey lady. All of a sudden, during the final year, we stopped seeing her in class and school. Nobody heard anything from her and we were not able to reach her. In fact we forgot about her only for us to see her in school the next year when we came for our clearance and stuffs. We asked her what happened and you won't believe her story. She was dating a guy that was responsible for her education. They both had irreconcilable issues and then broke up. (we were like ''so how does that answer our question about why she left school). She said because the guy was the one who has been paying her school fees to beginning of 400l he kept frustrating/choking/threatening her life claiming that she owes him her life and certificate and can't leave him alone for whatever reason, she had to withdraw from school, write another jamb , and got a fresh admission (she went to start all over again). At that time, we called her mumu for wasting her time like that. But with what i see these days now, i can only imagine.... [size=5pt]God please give me(and hubby) the grace and resources to meet up with our responsibilities on our children. Please don't allow any boyfriend/girlfriend/relative etc take our place. And please don't allow my children come across men/women of devilish mindsets. Amen[/size] 1 Like |
Re: Husband Sends Wife Packing For having Her Bath. by 5minsmadness: 3:42pm On Sep 01, 2014 |
bukatyne: Choi! I am not siding the man oh. I'm simply hesitant in crucifying him on the cross until I hear both sides of the story. Too many extrapolative arguments here, its like I'm back in my Architecture class. I'm a firm believer in cause and effect. That is, for something to happen, something else must have taken place. If the man got angry enough to tell her not to pump water for two days it might be because he had been telling her over and over and over again and she refused to listen. I honestly don't see how feasible that punishment would have been. If he lives in the same house will he use his urine to cook his meals or have his bath or drink when he is thirsty? Will he sit down and let his children die of thirst? Will he be able to stand the smell of the children or his wifw after the first day? And which landlord made of flesh and blood will stop a paying tenant from pumping water for his/her own use? After I've paid my rent finish you deny me pumping water? Its not possible! Also I feel the wife acted too hastily. She should have waited for the man to come home that night to the reality and consequence of no water in the house. Smelly wife, smelly kids, no food. He would have found an excuse to reverse his opinion because there's no way no water in the house won't inconvenience him as well. OR. Wife could have done what she did, pumped the water etc and simply say it was the tenant that pumped it. Easy. He can't go out and beat the tenant can he? OR Found another way to get water for herself and her kids. When the man comes back and sees water in the jerrycan and asks she can say she fetched it outside. OR Take her bath in the neighbors or a friends house like someone here suggested. BUT NO. as Oga was marching out of the compound she marched to her friends house and stubbornly collected the gen to pump water even as Oga had expressly told her NOT to do so. She knew she was inviting trouble but she went ahead and did it to see if Oga will do anything. Now Oga has played his last card and we are screaming 'demon'. Let me make it clear that I pity the woman. No woman should be treated like that. But she knows the kind of man she married. She could have easily avoided the situation but she didn't . Stubborn. Stubborn women can turn men who were kind enough to finance their education in the past into demons. It doesn't just spontaneously happen. If you still don't get what I'm trying to say then its OK. Ignore this post and read the next one instead. 2 Likes |
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