Here’s an interesting concept in the dating world, The Ladder Theory. The ladder theory is ultimately quite simple: men have one ladder, women have two ladders. The ladder represents our willingness to “date” someone. For instance, the higher someone is on the ladder, the more likely we are to date them. The lower they are, unfortunately, the less likely we would ever consider pursuing a relationship with them.

If both male and female had one ladder, it would make things infinitely easier! However, girls have both a friend’s ladder and a “potential” ladder, whereas guys put all their cross gender relationships on the same ladder.

The Ladder Theory, though, somewhat similar to the 'Frienzone' theory, is different.

Basically, when a girl meets Guy X and Guy Y, she quickly evaluates both and then determines that Guy X is a guy she sees as someone she could “hook up” with while Guy Y is a guy she would never hook up with. As a result of these conclusions, each guy finds a spot on their respective ladders. Guy X is on the “potential ladder”, and Guy Y is on the “friends ladder”.

^{A Guy trying to get off a lady's 'Frienship' Ladder}

NB: Being 'Friendzoned' comes in when a guy expects to get off a lady's friendship ladder onto her her relationship ladder.

THE FEMALE PERSPECTIVE


When a female meets a male in the wild she automatically puts the male on one of two ladders (fig.1). While this choice is a subconscious decision one must be aware that this process does occur. Before this point the male does not reside on either of the two ladders because he is not important enough to even consider. The property of these two ladder classifications that should be clear is the fact that they are two separate classifications with little to no overlap. The main factor that determines what ladder a male is classified into is attraction(2).

FRIENDSHIP LADDER

Once a male has been put onto the friend ladder his chances of transferring over to the lover ladder become very unlikely. It is possible for him to become better friends with the female therefore advancing towards the top of the friend ladder, but as the male advances towards the top of the friend ladder the gap between the friend ladder and the lover ladder grows larger. Because of this, as friendship builds the shock a female will feel when a male eventually confesses his love for her grows in proportion to time.

While it is still possible for a guy to transfer from the friend ladder to the lover ladder it is as close to impossible as one could get. Rare cases where a friendship developed into an intimate relationship(3) include factors such as a gut level attraction between both parties before the friendship began (therefore really being classified as a long-term secret crush, which is put on the bottom rungs of the lover ladder as opposed to being a part of the friend ladder), or a guy completely reinventing himself into a completely different person (see the film Just Friends). Other outside factors such as a relationship between friends being developed into a friendship merely because of the fact that the female was already involved in a physical/intimate relationship with another male at the time the friendship had begun.

With that said I must re-state something. TRANSFER FROM THE FRIEND LADDER TO THE LOVER LADDER IS AS CLOSE TO IMPOSSIBLE AS ONE COULD GET.


LOVER LADDER

I use “Lover ladder” as a blanket term to describe relationships ranging from crushes to “going steady,” and every “complicated” relationship in between. This is because the lover ladder is much more complex than the friend ladder. Similar to the friend ladder, if a guy has been put on the lover ladder the likelihood of him being put on the friend ladder is very unlikely. The closer the guy is to the bottom of the ladder the greater the possibility of him being able to transfer over to the friend ladder (though it is usually the female’s choice to put him on the friend ladder or the “Just Friends” zone).

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OP, this ur post is kinda confusing, na only "ladder" "ladder" "ladder" I dey see. Too much ladders

Yes, guys have just one and ladies generally have two; that explains the ladder theory and why there are many ladders.