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Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Nobody: 9:55am On Sep 04, 2014
No bashing please. I don't know whether i should post it on romance or religion section, but anyone of it is better.

I am a 17years old boy who can described himself as Bisexual/curious because I am still confused.

Growing up, I never knew what is gay and i have always been attracted to females. I always get an erection whenever i see female intimate organ like breast and bottom. I came from a staunch christian background and was never really a bad boy. I never had a girl friend.

My trauma all started at the age of thirteen, i started getting an erection whenever i see handsome men or well built one. I never really understood what was happening because i don't know anything about gay sex. It all became clear to me at fifteen years when i noticed that my attraction to men is more stronger to female(though i'm still attracted to them).

To cut story short, i havent had sex with male or female or kissed anyone. But, i get more intimate urge to do men than women.

The traumatise part of it is bible opinion about homosexuality and my question is if God really destroyed sodom and gomorrah because of it, why did he still allow satan to replant the seed in his imperfect creation and still want to punish them.

address this maturely. No bashing please
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by marieolae(f): 10:01am On Sep 04, 2014
I think u should pray about this. Me I feel like being gay is spirtual. Not just because I'm nigerian, and because everything in nigeria is spirtual, but because I know that being gay is not normal. It might be something you eventually get over. But I'm so sorry, they don't accept homosexual behaviour in Nigeria like how they accept in the USA,UK. I think u should get yourself interactive with females. This feeling shoud eventually go.

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Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Nobody: 10:03am On Sep 04, 2014
marieolae: I think u should pray about this. Me I feel like being gay is spirtual. Not just because I'm nigerian, and because everything in nigeria is spirtual, but because I know that being gay is not normal. It might be something you eventually get over. But I'm so sorry, they don't accept homosexual behaviour in Nigeria like how they accept in the USA,UK. I think u should get yourself interactive with females. This feeling shoud eventually go.

spiritual? How? I av prayed over it and it isnt working.

Why nt attacking bad people?
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by marieolae(f): 10:09am On Sep 04, 2014
Forsaken:

spiritual? How? I av prayed over it and it isnt working.

Why nt attacking bad people?
try having sex wid a girl, u will never regret it. U will be a straight guy for life lol

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Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Jerryolumide(m): 10:10am On Sep 04, 2014
Prayer is the solution to all things, cause u pray for a week or month nd nofin happens dnt mean dat u should stop praying. And try talking to ur parents abt it maybe they'll understand nd hlp u pray abt it also
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Sanchez01: 10:11am On Sep 04, 2014
I must say you are way too young to start anything. But still, that you get attention from seeing male folks is more alarming. According to you, you are from a Christian home but it seems you have been insighted at a younger age, probably by the people around you or the things you watch. It's a long way down, Dear and I'll suggest you do things that would keep your mind off from them, rather than brood on what is not.

Coming from a Christian home, I'm sure you understand that Sodomy is a No No... I'll suggest you prepare your mind and stay strong mentally, lest you are given to thoughts of experimenting it. You honestly don't want to live you life claiming it is some sickly human rights. The opposite sex's body is all that a man needs to glow of satisfaction and contentment.

It is not in my place to initiate, discourage or encourage you but I'd like you to think deep down and ask yourself if He designed you for another male. Well, the answer, I'm sure you know.

I reiterate, you are young to nurture a relation now. Hold a little longer, learn to be given to reasoning and judgement than impulse and excitement.

And yes, God did destroy Sodom and Gomorrah. That devil is bringing it up all over again is because he doesn't want to go down alone.

PS: From an older brother.
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Nobody: 10:12am On Sep 04, 2014
marieolae: try having sex wid a girl, u will never regret it. U will be a straight guy for life lol

see eh, its not that i wish to av sex with a guy. I havent done it b4 but the urge wont let me go.
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Jerryolumide(m): 10:12am On Sep 04, 2014
marieolae: try having sex wid a girl, u will never regret it. U will be a straight guy for life lol
haba? Dats nt a gud advise, he is 17 years old 4 Christ sake, hw do u xpect him to approach a girl nd ask her 4 sex? Any way u can still open legs 4 him ooooo
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by marieolae(f): 10:13am On Sep 04, 2014
Forsaken:

see eh, its not that i wish to av sex with a guy. I havent done it b4 but the urge wont let me go.
I'm telling you something, if u have sex with a woman, that urge will go. U cant compare a vaginna to an anus na
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by marieolae(f): 10:14am On Sep 04, 2014
Jerryolumide: haba? Dats nt a gud advise, he is 17 years old 4 Christ sake, hw do u xpect him to approach a girl nd ask her 4 sex? Any way u can still open legs 4 him ooooo
lol it was a joke pls
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Galads(m): 10:15am On Sep 04, 2014
marieolae: try having sex wid a girl, u will never regret it. U will be a straight guy for life lol
didn't you hear him say matured pple only.. Most you comment on every post on romance section?
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by LaurelP(m): 10:15am On Sep 04, 2014
Pray
Get close to the opposite sex
Tell yourself NO whenever d urge surfaces
You can overcome it bro!
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Nobody: 10:15am On Sep 04, 2014
Sanchez01: I must say you are way too young to start anything. But still, that you get attention from seeing male folks is more alarming. According to you, you are from a Christian home but it seems you have been insighted at a younger age, probably by the people around you or the things you watch. It's a long way down, Dear and I'll suggest you do things that would keep your mind off from them, rather than brood on what is not.

Coming from a Christian home, I'm sure you understand that Sodomy is a No No... I'll suggest you prepare your mind and stay strong mentally, lest you are given to thoughts of experimenting it. You honestly don't want to live you life claiming it is some sickly human rights. The opposite sex's body is all that a man needs to glow of satisfaction and contentment.

It is not in my place to initiate, discourage or encourage you but I'd like you to think deep down and ask yourself if He designed you for another male. Well, the answer, I'm sure you know.

I reiterate, you are young to nurture a relation now. Hold a little longer, learn to be given to reasoning and judgement than impulse and excitement.

And yes, God did destroy Sodom and Gomorrah. That devil is bringing it up all over again is because he doesn't want to go down alone.

PS: From an older brother.


I av been attracted to female right from young age.

I remember vividly dat when i was 13 or 14, i was watching a movie and saw a guy looking at a girl and aving an erection. Immediately, i saw d guy erection, i became erected.
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by marieolae(f): 10:16am On Sep 04, 2014
Galads: didn't you hear him say matured pple only.. Most you comment on every post on romance section?
if you look at my first post I adviced him the best I could. Yes I must.
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Jerryolumide(m): 10:18am On Sep 04, 2014
marieolae: lol it was a joke pls
i fear o
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Nobody: 10:18am On Sep 04, 2014
LaurelP: Pray
Get close to the opposite sex
Tell yourself NO whenever d urge surfaces
You can overcome it bro!

The annoying part is dat its overcoming my feeling for females.

I get disgusted at seeing black vaginal but get erection on white own. But, breast and ass turns me on.
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Nobody: 10:20am On Sep 04, 2014
marieolae: I'm telling you something, if u have sex with a woman, that urge will go. U cant compare a vaginna to an anus na

hmm. Ok.

I am trying so hard to avoid gay friends because i can get down with them if i see anyone becoz i cnt control it.
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Jerryolumide(m): 10:21am On Sep 04, 2014
marieolae: I'm telling you something, if u have sex with a woman, that urge will go. U cant compare a vaginna to an anus na
is dis also part of ur jokes?

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Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by marieolae(f): 10:22am On Sep 04, 2014
Forsaken:

hmm. Ok.

I am trying so hard to avoid gay friends because i can get down with them if i see anyone becoz i cnt control it.
pls my dear be prayerful. I will keep u in my prayers. What's your name?
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Nobody: 10:23am On Sep 04, 2014
marieolae: pls my dear be prayerful. I will keep u in my prayers. What's your name?

I dnt want to expose dat here.

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Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by pleep(m): 10:24am On Sep 04, 2014
Forsaken:

The annoying part is dat its overcoming my feeling for females.

I get disgusted at seeing black vaginal but get erection on white own. But, breast and ass turns me on.
Thats normal grin

I wish Royal was here

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Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by marieolae(f): 10:25am On Sep 04, 2014
Forsaken:

I dnt want to expose dat here.
pm me then
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by stanconnect(m): 10:26am On Sep 04, 2014
It's true you are young but it's better you voiced out your feelings on time, @ least u know that homosexuality is evil and you also know that God h8s it.

Bro, this is my advice..find yourself a girlfriend..even if you do not have sex @ the moment with her...I believe with time as u get more close and acquainted with her you will learn to free those other feelings you exhibit towards your fellow men.

Early indulgence into sex I believe will not even bring a lasting solution to the problem cos your mind is tender..its a youthful stage and u are in for so many adventure...there's more to homosexuality..it has spiritual attachments which an ordinary fellow might not understand, so on this note I advice you to be more prayerful..you can talk to your mum or your dad about it and if you are also close to your pastor you can as well discuss the situation with him..with their combined efforts they will be able to redirect your feelings right! God's grace!
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Nobody: 10:27am On Sep 04, 2014
pleep: Thats normal grin

I wish Royal was here

lol. How?
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by mencade5(m): 10:29am On Sep 04, 2014
marieolae: try having sex wid a girl, u will never regret it. U will be a straight guy for life lol
cool
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Lovexme(m): 10:29am On Sep 04, 2014
Seek a therapist ( if any In Nigeria ).

Maybe you need to keep more female friends, and when you are 18, you could try getting laid..by a female *not enough facial expressions on NL*
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Galads(m): 10:31am On Sep 04, 2014
marieolae: if you look at my first post I adviced him the best I could. Yes I must.
what advice can a baby give to a baby? Have you seen or heard of a curb telling another curb a story on how he hunted a dear. Sweetheart, The fact that you opened ur leg early in life for a guy to straf doesn't make u mature. Pls wake up from your slumber and soon am sure seun will make you a moderator of this section.* Miss romance section*

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Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Nobody: 10:31am On Sep 04, 2014
Lovexme: Seek a therapist ( if any In Nigeria ).

Maybe you need to keep more female friends, and when you are 18, you could try getting laid..by a female *not enough facial expressions on NL*

Therapist. How?
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Nobody: 10:33am On Sep 04, 2014
mencade5: cool

i av actually had sex with a girl 4year older than me when i was below 10. Dat one mite nt be counted.
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Chairbabe: 10:34am On Sep 04, 2014
Hmm.. Eleyi gidi gan oh
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Houseofglam7(f): 10:34am On Sep 04, 2014
Now, this is traumatizing even for a reader....

I think the real solution here is to get close to the OPPOSITE sex.
Re: Trauma Of A Nigerian Young Lad. Pls, Help!! by Lovexme(m): 10:35am On Sep 04, 2014
Forsaken:

Therapist. How?

To help you take your mind off men like yourself, and move it (your mind) to the permanent site (women) or girls in your case *no offence*

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