It's one thing to have feelings, it's another thing to act on them.

I don't believe much in prayers, but I do believe in self - discipline.

Dude, if you feel you're confused and something is just not right with you, and that this feeling came upon you just cos you started watching por.n...then by all means, resist whatever urge you have. Desist from such po.rn that makes you think of such, ans maybe try dating a girl. Dating, not se.x.

If that doesn't work, don't bite yourself, and don't stay frustrated. Many gay people, due to this same pressure of getting a girl friend, have ended up being so.

Above all else, your happiness matters. Focus on other things apart from your sexual life:school, work, etc...and make sure to excel in them. If you do find the person that makes you happy along the way and that you like, whether boy or girl, do not deny yourself of that happiness.

Life is short as it is. Make good use of it.

Op there is nothing wrong with you, nothing at all! If you are attracted to men that is perfectly fine. Please smile and stop worrying.

Lol brethart doll, I don't know what to tell him. If he's looking for a way to not be gay anymore... trying to be sensitive here, but I don't know what to tell him. It's never going to happen. I will add to the point that Nigerians don't understand that being gay is not all about sex. OP, it is possible that as a young, hormone-filled teen, you get erections at the thought of sex in and of itself. I know that growing boys get wood even if the wind hits them the right way.

In my humble (inexperienced) opinion, if you're not having butterflies in your stomach and romantic feelings, you can probably chalk it up to teenage hormones and your virginity. If you are, well, you are in a difficult country... Perhaps you can try and focus on growing up a little more. You can talk to other people in your shoes and get advice from them. I'm sorry, I'm ill-equipped to give advice on that matter with confidence. Circumstances in Nigeria are dangerous, and I am unfamiliar with dealing with them.

Good luck.

masonkz:

so in your warped mind, being gay is all about an.al sex

I guess you talking from experience, you can elaborate more on dat..

marieolae: I guess you talking from experience, you can elaborate more on dat..

so r u insinuating he's a dumb gay ? *winks*

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Nairaland is the worst place to get serious, non-bigoted advice from. Sorry.

I've been in your shoes, although without the female part. I grew up in a Christian home, and I've been going to Christian schools ever since. And I'm gay. Bad combo, eh? My attraction to males began when I was around 8, back in primary 3. It was and has been the only thing I know.

I think your problem is that you can't reconcile being gay/bi/whatever with being a Christian, and that's quite ok. Afterall that much degree of conditioning can't simply be undone with a wave of your hand. I don't know how much advice I can give you on that front, being an atheist and all.

But what I CAN advise you on is to go with whatever makes you most comfortable, and happy. All these people telling you to do this or that or the other, at the end of the day they're gonna leave and get on with their lives, leaving you to suffer through whatever horrible decision you made.

Being gay is not a choice, being happy is
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I have a solution for u,go to the police station nd confess that ure gay,once they sentence u to 14yrs imprisonment d urge will disappear

goshap: U'VE ALREADY ANSWERED YOUR OWN QUESTIONS BY YOURSELF, looks to me like ur just looking for confirmation .# abeg let me sleep in peace on nl o#

lol

Camellia: uhmmn OP...yr story z sad o...BT lemme a say something...
first things first... STOP watching indecency ..whether movies or pictures.. in fact indecency of any form.
two. mind the friends u keep ...even d so called social network friends ..they don't seem ryt...
three. u grew up in a Christian home so im very sure u go to church... u ave youth or teen pastors.. find one and talk to them...dat interaction myt help better.
four. focus more on yr moral life read yr bible more ....Nd pls keep praying ..even if it seems not to work now don't stop alryt # cheers

Thanks

brethart: dude it's all about acceptance and control......if u accept yourself for who u are , u don't need a God , a Pastor , friend or anybody to decide for u .....u are Gay.....so suck it and live your life ...do what makes u happy , what keeps u YOU............ ...I'm not in d best position to advice u on this
......but please learn to control yourself please .....it's d most important thing......control your sexual urge .......
I'll recommend miss meiya.........I'll also be watching from d sidelines and chip one or two things in

I am controlling it. Thats why i vnt had sex.

Ochoiho: The solutn lies in God. You said you are from a christain home but do you know Jesus personally? I mean are you born again? If your answer is no, I advise you do that first. the second thing to do will be prayer. you said you ve prayed but i want you to imagine someone inside a pit and trying to come out. you know such a one definately need help. Pls go to the nearest MFM branch for deliverance. I assure you all will be well afterward. Believe me sleeping with a girl will not help you.

lol. Am a born again and even better than straight men.

Why me

masonkz: It's one thing to have feelings, it's another thing to act on them.

I don't believe much in prayers, but I do believe in self - discipline.

Dude, if you feel you're confused and something is just not right with you, and that this feeling came upon you just cos you started watching por.n...then by all means, resist whatever urge you have. Desist from such po.rn that makes you think of such, ans maybe try dating a girl. Dating, not se.x.

If that doesn't work, don't bite yourself, and don't stay frustrated. Many gay people, due to this same pressure of getting a girl friend, have ended up being so.

Above all else, your happiness matters. Focus on other things apart from your sexual life:school, work, etc...and make sure to excel in them. If you do find the person that makes you happy along the way and that you like, whether boy or girl, do not deny yourself of that happiness.

Life is short as it is. Make good use of it.

The feeling comes when I see well built men especially ones not wearing shirt.

datalossvictim1: Op there is nothing wrong with you, nothing at all! If you are attracted to men that is perfectly fine. Please smile and stop worrying.

Both men and women.

It started with women but homosexualism is trying to exceed it.

You are 17 years old, whether Gay or Straight, sex should be the last thing on your mind. It is normal for you to be Hot at this stage, but don't get carried away. I advise you to read materials. Since you are a Christian, you can get involved with church activities, learn a sport or just keep yourself busy. I am not going to tell you how to make the feeling you have go away, I am more concerned about you not having sex. Also, being gay is not all about sex. There are lots of gay guys who live normal lives without have sex.

You should be more concerned about your career. Se.x should be the last thing on your mind. I doubt if the feelings you have would go anytime soon....just take each day as it comes. Have fun and enjoy life. There is more to life than sex....In the words of Socrates, "Know thyself"...

If you are the reading type, I have a Christian novel to share. It would explain a lot of things to you...

Forsaken:


Both men and women.

It started with women but homosexualism is trying to exceed it.

So? As long as they are within your age range or above you're alright.

Lol. It's funny how people fell for this fictitious contraption. You all have been feeding a troll.

Can't you see how he tends to reject good advice and right after, he chips in additional disgusting information to make the thread more dynamic.

Too few real issues here

datalossvictim1:

So? As long as they are within your age range or above you're alright.

ok. Tanx. Actually, i got a much active NL account and i was realli scared to post it with that account.

Tymax: Lol. It's funny how people fell for this fictitious contraption. You all have been feeding a troll.

Can't you see how he tends to reject good advice and right after, he chips in additional disgusting information to make the thread more dynamic.

Too few real issues here

Troll? How. If i want to troll, i shuld use my real account to do that.

Quit stop saying i am a troll.

lastly, dis acct avnt commented on any thread apart frm here.

I only click like button on advice i can't counter any longer.

Everyone here could give u from the worst to best advice anyone can get but in the end ,the choice lies with you, u r still 17 and if u give in now, u will just fall deeper and deeper into it,someday u going get bored of that life and start looking for a way out, I hope drugs and alcohol doesn't become your comfort then

Forsaken:


Troll? How. If i want to troll, i shuld use my real account to do that.

Quit stop saying i am a troll.

lastly, dis acct avnt commented on any thread apart frm here.

I only click like button on advice i can't counter any longer.

Troll. Your wrote a nice story. Perhaps you should start writing sreenplays for low-budgeted movies.

michaelobinna: Everyone here could give u from the worst to best advice anyone can get but in the end ,the choice lies with you, u r still 17 and if u give in now, u will just fall deeper and deeper into it,someday u going get bored of that life and start looking for a way out, I hope drugs and alcohol doesn't become your comfort then

i can't take drugs and alcohol. I haven't tasted alcohol.

Tymax:
Troll. Your wrote a nice story. Perhaps you should start writing sreenplays for low-budgeted movies.

ok

Forsaken:


i can't take drugs and alcohol. I haven't tasted alcohol.

I didn't mean now,when you go down that road and get lost and start looking for a way out

michaelobinna: I didn't mean now,when you go down that road and get lost and start looking for a way out

hmm. I still don't understand.

Lost as in?

Forsaken:

hmm. I still don't understand.

Lost as in?

simple!!! You begin sleeping with same sex and someday you get fed up or tired of such life.. And you start seeking for ways to be free and its not forthcoming, hope u don't take solace in drugs and alcohol then

michaelobinna: simple!!! You begin sleeping with same sex and someday you get fed up or tired of such life.. And you start seeking for ways to be free and its not forthcoming, hope u don't take solace in drugs and alcohol then

ok.

michaelobinna: simple!!! You begin sleeping with same sex and someday you get fed up or tired of such life.. And you start seeking for ways to be free and its not forthcoming, hope u don't take solace in drugs and alcohol then

LOOOOOOOOOOOOL

Tymax: Lol. It's funny how people fell for this fictitious contraption. You all have been feeding a troll.

Can't you see how he tends to reject good advice and right after, he chips in additional disgusting information to make the thread more dynamic.

Too few real issues here

Lol. You sound pained.

MissMeiya:

Lol. You sound pained.

He's definitely a homophobic thinking everyone choosed the lifestyle.

MissMeiya:

Lol. You sound pained.

If at your age and with your exposure, you cannot identify obvious fiction, hmmm... You are a woman. I will assume your emotions are at play.

No need to waste my time on you.

marieolae: try having sex wid a girl, u will never regret it. U will be a straight guy for life lol

I tell ya... I have the same feelingz believe me... Bt the best way to break the jinx is to feel a female and know say there should never be anything called *gay*

Dayjhihannon01: I tell ya... I have the same feelingz believe me... Bt the best way to break the jinx is to feel a female and know say there should never be anything called *gay*

hmm. Thinking of the bolded.

But, i cant do premarital sex and i am shy to engage in any relationship with a girl.