Forsaken:

i av actually had sex with a girl 4year older than me when i was below 10. Dat one mite nt be counted.

That's a start.

I can't say it's very simple but I can say it's very easy if you understand the power of positive thinking.

You have same-sex attractions but you can choose your behavior and set personal boundaries on your actions. You need to modify your habits and addictions using positive thoughts.

What does your mind speak to you when you think about it? It condemns it right? Good, that is a good way to start.

Pray and Focus on dumping that behaviour, that's all. So simple right? I will explain how it works.

"You can change who you are by changing what you say when you talk to your mind." speak to your mind what you want to be and it will manifest in your system. Focus on what you want to be(straight) because focus gives us powerful leverage over our minds. When we focus on a thought, it forces our mind to look in the direction of that thought. When you focus for a minute, you push your mind in that direction for a minute. When you consistently focus on it for weeks and months, your life moves in that direction. The focus of your mind expands into your life.

We can think only one thought at a time. When you focus on one thought(being straight), you displace all others(being gay) from your mind. Focus enables us to displace unwanted thoughts which directly or indirectly rules our actions.

Focus selects the programs that you run in your mind. When you select a program using the power of focus, you take control of your mind. And when you take control of your mind you automatically take control of your life, actions, sexuality etc

Lovexme:

To help you take your mind off men like yourself, and move it (your mind) to the permanent site (women) or girls in your case *no offense*

z dat possible? I doubt

Try and get the feeling off your head bro.


That's the best advice I can give.

You know what, men don't have breasst nor nyansh giving you more and more reasons to shake those gaddam feelings off.

Galads: what advice can a baby give to a baby? Have you seen or heard of a curb telling another curb a story on how he hunted a dear. Sweetheart, The fact that you opened ur leg early in life for a guy to straf doesn't make u mature. Pls wake up from your slumber and soon am sure seun will make you a moderator of this section.* Miss romance section*

what's all this for.my posts on Nairaland doesn't define who I am. Thankyou

Dude...you still young, you can kill the urge

A yoruba adage says "it is at small size you begin to cut the branches of Iroko tree cos when it grows, it will be out of hand"

Tallesty1: I can't say it's very simple but I can say it's very easy if you understand the power of positive thinking.

You have same-sex attractions but you can choose your behavior and set personal boundaries on your actions. You need to modify your habits and addictions using positive thoughts.

What does your mind speak to you when you think about it? It condemns it right? Good, that is a good way to start.

Pray and Focus on dumping that behaviour, that's all. So simple right? I will explain how it works.

"You can change who you are by changing what you say when you talk to your mind." speak to your mind what you want to be and it will manifest in your system. Focus on what you want to be(straight) because focus gives us powerful leverage over our minds. When we focus on a thought, it forces our mind to look in the direction of that thought. When you focus for a minute, you push your mind in that direction for a minute. When you consistently focus on it for weeks and months, your life moves in that direction. The focus of your mind expands into your life.

We can think only one thought at a time. When you focus on one thought(being straight), you displace all others(being gay) from your mind. Focus enables us to displace unwanted thoughts which directly or indirectly rules our actions.

Focus selects the programs that you run in my mind. When you select a program using the power of focus, you take control of you mind. And when you take control of your mind you automatically take control of your actions/sexuality.

My mind condemns me only when i am reasoning through theist point of view.

But, through atheist mean i.e there is no God because i am having a doubt, it doesn't.

Forsaken:

i av actually had sex with a girl 4year older than me when i was below 10. Dat one mite nt be counted.

That may be what caused your problem.

Sexual activity, not to talk of actual sex before puberty is not healthy for a childs sexual development. Btw you mentioned that you have "gay friends" why do u have gay friends, where did u meet them?

pleep: That may be what caused your problem.

Sexual activity, not to talk of actual sex before puberty is not healthy for a childs sexual development. Btw you mentioned that you have "gay friends" why do u have gay friends, where did u meet them?

i didnt mention aving gay friends. I said i try avoid gays.

I mite av gay friends, but i dnt know weda they r gay.

I avnt met gay b4 except a dude bursted back in high skul. I attended boarding skul(mixed with male and female) though i was a day student.

Galads: what advice can a baby give to a baby? Have you seen or heard of a curb telling another curb a story on how he hunted a dear. Sweetheart, The fact that you opened ur leg early in life for a guy to straf doesn't make u mature. Pls wake up from your slumber and soon am sure seun will make you a moderator of this section.* Miss romance section*

wats wrong wif u?? Every1 is entitled to his/her opinion.

Forsaken:


i didnt mention aving gay friends. I said i try avoid gays.

I mite av gay friends, but i dnt know weda they r gay.

I avnt met gay b4 except a dude bursted back in high skul. I attended boarding skul(mixed with male and female) though i was a day student.

Ok. Anyway im going to be honest with you

You will never ever ever ever ever, change your intimate desires, it may fluctuate between a stronger attraction for men/women but ur same sex attraction will never go away. Doesnt matter how hard you pray fast blabla bla its science.

The good news is you wont turn full blown gay, so if you avoid gay ppl and find urself a nice girlfriend you will be alright. its not a big deal

pleep: Ok. Anyway im going to be honest with you

You will never ever ever ever ever, change your intimate desires, it may fluctuate between a stronger attraction for men/women but ur same sex attraction will never go away. Doesnt matter how hard you pray fast blabla bla its science.

The good news is you wont turn full blown gay, so if you avoid gay ppl and find urself a nice girlfriend you will be alright. its not a big deal

hmm. I will try dat. Am a newly admitted jambite in a nigerian university.

I will tell your mummy

Jerryolumide: wats wrong wif u?? Every1 is entitled to his/her opinion.

I should ask what's wrng with you for quoting me. Did I mistakenly mention you?

Yay or nay?

Forsaken:

z dat possible? I doubt

Yes, it's not possible if you think it's not. You have to be receptive to change before you can actually be helped.

pleep: Yay or nay?

Yeah. But more interested in the ass than vagina.

Lovexme:


Yes, it's not possible if you this it's not. You have to be receptive to change before you can actually be helped.

ok

Op, your moniker sef na die. But I understand you. If you keep complaining about this, you will renain at a place. Which church do you go to? Is there no deacon there with proven integrity that you can trust to counsel you. There is something about opening up to someone who knows you and who will always demand how you are progressing in your fight against this urge. Bad habits thrive in secrecy. Kill it by opening up; not on a faceless forum as nairaland though. I'll pray for you. What's your real name?

[quote author=Forsaken][/quote] As a man thinketh in his heart, So he is..... Try to erase it from your psyche or seek a therapist like lovexme suggested......

mentorandfriend: Op, your moniker sef na die. But I understand you. If you keep complaining about this, you will renain at a place. Which church do you go to? Is there no deacon there with proven integrity that you can trust to counsel you. There is something about opening up to someone who knows you and who will always demand how you are progressing in your fight against this urge. Bad habits thrive in secrecy. Kill it by opening up; not on a faceless forum as nairaland though. I'll pray for you. What's your real name?

I cnt imagine opening up about the feeling.

I have wooed by gays on social network bt i denied being one of them bcz i cnt accept being one.

@What are you feeding your mind on?

ideology: @What are you feeding your mind on?

like?

Nl gays should help me. Hezronlorraine, goshap, gsking, brethart, masonkz etc

Forsaken: No bashing please. I don't know whether i should post it on romance or religion section, but anyone of it is better.

I am a 17years old boy who can described himself as Bisexual/curious because I am still confused.

Growing up, I never knew what is gay and i have always been attracted to females. I always get an erection whenever i see female intimate organ like breast and bottom. I came from a staunch christian background and was never really a bad boy. I never had a girl friend.

My trauma all started at the age of thirteen, i started getting an erection whenever i see handsome men or well built one. I never really understood what was happening because i don't know anything about gay sex. It all became clear to me at fifteen years when i noticed that my attraction to men is more stronger to female(though i'm still attracted to them).

To cut story short, i havent had sex with male or female or kissed anyone. But, i get more intimate urge to do men than women.

The traumatise part of it is bible opinion about homosexuality and my question is if God really destroyed sodom and gomorrah because of it, why did he still allow satan to replant the seed in his imperfect creation and still want to punish them.

address this maturely. No bashing please

U'VE ALREADY ANSWERED YOUR OWN QUESTIONS BY YOURSELF, looks to me like ur just looking for confirmation .# abeg let me sleep in peace on nl o#

marieolae: try having sex wid a girl, u will never regret it. U will be a straight guy for life lol

...he z 17 o...

uhmmn OP...yr story z sad o...BT lemme a say something...
first things first... STOP watching indecency ..whether movies or pictures.. in fact indecency of any form.
two. mind the friends u keep ...even d so called social network friends ..they don't seem ryt...
three. u grew up in a Christian home so im very sure u go to church... u ave youth or teen pastors.. find one and talk to them...dat interaction myt help better.
four. focus more on yr moral life read yr bible more ....Nd pls keep praying ..even if it seems not to work now don't stop alryt # cheers

dude it's all about acceptance and control......if u accept yourself for who u are , u don't need a God , a Pastor , friend or anybody to decide for u .....u are Gay.....so suck it and live your life ...do what makes u happy , what keeps u YOU............ ...I'm not in d best position to advice u on this
......but please learn to control yourself please .....it's d most important thing......control your sexual urge .......
I'll recommend miss meiya.........I'll also be watching from d sidelines and chip one or two things in

dude it's all about acceptance and control......if u accept yourself for who u are , u don't need a God , a Pastor , friend or anybody to decide for u .....u are Gay.....so suck it and live your life ...do what makes u happy , what keeps u YOU............ ...I'm not in d best position to advice u on this
......but please learn to control yourself please .....it's d most important thing......control your sexual urge .......
I'll recommend miss meiya.........I'll also be watching from d sidelines and chip one or two things in
u can also ask questions ....I'll try my best to reply

The solutn lies in God. You said you are from a christain home but do you know Jesus personally? I mean are you born again? If your answer is no, I advise you do that first. the second thing to do will be prayer. you said you ve prayed but i want you to imagine someone inside a pit and trying to come out. you know such a one definately need help. Pls go to the nearest MFM branch for deliverance. I assure you all will be well afterward. Believe me sleeping with a girl will not help you.

marieolae: I'm telling you something, if u have sex with a woman, that urge will go. U cant compare a vaginna to an anus na

so in your warped mind, being gay is all about an.al sex