we are both 23 year old
been dating since sec. school
both graduate
i have my business she is working in an IT firm
i can comfortable take care of her and two kids
we want to get married
both parrent say No you are too young

Hmm,u're too young!
Where are u from?

Not wrong. My grandfather married at 12

@nana Nigeria

tell me why you think its wrong, this is a relationship of 6 years now

whitelexi:

Not wrong. My grandfather married at 12

Not funny

Why are 2 so in an hurry to get married anyways? is it because you think u can aftord it?

Richguys:

Not funny

Not meant to be funny, but still true

no it is not!

next question please?!

whitelexi:

Not wrong. My grandfather married at 12

Oh My!

Hmm,i personally feel it's too early. I mean marriage is a long lasting institution that needs lots of considerations apart from the financial aspect. If u feel u're ready for it,make ur folks see reasons with u and i wish u all the very best!

tope2000:

Why are 2 so in an hurry to get married anyways? is it because you think u can aftord it?

Simple reasons
we both love each other
we have been dating for six years now
we are staying in the same apartment [ with her parent approval]
i plan to retire very early, meaning i should have kids very early
we have been doing everthing thing that is been done by couples
only the marriage certificate is missing?

Richguys:

Simple reasons
we both love each other
we have been dating for six years now
we are staying in the same apartment [ with her parent approval]
i plan to retire very early, meaning i should have kids very early
we have been doing everthing thing that is been done by couples
only the marriage certificate is missing?

Since you do all that n there is only a piece of paper remaining to show u are man n wife
why can't you wait then? whats the rush?

U want have kids early? WHY?
DO HAVE ANY IDEA HOW MUCH KIDS PUT STRAIN ON MARRIAGES? This is probably why you should wait

I say go for it.

If you're both comfortable and SURE you're ready for it. get married.

when times goes by, they'll be the same ones to say the girl is now old.

Go by your thoughts.  Good luck

whitelexi:

Not wrong. My grandfather married at 12

that was then,u can't compare that time to this time,neither will u compare d great wisdom the people of that time had to dis time

@topic

i know marriage is all about maturity,if u lot think u r matured enough for it

then who I'm i to say otherwise

tope2000:

Since you do all that n there is only a piece of paper remaining to show u are man n wife
why can't you wait then? whats the rush?

what's wrong with them getting a certificate making it legal?

How are two people too young to get married but NOT too young to live together?  

oh no you are nt too young!

KarmaMod:

what's wrong with them getting a certificate making it legal?

How are two people too young to get married but NOT too young to live together?  

He didnt say THEY LIVE TOGETHER

tope2000:

Since you do all that n there is only a piece of paper remaining to show u are man n wife
why can't you wait then? whats the rush?

U want have kids early? WHY?
DO HAVE ANY IDEA HOW MUCH KIDS PUT STRAIN ON MARRIAGES? This is probably why you should wait

I am not comfortable with anything illegal

we plan to start having kids by 25

then get married when you are 25, thatz better

whatever90:

that was then,u can't compare that time to this time,neither will u compare d great wisdom the people of that time had to this time

@topic

i know marriage is all about maturity,if u lot think u r matured enough for it

then who I'm i to say otherwise

Danke don talk am finish

tope2000:

He didnt say THEY LIVE TOGETHER

we are staying in the same apartment [ with her parent approval]

tope2000:

then get married when you are 25, thatz better

i think 25 is ok
but

She is so scare of losing me to another female
there is no better way to assure her than to marry her because she have gone through many trying times with me without complaning

Richguys:

I am not comfortable with anything illegal

we plan to start having kids by 25

Do u have what it takes to marry a woman??

A lot of guys think living together with a woman qualifies em to walk the aisle. . . .
It's a different kettle of fish, hombre. . . . .U can no longer make a decision without considering her.
U cannot go out with ur buddies anytime without putting her into consideration. . . .What about the financial aspects?
Are u mentally ready? 23 is a tad too young for a man to get married(even if u are Abramovic's first son).

KarmaMod:

Oh must have missed that

@poster
You want to do things accordingly and yet u are living together

Richguys:

i think 25 is ok
but

She is so scare of losing me to another female
there is no better way to assure her than to marry her because she have gone through many trying times with me without complaning

yeah rite

marriage shouldnt be based on pity,lack of self confident,no trust,or assurance

marriage should considered only when u both think u r ready for it,think u r d best partners for each other,and know that u wouldnt go astray after marriage

listen answer this qstions truthfully and honestly

1.are u sure u wont look outside after marrying her,because u r still young and that pumpimg blood to try out others will still be there

2.are u sure both of u walk through d same paths?

3.are u sure u can tolerate her?

my dear marriage is a journey of no return,u r in and that is it

yeah yeah divorce?no way,i don't dig that

Richguys:

i think 25 is ok
but

She is so scare of losing me to another female
there is no better way to assure her than to marry her because she have gone through many trying times with me without complaning

After 6 years!

jenny Im confused, why are you against it when you got married young yourself?

KarmaMod:

jenny I'm confused, why are you against it when you got married young yourself?

im not against it,but im just trying to make him consider smthings first,i know maturity is not age but i did not marry a 23 yr old man

if they both think they r matured about the whole thing,let thm go ahead,but they also have to see thru sm other options dat should be considered b4 tying d knots

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nana:

After 6 years!

thats more reason she is now scared

KarmaMod:

jenny I'm confused, why are you against it when you got married young yourself?

As long as the poster does not come here again and start saying another thing about their marriage then gudluck to them

I believe maturity does not have anything to do with age.
If you have what it takes to take care of her emotional needs then go ahead
Poverty has really affected our thinking in Africa.Imagine telling a 27yr old guy that he is too young for marriage
Once you have a steady source of income their is nothing stopping you from getting married.