In most cases, it’s the man in a relationship who decides he isn’t ready or doesn’t want to get married, and he makes this decision without any help from the woman.
No matter what women do, there are men who are never going to commit. Unless you recognize that, you’ve missed the whole point.
Women need to understand that there is an age when a man is ready to marry-the Age of Commitment. The age varies from man to man, but some generalizations can still be made:
Most men who graduate from tertiary institutions don’t start considering marriage as a real possibility until age twenty-six. From an unscientific point of view, one could count several examples of men who are getting married and most have fallen between the ages of 26-29.
For men who go to graduate school, be it Masters, PGD or Ph.D.(those who don’t have jobs), it takes them longer to get into the job market, and getting married sooner would require a binoculars for them to see the possibilities.
A study suggested that 90% of men who have graduated from tertiary institutions are ready for the next step between ages twenty-six and thirty-three; this is when they are most likely to consider marriage. A majority of university graduates between twenty-eight and thirty-three are in their high-commitment years and likely to propose.
This period for well-educated men lasts just a bit over five years. The chances men will commit are slightly less when they are thirty-one or thirty-two than when they were between twenty-eight and thirty, but they’re still in a high-commitment phase.
Once men reach thirty-three or thirty-four, the chances they’ll commit start to diminish, but only slightly. Until men reach thirty-seven, they remain very good prospects.
For example, when a man studies Law which takes roughly 6 years, he usually starts considering marriage around age twenty-seven or twenty-eight. That’s also the age when most doctors, who spend 7-8 years studying Medicine, start seriously thinking about marriage.
Majority of them at this point have some independence. All of a sudden, they have a nice car and an apartment and an income. They’re reluctant to even consider marriage for a few years, because they only want to enjoy women and have fun to the fullest. Many look at time spent as a carefree bachelor as a rite of passage. So for the first few years that they’re on their own, their primary goal is having fun, which translates into dating without any serious thoughts about marriage. This is why many women are in passage relationships.
One of the most common mistakes young women make is to assume that because they’re ready for marriage in their early- or mid-twenties, the men they date are, as well. If a woman is seriously trying to find a husband, she should date men who have reached the age of commitment. She can date men slightly before they reach that age, because by the time she’s gone out with a man for a year, he may have reached the point of being receptive to the idea of marriage. But this is taking a gamble that the man is typical, because the figures I’ve just given are educated estimates. Not all men mature at the same rate, and other factors can and do affect a man’s readiness to marry. Even among men who are positively inclined toward marriage and are from identical educational and socioeconomic backgrounds, some will reach the age of commitment a year or more before others, while others will only consider marriage as a real option two to four years later. So if you’re dating a man much younger than the commitment age, the chance he’ll commit is relatively small.
There’s one exception to this rule: Men and women who are seriously committed couples while still in school often get married shortly after they finish their formal education. This is usually an arrangement agreed to by the man but devised by the woman. Such couples, however, represent a very small percentage of today’s singles.
BACHELORS FOR LIFE?
It’s easy to spot a confirmed bachelor. He’s so used to living alone that he will list the pleasures of the solo life-coming and going as he pleases, not answering to anyone-as reasons for not marrying. But there’s still hope. To me, it’s easier spotting a bachelor for life than a pseudo-bachelor. Pseudo-bachelors are very sneaky and dangerous. This is one of the most common form of relationships women find themselves.
Who or what is a pseudo-bachelor? If you’re dating a man who has had one or more long-term relationships with other women and didn’t marry them, there’s a real possibility he’s a pseudo-bachelor or ‘hope bearer’. He likes having a woman, sleeping with a woman, eating with a woman, possibly sharing his life with a woman without ever making a real commitment. He often tells women, up front, he never intends to marry, so if and when he decides he wants to cut out, she has no reason to complain. However, depending on some variables, he may not tell you upfront, for example, if he considers you hot and sexy, rich and sociable…the fear of losing you too early will permeate through him.
If you think you may be involved with such a man, establish a deadline. If he doesn’t understand that, you haven’t done your job. Don’t think his affirmative response to such a declaration is a precursor to his making a commitment. He has a long list of many women along, and he may try it with you. If after six months you don’t have a firm commitment, leave.
These guys can be very dangerous. I estimate each one of them is responsible for at least 2-3 women remaining single. They are destructive because they lure women into wasting their time during the years when they are most attractive and most likely to get a proposal. They stay with women, live with women, promise them marriage, and string them on and on indefinitely…apart from different religious and personal beliefs that may set it.
Be wise, so says the sage.
PARENTS’ MARRIAGE
Another factor that determines whether a man is likely to get married is the success, or lack thereof, of his parents’ marriage. This, of course, affects women as well. A paper reported that many single men and women in their late thirties and forties were products of divorce. The difference between older children of divorce and other confirmed bachelors is their reason for not being married. Older single men whose parents had a good marriage say, “I’m not getting married because I’m not ready,” “I’m not the marrying type,” “I enjoy being single.”
Men from divorced homes do marry, but they’re a bit reluctant to do so. Often the women had to drag them to the altar. Obviously, since it plays such an important role in a man’s decision making, the marital status of a man’s parents is one of the first things you should want to find out.
This doesn’t mean men from divorced parents should be cut off. But it’s definitely one of the things you should bear in mind and ask about when you are dating a man you’re considering marrying. I can’t tell you exactly how much impact it will have on any particular man’s decision to marry, but I know it can be a big stumbling block.
SOCIOECONOMIC FACTORS
Another crucial factor that influences the chances of a couple marrying is socioeconomic mix. If both members of a dating couple come from the same or a similar background, they’re substantially more likely to get married than if their backgrounds are dissimilar.
WHEN RELIGION SURFACES
Other factors that contribute to the likelihood of a relationship leading to marriage are religious beliefs (and political persuasion). Each of these has a relative value. If a man is deeply committed to his religion, he probably won’t marry outside that religion unless the woman gives in to him on religious matters. The same goes for a woman with strong ties to a religion; her fiancé? may need to accept her faith. In some cases, this means one person converting to the other’s religion. The most common impediment to marriage is one party’s insistence that the children be raised in his or her faith. So if you’re dating someone from another religion and both of you hold your religious beliefs very strongly, it dramatically reduces the chance that you will marry.
Therefore, if you have a choice of dating two men who seem equally desirable, but one holds the same religious beliefs you do and the other doesn’t, you’re better off dating the man with beliefs similar to yours. Your chances of marrying him are much greater than your chances of marrying the other man.
So if your deeply held values and beliefs, religious or political, clash with those of your man, it’s less likely that you will wed. Think it over. People with similar beliefs and values tend to have similar outlooks on life and are usually more compatible.
LIVING AT HOME
Men who live at home with their parents are less likely to marry than men who have their own places. This is more significant in some communities than in others. In communities where circumstances make it difficult for young people to find a suitable place to live-for example, an expensive suburb where there are no rentals-it isn’t as important. Nevertheless, a man who lives alone is more likely to marry than one who lives with his parents. Men who have never lived away from home are less likely to marry than men who have. Men who have gone AWAY to university or have worked in a different city are more likely to marry than men who have never left their parents’ home.
‘DOGMA’
Another important question a woman should ask a man before getting serious is whether any of his male friends have married in the last year or so. If so, there’s a substantially higher chance that he himself will tie the knot within the next two years than if none of his buddies has recently renounced bachelorhood. There’s no need to question the fact that men play follow-the-leader when it comes to marriage.

If you wish to facilitate a trip to the altar, meet and date only the marrying kind!

This your thread na Dead Sea Scroll.

Whats even special about marriage? Marriage is the new decay in our society...

Better be single than commit to have of what you can go for.

This your post be like msc assignment

Too long