standd: @MatthewBriggs
I created this same topic with my first NL handle. And I'm seeing the same response I got back then.
I think coming from a happy home isn't even enough reasons to want a spouse like ones parent. My dad is a good man but knowing how individuals differ along several aspects, I wouldn't want to marry a man like my dad. With my kinda temperament, marrying a man like my dad will most definitely stress me a lot...

sholasholala:
Why do you want to derail this beautiful thread?

Matthewbriggs: I recently stumbled on a thread that asked the question Why are you single, that got me thinking because I have never give that question any thought. I think the reason was because I am your typical career focused young man who rarely has the time to really invest in a relationship.

Moreover I discovered also one key problem is that I am very picky. I discovered that over the years I had used a certain set of criteria to screen potential love interests criteria that where some how embedded in my subconscious. On a closer look I discovered that these criteria where identical to traits possessed my mum. Moreover it is important to note that these criteria leaned towards character and behavior and less on physical look.

For eg I detested weak women, women who needed to pushed, who cannot take initiative, and clearly do not have a clear plan and focus for life and I find my self turned on by the go getting type of woman, the ones we call strong women. The kind that does not just have the ability to plan but also has the strong will and dedication to execute on them just like or even better than my mum. I might be attracted to a woman but one's I get closer and discover she lacked these attributes no matter how beautiful she is my interest dies automatically

Now back to the purpose of this thread. To you reading this piece Especially if you are already married Did your parents character traits influence your choice of a spouse ... did who they are as an individual define your expectation in regards to your choice of spouse...

#Mathewbriggs

Enasco1: will u treat d man d way ur mum treats ur day??

didadavid:

It got you, probably because you are just like that to your wife #justsayaing

standd:

Derail kwanu!
Don't let MatthewBriggs speak English for me oh

sholasholala: I will like to marry a man who will treat me the way my Dad treats my Mum.

standd:


I love my father so much. But I will NOT marry a man like him.

daben1: she might use the sense on you n your neighbour might have a taste(if u undastand)

standd:


I love my father so much. But I will NOT marry a man like him.

Matthewbriggs:

I see ... Very true there are several diverse reasons people will not be willing to get married to someone who share same character traits like their parents and coming from an unhappy home may not be the reason.

Very well said standd. Inbtwn how are you ... hope you're good.

TrollMan:

“It got me”- As used in the sentence, it ironically defines the phrase ‘I'm sadden and moved with pity”.

Now do control that chopper and think before you vomit something senseless as this next time.

MadCow1:


I couldn't have married someone like my mum... Reason; My Mum is a very strong willed woman with serious anger issues (though she has calmed with age).


However, I developed myself to be more like my Dad.. Calm and cool cos though he was married to my sometimes very annoying mum, he never once hit her and I struggle to remember a time if ever when he raised his voice at her or was violent towards her. I chose to be like my dad cos I realized that I wanted an equally strong willed woman like my mum (without the anger) and the only way I could ever live happily with such a woman was to be like my dad..

sholasholala:
Lol.
He won't just write speak that English in one sentence but in AT LEAST 3 paragraphs.

sholasholala:
Lol.
He won't just write speak that English in one sentence but in AT LEAST 3 paragraphs.

didadavid:

You just commited a fallacy called argumentum ad hominem. You attacked the person involved and not the topic of discussion.

I used the word "probably" and didnt ascertain that you are like that.

elari: . . . Here I am, let's call ourselves dad n mum

standd:

Move aside, I am her husband on this forum...and I bite better then Suarez

sholasholala: I will like to marry a man who will treat me the way my Dad treats my Mum.

DrGroove: God forbid evil.... My dad is a wicked man..Wife beater! Can NEVER wish such evil person as my husband. My mother is too soft,nice to a fault, religious and godly, simple and caring.I don't wish my brothers marry such woman else they will kill her with beatings as they have learnt that wife beating is the standard for making a woman respect a man and proving manhood!

Matthewbriggs:

Lol If I catch you eheh.

elari: . . . Ebola bite on point. But am reasoning, can my likeness stand the bite

standd:

Move aside, I am her husband on this forum...and I bite better then Suarez