MizMyColi: Hmmmmph
That's where we're missing the point!
So those who are not virgins should keep phucking away their lives until they land Mr Right, huh?

So, this young girl, due to misinformation and other societal woes causes her to lose her virginity.
Somewhere along the line, she sobers up.
She genuinely decides to zip up, because she is convinced it's the right thing to do.

Now all things being equal in this case,
Any guy who still decides to coerce that girl into doing such (afterall he will marry her), having seen through her sincerity, has no love for her and is at best, what I'd describe as a master manipulator.

Quote me anywhere.

Virgin or not, let her be the one who gives you the dance, because you requested or she to'ally felt like it.

Not because you subtly threatened, coerced or manipulated her into it (Oh yeah, I'm that old fashioned).

Give everyone grace, especially those who are trying to make something good out of the remainder of their lives.

Apatheist: I didn't say that..

So the lying about her virginity is normal, and not manipulating? Whereas a guy that says "If you don't have sex with me you don't love me" is manipulating? Double standards much?

I totally agree...
He didn't threaten, coerce or manipulate her-- she was the one deceiving him...

Trying to "make something good" by lies and deception-- or as you call it "manipulation"?
I guess it's OK for women to do but not men.

Nooooo

You got me wrong there.

I didn't reply you based wholly on what you said about the girl.
Okay, let's take the babe out of this situation,
That's why I said, all things being equal, meaning no lies, no manipulation, just two flawed, yet amazing human beings, who are trying to make the most out of their lives

MabraO:

Bros never believe any Virgin that tell u this
She will go meet some other guys to dis V her den den come back to u
If I tell u my story u go pity me
One even had a baby as a result of the guy disVing her she come dey preach love for me

MizMyColi:


Nooooo

You got me wrong there.

I didn't reply you based wholly on what you said about the girl.
Okay, let's take the babe out of this situation,
That's why I said, all things being equal, meaning no lies, no manipulation, just two flawed, yet amazing human beings, who are trying to make the most out of their lives

MadCow1:


Fhuck her..


Never get married to a virgin girl.. NEVER!!

Apatheist:
OK...

MizMyColi:

Ishilove:
Why?

festusfeezy: For quite 8months now we ve been in love seriously, and I met her as a Virgin. she promised to do everything to prove her love for me, but never to loose her virginity till I do the necessary things. Pls nairalanders I need advice.

MadCow1:


Why you dey vex?

Ishilove:
Because you too like fhuck

Eiishhhhh
I was trying to remember this adage while writing my first post on this thread

spanzed: Do the ryt thing bro...an adage in yoruba said what you would eat and tyre..u shouldn't do dat in a haste..Nkan ti eyan yo je pe ko yi kanju je..

MizMyColi:
Eiishhhhh
I was trying to remember this adage while writing my first post on this thread

spanzed: lol..mayb B'cos u aren't a yoruba girl

MizMyColi:
Not far from the truth.

MadCow1:


But I am a virgin..

Eyop: Or Ishilove,i talk lie?

Ishilove:
Yesss. Big lie

MizMyColi:
Right in this case is relative.

But in his case, that'd be till she's ready.
Then they can do it anyhow, anystyle, anyweather.
Because, she'll be at peace with self.
Usually, in that kind of dance, it takes two to

I take it you already know by now that, having a fulfilling intimate moment with your partner is highly dependent on her emotional and psychological position at the time?

If he is questioning wether to respect her 'virginity' till marriage, it shows the Nigga is nursing a case of Acute Blue Balls..

Ishilove:
Why?

MadCow1:


If he is questioning wether to respect her 'virginity' till marriage, it shows the Nigga is nursing a case of Acute Blue Balls..

Should I or

I'd go with

From his post, seems to me they engage in pre-intimacy, now if that's the case, the "acuteness" isn't peculiar to the guy alone.
Ladies have that too, or so I've read (Can't remember the term now)
Besides, it's not dangerous to his(their) health.

OP, please pay Madcow (eiisshh, that name again) no mind......
Just keep on okay. (No Sarcasm)

MizMyColi:



Should I or

I'd go with

From his post, seems to me they engage in pre-intimacy, now if that's the case, the "acuteness" isn't peculiar to the guy alone.
Ladies have that too, or so I've read (Can't remember the term now)
Besides, it's not dangerous to his(their) health.

OP, please pay Madcow (eiisshh, that name again) no mind......
Just keep on okay. (No Sarcasm)

Did you say 'ABB' isn't detrimental to his health?

It's bad for his mental health o!

People have died from this you know.

MizMyColi: One way I'll know that a man loves me is if he respects my wishes, especially as it pertains my body.

I won't rule out the fact that there are ladies out there who have sinister motives when they say "I don't wanna get down just yet"

But there are also ladies who have very pure motives and only place an embargo on that area because of the values they've been raised with.
For some people, doing anything that upsets their core values could bring about a negative shift in their mental sanity.
It could cause undesirable effects to the relationship as a whole.

OP, I have described two scenarios above, which do you think suits her best?
From the tone of your post, I take it, it's the second one.

I know it's not easy, but please respect her wish.
Respect her wish because You love her.
Respect her wish because You have her best interest at heart.
I promise you this, you will not regret.

I have this feeling that you think she's a great blessing to you and ordinarily you wouldn't mind, save for other people's experiences & opinion.

If you still believe in honour and nobility, then you'll know that whether or not that is what she desires,
The right thing to do, if and when we can, is to abstain from sex until marriage.

I'm not saying this as an absolute, it's a case of different strokes for different folks.

We ought to have power and control over our bodies and emotions,
Not the other way round.
Let's treat our bodies and that of our partners with the respect that is due them.
No one has arrived or apprehended or has it all together on this matter,
But then.......
Where there is a will, there is a way.

MadCow1:


Did you say 'ABB' isn't detrimental to his health?

It's bad for his mental health o!

People have died from this you know.