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Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by MadCow1: 10:48am On Sep 18, 2014 |
Dcholeric: I am not against your assumptions and opinions but I would also like you to reason it the way [b]Lol @ Going by my said Wisdom.. #Cynicism does not look too good on you.. But nice try nonetheless.. Now let me step it down to basic elementary level; First of all, I didnt say I support a young lady co-habiting with a Man. Its not the 'IDEAL' 'AFRICAN' way of doing things.. (Although this in itself can be argued.. But thats for another day).. Secondly... Your analogy of trying to draw a correlation between Prostitution and 'Stealing/Robbery/Thievery' does not even begin to apply.. Whereas one is immoral, the other is criminal. I will explain further: A girl or guy who is at his/her wits end and resorts to prostitution in order to survive is simply using immoral ways to make money. They technically have not harmed anybody but themselves. Their clients are all consenting and willing participants (Customers).. I can live with the knowledge of knowing that some females out there are on the streets using their bodies to put a meal on their table.. ITS NOT RIGHT!!!! But Its still an acceptable means to an end. Nobody else's rights and freedoms are being violated.. Now a Guy or a Chick who have been pushed backs to the wall that resorts to robbery/thivery/Stealing/pick-pocketing and co to survive have resoorted to criminal ventures as a means of livelihood and this is not just immoral but also a crime. Its a crime simply because their means of livelihood violates the rights of other people. For every penny they steal, its someone elses legitimately earned penny that he /she has been disposed of forcefully and against their will.. THIS I DO NOT SUPPORT.. Now should a guy choose to suck other guys di!cks on the corner in order to feed, then my take on prostitution applies. Nw back to the matter:: Should a Young Lady choose to live with a Man that she isnt married to in other to get by, its not good but its understandble. He can 'use & dump' her same way a married Man can 'use & dump' his wife. One is called 'Heartbreak, the other Divorce'.. Same shiit if you ask me. Same way the divoircee can enter another marriage that may also fail just like the girl and the cycle continues. So at the end of the day, the one lesson here is that nothing is foolproof.. All I advocated to those hurling stones at the OP was to wait to hear her out before being overly judgemental. All our stories are very different in their own ways. All our tolerance tresholds for suffering and pain also differ. Just last week, a Liberian woman hung herself on the streets of Lagos because she was being discriminated against for being Liberian (the same nation as Nigerians Ebola patient zero; Patrick Sawyer). I am sure there are many Liberians in Nigeria and all around Africa that have faced same, but one couldnt stand it and has killed herself. Same way some people can stay on the hussle forever and never resort to prostitution no matter what, meanwhile others have for way lesser struggles. MORAL LESSON HERE:: Dont be quick to pass judgement on the next man until you can fully appreciate and understand their situation.. Thanks. [/b] 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Advice: Pls How Do I Solve This. by Dcholeric: 8:21pm On Sep 19, 2014 |
MadCow1:well I cant doubt the truth that I put myself in someone else's shoes before judging, because its a good practice, (that am guilty of) Now let's disagree once more, if someone deserves to be considered for wrong been done that same person needs to be told the truth, and that leads to some form of judgment (not necessarily harsh), expecially when that person does not even know what he/she did was bad, I mean she doesn't even know that bringing her sister to join them was not cool talk more if she even cares about her living in her boy friends crib. a man in the bible was charged more guilty than he sons for their own sins, even though he lived a holy life (elai). don't get your self there. she doesn't know, side her and tell her truth(judgment) a person is guilty By will with knowledge of the truth he/she deserves to face judgment how ever simple the judgement may be (even after considering her stands on why she did it, doesn't leave her spotless and should be told to clean herself up so she doesn't go around been proud about her spots or even add more to it) thank you more |
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