Why do some African/Black folks feel they need to give excuses for their decision for dating outside their own ethnic group or race?

Why do they feel they need to put down their own men and women as justification for their choice to date non-African/Black men and women?

Some Common Excuses Given By Some African/Black Men For Dating Non-African/Black women:

*African/Black women are arrogant, ignorant, conceited and have bad attitudes.
*African/Black women are too materialistic.
*African/Black women rejected them while (fill in the blank) women accepted them.
*African/Black women expect/demand too much.
*African/Black women don't know how to treat men.
*(Fill in the blank) women are easier and they (African/Black men) can do what they want.
*African/Black women don't have the African/Black man's back.
*African/Black women don't make beautiful babies.

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Some Common Excuses Given By Some African/Black Women For Dating Non-African/Black Men:

*Most non-African/Black men really do think the 'blacker the berry - the sweeter the juice', unlike some African/Black men who consider dark-skinned women as too black and/or ugly and worry that their kids may come out sharing the same complexion as the mother.
*African/Black men are too financially irresponsible, when it come to taking care of their kids.
*African/Black men don't treat African/Black women as well as non-African/Black men.
*Non-African/Black men don't need constant ego stroking, praise and propping up.
*Non-African/Black men don't have issues about women making more money than they do.
*Non-African/Black men don't think it's unmanly to help out around the house or babysit their own kids.
*Non-African/Black men are more affectionate and don't have a problem with showing African/Black women AND telling them they love them, whether at home OR out in public.

Something to think about...

“Real” love doesn’t need any excuse or justification. Your decision for dating men or women of other ethnic groups or races should stem from your attraction towards the person, genuine love, and respect, regardless of the color of their skin or ethnic origin. Real love is not based on past bad relationships or occurrences with men/women of your own ethnic group or race. And just so you know, non-African/Black men and women are having some of the very same issues African/Black folks are complaining about with some of their own men and women.

You can date outside of your race but you can’t escape your race. If you want to jump the fence and date non-African/Black men/women then do so. But if you have to put down your own men/women to justify your actions, your motives are questionable. When a person is sure about their choice, they won’t provide an excuse or express revulsion toward their own. To do otherwise is said to be a sure sign of self-hatred. After all, weren't you created by members of the very same ethnic group or race you are now putting down, find disgusting, revolting, bottom-of-the-barrel and not worthy of serious consideration for dating and/or marriage?

When you really think about it...what does that say about YOU?

It is annoying

Tallesty1: It is annoying

very very annoying .

Elantracey:

very very annoying .

Repulsively annoying.

FÜCKING bull shït excuses