Toks2008:


Its all twisted my guy. My point is that a lady should give a man the chance if he is strongly on to her. You are a man so u may not understand.

Obviously no man is expected to force it but if you truly love n desire that chic then she will desire u strngly. This is simple enough.

What i am saying is that ladies should love a man who truly wants them,is this hard to comprehend? Habba

Aaaah! Mo ondastandi, Alaye. (I understand, homeboy)

I have a PhD in Womantology.

Mo ondastandi baje baje. (I understand very very well)

The reality is that many of these our women (Naija ones), when they are young and good looking, or older and hot, have a stinking attitude.

When a guy that likes them approaches them, dem no dey give chance. Dem go think say "AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH! You like me? ..........You really like me? .........You are sure you like me? Okay, let me humiliate you. Let me drag you on the floor so we can see if that like it strong enough and I can feel good about myself".

Somehow, we raise dysfunctional girls with poor interpersonal and communication skills. They think it is their right to be rude and disrespectful when guys like them, and he should spend money yafun-yafun on their head for them to even associate with him. When they are attractive, the only things that makes them give a guy a chance is if he is financially well-off or somehow in their circle (education, church or they are introduced), and obviously they also do the normal bad boy seeking as youthfulness dictates. They limit their pool and hence don't even have enough pool of men with goodwill towards them to interact with or to like them as a person (beyond their beauty).

And when that beauty disappears or start disappearing, then they start looking for Holy Ghost fire to find husband. Now, they have no interpersonal skills nor the looks to offer or find one a husband. Kasala don burst.



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Toks2008:


As far as i know,no guy will understand ehat i wrote except ladies and this is why i specifically directed it to the ladies.

See guy,there is always a tilt in the scale of affection between a man and woman.

It is rarely balanced and one must love more than the other and its better for the lady if the guy has a stronger desire.

This is my point.

Your points are very clear, but unfortunately they won't listen. When I see a lady getting herself tortured in the name of loving a guy, I just pity them because I know that men are hardly moved by how much ladies love them. This is understandable because love comes with responsibilities and most women are not ready to take up such responsibilities.

Solozzo:


Good point! Yes the excessive choosy and rejecting attitude of many girls contribute a lot to their difficulties finding a mate in the future. They should also be age cautious. B/w 18 and 25 is best time to marry as pregnancies after age 35 are high risk pregnancies.

Almost well said.

I am not the one to tell anyone not to be choosy, but the stinking attitude while at it is what I would say makes me have hardly any goodwill towards most Black girls.

warrior01:

I read that your post and I must confess you are very right. From experience, the marriages last and always full of love and respect. Kudos guy

It is not full of love.

It is 3/4 full of love with half of it coming from the guy. The woman has other people she would rather give all her love to.

urhoboman:
or take a spiritual bath in the Atlantic ocean.




On a serious note, it is not a must to marry, why cant these single ladies try to be successful and Live a beautiful life?
Our society is to be blame too.

That is like telling men it is not compulsory to have sex, why don't they just w*nk.

Yes, some moderate satisfaction, but no complete fulfillment.

Sagamite:


That is like telling men it is not compulsory to have sex, why don't they just w*nk.

Yes, some moderate satisfaction, but no complete fulfillment.

They have complete fulfillment when they marry? You don't believe it, do you?

carefreewannabe:


Age structure in Nigeria: male-female ratio 2014

0-14 years: 43.2% (male 39,151,304/female 37,353,737)
15-24 years: 19.3% (male 17,486,117/female 16,732,533) --> more males
25-54 years: 30.5% (male 27,697,644/female 26,285,816) --> more males
55-64 years: 3.9% (male 3,393,631/female 3,571,301)
65 years and over: 3.1% (male 2,621,845/female 2,861,826) (2014 est.)

http://www.indexmundi.com/nigeria/demographics_profile.html


I have highlighted those age groups, in which individuals are most likely to get married.

It's time for polyandry, I guess.

There are few marriageable men.

More marriageable women (if Naija women with their attitude and personality is the guy's thing).

carefreewannabe:


They have complete fulfillment when they marry? You don't believe it, do you?

They expect to.

They have complete fuliullment when they waste money on the lavish ceremony called "wedding". It is a goal in life for many.

Sagamite:


They expect to.

True. If wishes were horses ...

They have complete fuliullment when they waste money on the lavish ceremony called "wedding". It is a goal in life for many.

Very bad investment.
I can have this kind of temporary fulfillment by eating my scrambled eggs now.
Much cheaper.

Sagamite:


There are few marriageable men.

More marriageable women (if Naija women with their attitude and personality is the guy's thing).

With the number of men you call fvcktards here on NL, I also believe that there are very few marriageable men (according to my standards).

carefreewannabe:


True. If wishes were horses ...



Very bad investment.
I can have this kind of temporary fulfillment by eating my scrambled eggs now.
Much cheaper.

Thank you.

Sagamite:


Thank you.

carefreewannabe:

Wish I could have scrambled eggs too but not a good weekend so far.

Sagamite:


Wish I could have scrambled eggs too but not a good weekend so far.

Come and have some.
I have added some onions and yellow peppers, too.

carefreewannabe:


Come and have some.
I have added some onions and yellow peppers, too.

Where is my private jet when I need it.

Any Nigerians want to sign up to my church this Sunday?

I will give you guys discount rate. I will drop from 80% tithe to 40%.

My best rates ever! Don't miss it!

Sagamite:


Where is my private jet when I need it.

Any Nigerians want to sign up to my church this Sunday?

I will give you guys discount rate. I will drop from 80% tithe to 40%.

My best rates ever! Don't miss it!

This is a good business idea, not original but efficient.

Let the ladies stop being phoney and everything will be added unto them.

Some of them think they are too good for a young man-till they re getting really old-naive myopic chicken heads.

jacabi:
May God help our women.

Amen

Toks2008:

It is rarely balanced and one must love more than the other and its better for the lady if the guy has a stronger desire.

This is my point.

It does not take a genius to know it will be better for the lady if the Guy has the stronger desire.

My question here however is of what benefit is this kind of union to Male folks?

So you mean you do (4), (13) and (15)? :


On top wetin? because i wan get husband. God forbid?
Na God do am for me easily

carefreewannabe:


This is what I said.

am lost pls help me discover and find myself.

holatin:

am lost pls help me discover and find myself.

Am not going to search for it now.

I have never understood the desperation for marriage. Are these women that do things like this so ugly or what that makes it difficult for them to get a man? Ordinary Nigerian men for that matter?

Stillfire:
I have never understood the desperation for marriage. Are these women that do things like this so ugly or what that makes it difficult for them to get a man? Ordinary Nigerian men for that matter?

Lack of employment prospects maybe?

The inability to take care of themselves?

The false belief that they will live happily ever after?

I am wondering.

carefreewannabe:


Am not going to search for it now.

at your convenience

swagloverss:
"Statistics show that only 3% of single women of marriageable age in Nigeria are undisturbed by their lack of a spouse! The other 97% would do just about anything to become Mrs. Somebody''.

As we read on, we are going to see some rather unorthodox things Nigerian women will do in their quest to bag a husband! Some are bizarre, some are skanky and some are downright sad but if you are willing to try anything and getting a husband is the only activity left on your bucket list, you might want to try a few! (Men beware).

In no particular order:

1)Snatching a friend or relation's man.
All is fair in love and war! Rumor has it that women have resorted to locking their phones, hiding their men and coding their gist from so-called friends because it's a jungle out there.

2)Re-inventing themselves.
Pretence is the order of the day. No man wants to tame the shrew or teach the inexperienced or make an honest woman out of a dishonest one so once marriage is desired, women package themselves in pseudo, ready-made, easy-to-use, highly desirable packages. After marriage, what you see is what you get!

3)Trapping with pregnancy.
This used to be the old school method of getting a man to propose. From skipping the pill to seducing the man or getting him drunk when she was ovulating, a woman usually knew she had the man where she wanted him once she missed her period even if there was no commitment. Now the guys are saying YES to baby mamas and YES to child support. Are the girls deterred? NO! The girls have stepped up their game by involving the parents and you know parents don't like scandals

4)Praying & Fasting.
This would presumably be an honorable means of obtaining a husband but sometimes the prayers are offered up to deities other than God & other times it becomes a song permanently.
Taking his photograph to Cele church for a prophetess to pray over or a powerful Alfa. Heard it works like charm.
Taking his spérm, hair or personal effects to Babalawo. Guys, disposing of your condoms yourself is not such a bad idea.

5)Outright Jazz!
My friend recently gisted me about how a tied up, live pigeon had been discovered in a friend's sister-in-law's box. The woman confessed to using jazz and said she hadn't been sure if the guy would actually propose so she took the necessary precautions.

6)Putting love potion in his food!
This is classic and timeless but shouldn't it be called a compelling potion? Because in this case, love na by force!

7)Proposing to a guy!
Yes it does happen (Who wears the engagement ring?) Toasting a man's family so they make the decision for him! A friend complained that a girl he detested had over the months gotten close to his family. Lavishing on them, cooking for them and basically being their go-to girl and now his mum had put her foot down that he had to break up with his girlfriend and marry little-miss-went-home-to-mama depending on how much power the family wields, their word may be final.

Asking daddy to get them a husband!
If daddy's a big shot, arranging a husband for you is usually as easy as pie and some men would sell their souls for a large chunk of daddy's money so both parties are happy.

9)Being the man's maga!
Some women believe that when you finally get a man to be interested in you, spoiling him and overlooking his every fault would get you into a white gown faster than an okada. Some men don't mind a woman who houses them, clothes them, feeds them, gives them pocket money, never gets upset with them even when they misbehave and cleans up after them with little or no contribution from them living the dream

10)Giving him unlimited freedom.
Tell me I am number one baby; tell me I am the future mother of your kids and not Amina, Bisi or Ngozi. Women used to want to be the one AND ONLY in their man's life, now being the number one is good enough.

11)Polishing up a low class, barely educated brother in exchange for a ring!
The deal is simple, you send your cleaner, gateman or driver to night school, you give him language lessons, you take him to buy some new clothes and deodorant and teach him to call you honey instead of madam and in exchange, he gets to marry you, share an expensive bedroom and never worry about his bills ever again!

12)Revamping you.
Change your wardrobe, lose 20kg, buy a truckload of Brazilian hair, study the karma-sutra, do an angioplasty and change the age on your birth-certificate to read 22. Botox, plastic surgery, a compulsory gym membership and a body magic also indicated!

13)Becoming a worker in church!
Rumour has it that men go to church to marry, the same rumour also reveals that Greeters Ushers and Lead Soloists have the best exposure. Praise the Lord!

14)Moving to a new town or part of town
This always peaks the men's interest and at the same time you get to run away from your past and the old maid labels!

15)Going for deliverance
Going for deliverance from a spirit husband and sowing a big marriage seed in church! Giving your possessions to the poor, giving a sacrificial offering or just giving one thing to God that would make you weep.

16)Abandoning hopes, dreams and ambitions!
I've heard people say that women looking for a prince charming live unrealistic dreams, virgins are old-school, overly educated women are proud, rich women are not submissive, ambitious women are conceited, women with demanding jobs won't have time for their families, women who want a faithful man are deluded and women who don't get pregnant before wedlock have something wrong with their plumbing! So forsake the masters, don't even dream of a PhD, quit your job, give away all your money and surely a husband will come.

17)Outright Desperation
And if all the above fails, they marry a married man!
He could be your friend's husband, your sister's husband, your cousin's husband, your colleague's husband, even your mother's husband if possible.

Can you blame these women? The average guy has commitment phobia or is out to play till he is all spent before he settles down or is waiting to make his first 5 million before saying I do. Even a man with no future ambition or class, much less finances still knows he could have his pick of the best women out there, once he announces he is looking to settle!

''The last census showed a female-dominated demographic with more women per eligible bachelor.
Family and society constantly put the woman in hot water making her personal successes irrelevant till she bags a man''.

Some guys are even gay! Lol therefore further reducing the population of eligibible bachelors!

continentalceo:


Some guys are even gay! Lol therefore further reducing the population of eligibible bachelors!

Some women are lesbians. Equation.

carefreewannabe:


Lack of employment prospects maybe?

The inability to take care of themselves?

The false belief that they will live happily ever after?

I am wondering.

Reminds me of this clip.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RUKEp2_QbiA[/img]

Stillfire:


Reminds me of this clip.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RUKEp2_QbiA[/img]

Though I feel for women in such situations, I really can't stop laughing now. My belle oooo

carefreewannabe:


Though I feel for women in such situations, I really can't stop laughing now. My belle oooo

Lol.

ROTFLMAO !!!!!!!!!

Sagamite:


Aaaah! Mo ondastandi, Alaye. (I understand, homeboy)

I have a PhD in Womantology.

Mo ondastandi baje baje. (I understand very very well)

The reality is that many of these our women (Naija ones), when they are young and good looking, or older and hot, have a stinking attitude.

When a guy that likes them approaches them, dem no dey give chance. Dem go think say "AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH! You like me? ..........You really like me? .........You are sure you like me? Okay, let me humiliate you. Let me drag you on the floor so we can see if that like it strong enough and I can feel good about myself".

Somehow, we raise dysfunctional girls with poor interpersonal and communication skills. They think it is their right to be rude and disrespectful when guys like them, and he should spend money yafun-yafun on their head for them to even associate with him. When they are attractive, the only things that makes them give a guy a chance is if he is financially well-off or somehow in their circle (education, church or they are introduced), and obviously they also do the normal bad boy seeking as youthfulness dictates. They limit their pool and hence don't even have enough pool of men with goodwill towards them to interact with or to like them as a person (beyond their beauty).

And when that beauty disappears or start disappearing, then they start looking for Holy Ghost fire to find husband. Now, they have no interpersonal skills nor the looks to offer or find one a husband. Kasala don burst.



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