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Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by cococandy(f): 11:11am On Oct 05, 2014 |
She's lucky I don't insult women. In fact I don't insult people except for a few hand-picked NL guys. I would have given her serious asss whupping this morning for calling me a butt licker when my very first post on this thread told the OP harsh unvarnished truth. Hollandis wrapper go and sin no more (Work on your attitude too. You need it as much as the OP) carefreewannabe: 2 Likes |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by khiaa(f): 11:12am On Oct 05, 2014 |
Funny how the op left and never came back to her own thread. Come back op, I want you to explain some things. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by hollandis(f): 11:13am On Oct 05, 2014 |
Everyone gets dumped all the time,it means that person is not the right fit for marriage,but someone in marriage who WANTS to disobey is an aberration carefreewannabe: 2 Likes |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by hollandis(f): 11:16am On Oct 05, 2014 |
cococandy: Hahaha,i am just a truth sayer 1 Like |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by kay29000(m): 11:18am On Oct 05, 2014 |
hollandis: Ofcos I will be angry at her, but the thing is I would have noticed it before marriage and probably wont have married her anyway. But I am really not the commanding/controling type, that's why I answered the lady the way I did. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by braine(m): 12:07pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
vfactor: True that. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 12:21pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
paradoxqueen: Your husband is the foolish one,he should know your upbringing differs from ours,he is supposed to take thing easy. Here in africa,a man pays dowry on a woman,did he pay your dowry?if not,tell him to pay your dowry then you will obey. Here in africa,the man as head of the family,provide shelter,feeding,clothing and other things for the wife. Does he provide these needs for you?if not,tell him to start doing so then you will obey. You have marrid a typical african,as you dont wish for divorce,then you will bend your personal rule to allow peaceful home, marriage is sacrifice. Men are feeble being,by the time you obey him,he will develop soft spot and begin to hear your opinion. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 12:39pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
hollandis: I don't get dumped all the time. 1 Like |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 12:41pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:You all should be fair towards the lady,consider that she comes fromm liberal society,where parents dont enforce but deliberate with the kid. A kid can tell the parents,dont b silly or shutup,can an African kid try such. The man is to be blamed |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 12:42pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
hollandis:Madam easy na |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 12:43pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
samisparkle24: We are only teaching her good behavior the good old harsh African way. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 12:46pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
hollandis: You are so mean,gush. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 12:48pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
hollandis: Lady,go and sleep. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 12:50pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
hollandis:Am sensing inferiority complex here 1 Like |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Misogynist2014(m): 1:02pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
paradoxqueen:Proof that this post is about you or I don't ................... |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by helen4(f): 1:35pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
@op. Has he woke up one morning and ask u to kneel down and greet him or hold-up bowl of water for him to wash his hands? If not then you're the issue. Men love to be obeyed. Obedience to them is as simple as agreement and understanding. Marriage is about you and him, not the other way round, whatever you desire to do has to be centralized on both of you. Since u've identify ur problems, work towards the solution. Drop ur only-me attitude and work on yourself. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by bukatyne(f): 1:48pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
paradoxqueen: What kind of desires are you talking about? Please give examples You can also go through this thread https://www.nairaland.com/1933513/love-submission |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 1:54pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
paradoxqueen: Are you not the same lady that married that guy 2 months after meeting him? Hehehe! I'm sorry to say, your marriage was doomed before it even begun. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by helen4(f): 2:02pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Pdude. That is too harsh ok. 1 Like |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by dmz(m): 2:22pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Is his opinion usually flawed, wrong, self centered? If yes I suggest you stick to your guns. If his reasoning is logically sound, right and it's in the best interest of the family then I suggest you don't see it as submission, see it as doing the right thing and his opinion/idea/suggestion at that time is the best way forward. You are not a tamed dog that should be led around like you have nothing to offer. You are a woman of substance and that includes recognising when another is right and when your opinion might be good for you but not for the family. 2 Likes |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Natascha(f): 2:25pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Obey him for what? Are you his child? Voetsjek! Let him go to hell! Idiot, backward thinking fool. 1 Like |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Richy4(m): 2:27pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
All I read is just Obey! obey!! Obey!!!.in this horrible write up haba!!!!!! If you don't want to be submissive, oya waka on time abeg instead of wasting his time so that he can find someone that can be level headed. I have seen alot of white ladies that married to Nigerian. they are very cool and level headed. not that he was putting rope on your neck as a slave or asking you to go for circumcision. he was only looking for a little bit of respect and submission in the home both of you are living. Please leave. I am begging you now. i can go to African shop, Buy you cola-nut and email it to you just for you to live him alone so that he can plan his life now since you vowed never to obey. 1 Like |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 3:15pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
paradoxqueen:Then you should have dated him well enough to know if your personalities compliment each other. The word you should be using is submission not obedience because you are not a child. I can't give any advice cause i don't have the slightest clue about that 'obedience' your husband keeps harping on. It's your marriage- you have to sort it out on your own. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Ucheosefoh(m): 5:01pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
paradoxqueen:A quote from pDude pDude:www.nairaland.com/1550223/how.do-boost-drive PDude saw it coming 1 Like |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 5:50pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Ucheosefoh: I sure did |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 5:51pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
helen4: The truth was never a chocolate flavored pill |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by helen4(f): 5:59pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
@pdude. NSOMIN |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Ishilove: 6:17pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
paradoxqueen:This woman you don't know what you are doing. You seriously have a problem. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 6:30pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
hollandis:hum humm.dEar wateva ur name is...after reading your posts, i have come to a conclusion that you are 50 plus 50 times more foolish nd FOOLISHER than the op..and pls dont mess wiv me..#JUst obey..takia frnd |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by tintingz(m): 6:59pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
samisparkle24:Did you read her post? Even If she marry a white guy and she continue with these me-and-me attitude, the marriage won't last. |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by lolaluv1(f): 7:25pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
alutacontinua: Thank you. I don't believe this BS for a hot second. Which white woman types like this? Abegi! 1 Like |
Re: Husband Wants To End Marriage Because I Don't Obey.... What To Do? by Nobody: 7:28pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
samisparkle24: Interesting perspective! |
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