hollandis:

Then good luck .I know you are feminist ,but you are heading the way for divorce

PapaNnamdi:
*cleans face with handkerchief*
phew wat an epistle
d bible says...
obedience is better thannnnnn...........

anyways, i hav no idea whatsoever
i just came to read comments.
u remind me of someone though with a similar scenario,

carefreewannabe:

Please!
She is not a feminist. She is just spoilt and selfish or maybe a spoilt, selfish feminist.

hollandis:


A Sensible white guy will never marry this kind of woman.I am sure she has a stuppid job that pays the bills,maybe one of those care home jobs where they wear uniforms ,i have nothinf against those kind of jobs but to be boastful about it is really irritating.I also know she has no college or university degree because her written english is appaling

carefreewannabe:


Please!

She is not a feminist. She is just spoilt and selfish or maybe a spoilt, selfish feminist.

paradoxqueen:
Hello,

To start with I am a white American woman and my husband is Nigerian. We have been married for almost a year. Anyways my husband claims to be frustrated with me disobeying. Frustrated enough he left and went back to Nigeria but returned after a little more then a week.
Now most of the time i don't think in my mind think to just obey him. What he says or we talk about well to me is only his opinion. I don't see anyone as authority to obey. I see people as people with opinions. My personality also contributes to this problem because i am spoiled, spontaneous, and well my husband says i think too much of myself... I say he doesnt think enough. I am not a disciplined person... I have lived my life doing what i want when i want and how i want.
Then other times i will very clearly purposely obey him. However.i only do this if he has upset me so that we may both be bothered and these times i clearly intend to anger him and frustrate him.
Now i have a problem that he wants me to obey him. I have several problems with this.... 1. I can't obey... I can Try.... But its not in me. 2. When we married our vows were messed up so i feel that is my escape clause that prevents me from really having to up hold to the martial vows. But most of all I just can't obey him. I could name many reasons why i won't or can't but i know myself well enough to know there is no situation with anyone i am going to obey.... Its just me...
Now my real problem is he is threatening to terminate the marriage if i don't obey... And i know he will.
I don't want the marriage to end but i don't want to obey him. And its probably easy to say obey him if i don't want it to end but i can't obey i don't know how and i don't even knowmost of the time when he expects me to i think he is just giving an opinion as no one not even my father would ask let alone demand me to obey.
So does anyone have anything they know i can do or any way i can alert.his mind on this obey thing?

hollandis:
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She is fat and fugly

carefreewannabe:


Only a desperate or insecure white guy will marry a girl with this kind of attitude or a white guy with masochist tendencies.

carefreewannabe:


How do you know?

hollandis:
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She is fat and fugly

hollandis:


I agree,she must be unattractive physically and personality-wise.

Btw do you realize we are the only 2,saying the truth on this thread ,the remaining people are just butt-lickers

alutacontinua:
Which village are you typing from?

paradoxqueen:
Why i mention i am white is not out of superiority its because if someone reading knows much about Americans they know black American and white American carry a different culture/view/raising.

carefreewannabe:


How do you know?

hollandis:


This is easy to know.

Ok,i dont know the fugly part,but she is fat.

I am in America,I know when a fat woman is lamenting,also there are a lot of alert signals she is giving out

carefreewannabe:


You don't know if she is ugly and you don't know if she is fat.

hollandis:


Believe me ,she is fat.I have fat friends and this is how they talk.
I want her to debunk the claim that she is fat.

I have nothing against fat people but to be fat and WILFULLY disobedient especially as a wife to your husband is entirely disguisting and rebarbative

carefreewannabe:


Listen, I am slim but it irritates me how you talk about thick people so please stop it or continue but don't quote me. Thank you.

kay29000:
Well, the problem is that we have different cultures. If you want to keep your man you have to bend your rules a bit to fit his beliefs that a woman must always obey her husband. But, didn't u guys talk about all these before marriage? Didn't you go through courtship? If you did, you would have noticed the differences before tying the knot.

hollandis:


This is easy to know.

Ok,i dont know the fugly part,but she is fat.

I am in America,I know when a fat woman is lamenting,also there are a lot of alert signals she is giving out

hollandis:


I dont fuccking care whether you are slim or fat ,i told you i have fat friends.Her fat asss is disguisting because she is disobedient and is proud about that.She knows where her fault is.I will never give a bad person a good name

1.She is fat
2.She is probably unattractive
3.She has a fuckiing bad attitude

cococandy:
So what if she's fat?
Does her size or her looks have anything to do with her needing advice?

hollandis:

Hahaha am in the mood today

Are you also a divorcee?
I see a lot of fat women with mulatto kids in baby strollers,she will soon join the band waggon

carefreewannabe:


You have a very nice personality. Nicer than that of the OP.

carefreewannabe:


You have a very nice personality. Nicer than that of the OP.


#irony

cococandy:
You're in the mood for what?

Typing jargons?

hollandis:


You know why i hate Nigerian men like you? Because you are a butt licker.

Why are you giving this woman a face saving passage?

Why cant you just fuccking say the truth?

If you wife happens to do thiss to you,what would you do?thats the kind of mentality you should have when reacting to threadslike this

hollandis:


No,Am in the mood for butt lickets

If it were to be a black woman ,you would all crucify her because of her skin color.

cococandy:
The sarcasm is lost on her

cococandy:
So did you see anybody here praising her attitude or failing to tell her the problem is from her?

Did a white woman steal your boyfriend?

kay29000:


Madam, have I ever offended you before? Haba! Why the negetivity...why the vexation? lol! I clearly stated that she should bend her rules to fit her husband's if she wanted to keep him. And I also asked if they didn't notice this difference before getting married. You want me to answer how I know 90% of Nairaland guys would answer?