We met around April and We've been friends since then. I'm an introvert person but she still manged to get very close to me and I told her things I've never told anyone. How she did it? , I don't know.


Slowly slowly , I began to like her. She's not the prettiest lady I've met but she's hardworking and not materialistic , that's what made me like her the more.

I asked her out around june , but she told me she's not interested in a relationship. She told me she likes me , but she's not ready to date any guy or be in a relationship for now.

I thought she had another guy that she didn't want to tell me about , but her closest friend told me that she's not dating anyone. She's just not ready for a relationship.


I told her I will wait till she's ready and she said it's okay.


Its about 5months now since I asked her out and she still hasn't agreed. But she's not dating anyone.. Each day that passes by , I feel like this will never happen between us and that I'm just wasting my time.

I need your advise.. Should I still wait or should I just Forget Her?

How old are you?

LEERICIST:
How old are you?

What's has my age got to do with this?

hmm, this one hard o. how old are u? if u are still very young, then u can wait.. but not too long coz some girls nowadays, they will keep u waiting.. and might be dating someone else secretly that girl might be dating someone else that even her friend might not tell u, maybe the relationship is rocky, and she's looking for a backup in case they breakup.. so be careful. but if ur not young and u wanna settle down quickly, find someone else. good luck

Wittylens:



What's has my age got to do with this?

OP, answer 1st!

If you are blessed with time, why not wait? If you chose not to, what would you do otherwise? As long as your friendship is not marred by this action of yours, hope for the best while building new ground and not forgetting conquered ground.

You are not "handsome" or may be tall enough for her.
Kpele just move on

kaylechy:


OP, answer 1st!

You don't expect me to say my age publicly , Do you?


Tell me yours first

3cycle:
You are not "handsome" or may be tall enough for her.
Kpele just move on

Lol. I'm taller than everyone in your family.

Wittylens:



Lol. I'm taller than everyone in your family.

Ok. May be You are just too tall for her then

3cycle:

Ok. May be You are just too tall for her then

Perhaps

@ op. Learn to let things slide. You don't have to honour an insults with one, after all na u need help. Shalom.

smartigo:
@ op. Learn to let things slide. You don't have to honour an insults with one, after all na u need help. Shalom.

Insults? I don't remember insulting anyone.

EroticAngelina:
hmm, this one hard o. how old are u? if u are still very young, then u can wait.. but not too long coz some girls nowadays, they will keep u waiting.. and might be dating someone else secretly that girl might be dating someone else that even her friend might not tell u, maybe the relationship is rocky, and she's looking for a backup in case they breakup.. so be careful. but if ur not young and u wanna settle down quickly, find someone else. good luck

True talk

LadyCaty:


True talk

thanks

You have been friend zoned. BTW is your name Patience? Five whole months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

u see.....
If you want a serious relationship, you'll need to put your time and energy in a place and person that is ready, available and equally willing – otherwise you shoot yourself in the foot and potentially interrupt someone's healing journey in unforgivable or simply painful ways.

If she's that important to you, it's best to tell her about it and then let her be. Don't pressure her and don't pretend your intentions are less than you know they are. Otherwise you might just be stuck in friend territory forever, and on the short end of the stick.

Don't worry, you're going to find someone great that's available -- and that will be a journey worth going on.

It's obvious the lady must have some emotional baggage she's dealing with. She must have been through hurt or something of that nature in the past either in her family or other relationships in the past. Certainly you can't force her into a relationship with you given her emotional state of mind. There's nothing you can do about it. Just leave her alone and find someone else.

friends to the zone

There is still tym OP, she plans to friendzone u for at least 3yrs. So when ur feelings for her starts to die down, dat is wen her own eyes will open n she wil notice she ws naked al dis while.....

One of many reasons u need to improve ur personality..
Being an Introvert sucks..
Believe me...
V been there before..

Is there any guarantee that she will accept your proposal when her right times comes?
For how long will you continue waiting for her?
What if after wasting your time waiting and something strange suddenly happen along the way like, one of you to change location to a far place or she should eventually die be call back home to the creator? Time wasted in vain right?