adepink:
I will advice u to free the lady in Q since u r not in love with her. I wanted to say that u shd give it time so that d relationship will grow but strolling down, I discovered u both have being dating since 2012. its obvious u don't love her.
besides if u don't let go, u might not be able to start something new with some1 else. n d longer u continue d relationship, it becomes more complicated to end it. remember u r wasting her precious time.
above all, pray to God for direction

babystathopoulos:
Knowing your personality would help in making your decision
Are you hot temperd? Get easily irritated?
If No, then you may learn to love her
But if yes, its better you are the one who is much in love, cos it doesn't get better..

LOVE is the bedrock of a fun and lasting union, both party must feel it naturally

You said you don't LOVE HER eh! After 2+years, how did you start a relationship with someone who didn't ve feelings for?? OR the feelings has diminished
You said she is a GOOD person so what's wrong with her too FAT or UGLY ?? There are obvously some things you desire in a woman that she doesn't have, try and list them out truthfully.. This will help determine whether you should hold on or free her for someone who would fall in love with her

Last bullet: have you ever love any other woman before?

Truckpusher:
What's amusing you? miss Khukhi.

drnoel:


HEre is were weighing comes in handy. U have to weigh the two ladies, measure them without bias and decide like a man

temigracie:



.....Why should he weigh them??....Weighing and comparing them wont make him fall inlove with her....Neither will it reduce his love for the other woman.......

....I dont know........Guys prefer ladies they love even if she cant hold a candle to the woman who loves them deeply and truely.....

....Let me use my case as reference, my ex-bf always told me he knows he'll never find someone who'll love him the way I did....Yet he still let me go....Through-out when we were dragging the break-up issue, his parents and siblings stood by me (twas so unusual),....Perhaps they saw something special in me.....They had no choice than to let go since their son is hell-bent on dating some-one he loves

...Fortunately for him, his current gf is simply not dancing to his tune atall....I guess she gives him extra wahala and pain in the ass....Of which I made sure he was always happy.....To him, he is satisfied he is with the woman he loves, to him he loves her despite all the flaws she has and I never had......

..let this nigga follow the woman he loves......Let him not waste the wonderful and priceless womanLs time and energy...Better guys are out there for her.....who'll appreciate her worth...

..There's a particular yoruba adage, that says 'Oogun taaba fowo ra, eeyin aaro longbe'....

....Finding love nowadays is really hard, girls and guys are no longer smiling.....How many babes doesnt want ready-made men??....How many babes will love you despite the fact that you are broke??....How many babes are willing to suffer with their fiance before making it??....Tell me, who will stand by you and gives you a shoulder to cry on when you are in pain??....Its only a woman who loves you tirelessly....

temigracie:



.....Why should he weigh them??....Weighing and comparing them wont make him fall inlove with her....Neither will it reduce his love for the other woman.......

....I dont know........Guys prefer ladies they love even if she cant hold a candle to the woman who loves them deeply and truely.....

....Let me use my case as reference, my ex-bf always told me he knows he'll never find someone who'll love him the way I did....Yet he still let me go....Through-out when we were dragging the break-up issue, his parents and siblings stood by me (twas so unusual),....Perhaps they saw something special in me.....They had no choice than to let go since their son is hell-bent on dating some-one he loves

...Fortunately for him, his current gf is simply not dancing to his tune atall....I guess she gives him extra wahala and pain in the ass....Of which I made sure he was always happy.....To him, he is satisfied he is with the woman he loves, to him he loves her despite all the flaws she has and I never had......

..let this nigga follow the woman he loves......Let him not waste the wonderful and priceless womanLs time and energy...Better guys are out there for her.....who'll appreciate her worth...

..There's a particular yoruba adage, that says 'Oogun taaba fowo ra, eeyin aaro longbe'....

....Finding love nowadays is really hard, girls and guys are no longer smiling.....How many babes doesnt want ready-made men??....How many babes will love you despite the fact that you are broke??....How many babes are willing to suffer with their fiance before making it??....Tell me, who will stand by you and gives you a shoulder to cry on when you are in pain??....Its only a woman who loves you tirelessly....

Joycomethnow:
Wow!!! Thank you very much for this wonderful contribution.However, I would want to state clearly and sincerely that it is only this particular lady that is in the picture, am not dating any other lady neither am I inlove with another lady, its just her, yet its not just working out.

dnacrystal:
The question is does the lady you love also love
you? You can't force her to marry you if she doesn't, neither can the Lady you don't love force you to marry her. You may have to look elsewhere entirely.

Joycomethnow:
I don't love this lady, but she loves me so much. Although I have tried all I could to love her back, but is not just working out. right down in my heart I know that I don't love her neither do I love any other lady somewhere. Recently, I started thinking marriage...but am confuse right now

Joycomethnow:
the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth is that am not inlove with any other lady, am not dating any other lady, she is the only one in my life yet the love is not just there for her.

Godditex:
Op just let her go! I was in a similar situation with a lady and we dated for 4 years. She was loving, loyal, faithful and above all..... I DISVIRGINED HER.....I tried to reciprocate her love, but it didn't flow naturally from me. I wasn't happy with myself since I see her as my future wife. I endured the relationship to avoid losing her to preys (bad guys).

You know what? It was this same lady that put me through the greatest mess I have ever been into just this year. It was obvious that she can't be pitied anymore. After our break up, I found a lady that am so happy with. My feelings flow naturally, no pretence, no pity or one-sided love.

NB: Don't date or marry a lady because of pity otherwise, you will live to regret. Let her go and believe me, that would be the best decision you've ever make.

Joycomethnow:
I don't love this lady, but she loves me so much. Although I have tried all I could to love her back, but is not just working out. right down in my heart I know that I don't love her neither do I love any other lady somewhere. Recently, I started thinking marriage...but am confuse right now

Joycomethnow:
Please I need matured advice... the situation is quite complex

khukhi:
Marry the woman that you love. Its absolute torture to tolerate someone for the sake of pleasing them.

Joycomethnow:
Yes I have been in love before ,that was long before I met her

xtervaganza:
I'll say marry the lady that loves you





You won't regret it

LEERICIST:
Marry the lady you love and loves you too.

flexshop:
[size=18pt]mr man, be wise. You are a. Man, forget about love, its better the woman loves you than you loving her. Forget these 21st century wannabbes, if you loose that lady, you are on your own.I don talk my own[/size]

Joycomethnow:
You are right, she is good ...infact she can go out of her way to please me...yet I don't love her.neither do I love any other lady somewhere...

Meggy007:


Op, I'm almost insimilat sh!! Right now. Dude likes me like a lat...I guess.... since he's willing to do almost to make me smile. Truth is I don't even feel 20% of what he feels towards me. And I'm not inlike/love with anyone anywhere else. I feel for him though so I'm doing my best to make him SEE he's catching all the feeling alone.

Marriage is not dating. Its serious business. Friendship/love/understanding whichever you chose to call it, is almost if not more important that money. When crisis comes its what'll keep you both running. So if anyone feel its 'secure' to marry someone who loves you, whom yu don't love in return, that person needs to grow the hell up. I hope you follow.

Joycomethnow:
My dear, thank you for your insightful contribution, ofcourse I understood your point.

flexshop:


[size=14pt]Yes, marriage is a serious business, that is why you should use your head and make a good decision. Your partner can determine your lifespan to an extent. If you are sure of the womans undoubtable love, marry her. In future, you will say its my decision, I'll live with it. But if you marry someone you love and the person doesn't love you back, my friend that is a one way ticket to hell.who would you even blame. In a normal world, you expect to marry someone who you love and who loves you back equally, but in a time like this, you have to take a leap of faith and do the right thing.marry the person who loves you[/size]

dnacrystal:
The question is does the lady you love also love
you? You can't force her to marry you if she doesn't, neither can the Lady you don't love force you to marry her. You may have to look elsewhere entirely.