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A Letter To The Single Ladies by kentozybee(m): 10:03pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
After my letter to the single guys, people asked fr d female version it's here A Letter To Single Ladies Greetings to you the most adorable paragon of God's creature. A rare jewel and the mother of life. I write this letter to you to understand some important things that are of great importance to your life and future in which negligence to these would cause you more harm than good. Please spare me some little time to read through. I promise not to bore you through this piece. It won't be lengthy, I promise! My first major concern is about your dressing. I know it's not all of you that has issue with this. See, you don't need to show us your cleavage or the details of your body by wearing that tight fitted clothes. Your dressing will determine how you're addressed and who will approach you. Some men are 'weaker vessels', when they see your revealing clothes, they commit fornication and lust in their heart. Endeavor not to be a reason for such men to commit sin. We know beautiful ladies. It is not until you wear that heavy make-up before you look good. Real men don't place much emphasis on looks but we are much concerned about what you can offer us as a wife, a mother, a friend and a suitable help meet. Take time to build your 'content' (character, strength, passion) rather than place so much emphasis on your looks. Real men marry ladies that have great contents but playboys and gold diggers are so crazy about your looks. Being moderate looks great with! No man can love you better if you fail to love yourself so well. This is not pride but self-esteem. Raise your standards so that you can sieve out 'ordinary' men. It takes a strong man with vision and purpose to approach a strong woman. Become one! Don't be managed but be celebrated and adored. Someone of you don't understand the word called love. Most of you are emotional. Easily aroused by sweet lies and empty clatterings that some guys use. Love is not only in word, frequent calls, chatting, text messages or 'false' care so as to get you in bed. It is practical - in sacrifice and commitment. Love isn't that butterfly feelings you have. Love is all about making wise decision on who you'd commit your heart to in love. This will determine your peace of mind and happiness, now and in the future. Look before you leap! Don't let feelings drive you into a relationship because it is temporal and would change overtime. It is only when you are ready to make that decision based on some carefully considered factors that you should start a love relationship. You may not accept this, but it's the truth. It is not a must that you should be in a relationship when you are not ready for marriage. Yes! Any relationship that doesn't add value to you will take away something valuable from you. Many of you, due to loneliness, intimidation or desperation entered into a relationship, only to bite your finger in the long run. This would make you to say all men are wicked. Not so my dear. Some of us would treat you the way we'd treat our mothers and sisters. As a single lady, God has completely made you, if you know this truth. No man, I repeat, no man can make you complete. You have a brain and a functioning mind. Your completeness lies in getting a life and building it. Get a career - pursue it! Or learn a trade - gain expertise! It's somehow sad that most of you fall victim of premarital sex because you attach sex to love. A man can have sex with you without loving you, tomorrow, he's gone with other ladies. He'd even deny ever knowing you. Treasure your dignity. A real man will not culture you for sex but would bring out the best in you. Rather than become a mother by circumstance, take your time to become a mother by choice. You will bear the consequences alone if you allow a man to have sex with you without paying any bridal price. Nursing the baby alone, delay in your plans and progress in life and the pain of motherhood which you didn't prepare for are the things you won't want to bear. I still have more to say, but I'll will sum up this letter by quoting a Nigerian Proverb; "Many words won't fill the gourd, only adhere to that which has been said". I hope you'd consider all these points I've listed. Do so and be wise! 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by Jnrbayerno(m): 10:40pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
Nice one bro |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by LadyCaty(f): 10:44pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
Op thumbs up..nyc 1 |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by passionate88: 10:47pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
A rare jewel and the mother of life.You sure?.. Some ladies na MOTHER of death o.. 1 Like |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by Rutheby(f): 10:56pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
Wow.... Twale to you Op |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by answerme(f): 1:31am On Oct 18, 2014 |
Nice Post.God bless you. |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by bukatyne(f): 2:01am On Oct 18, 2014 |
A very nice one OP. |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by Luckygurl(f): 2:18am On Oct 18, 2014 |
Lets strive to be the best we can ever be, Strive to fully equip ourselves for the journey ahead, Strive to be an asset not a liability, Strive to make the world a better place beginning from that little corner where we are, All other good things of life comes crawling at our feet seeking for our attention. 3 Likes |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by MisterLongman(m): 2:51am On Oct 18, 2014 |
Cool write-up..... In addition, ladies should stop using their inner globe-like eyes to scan a guy's pocket before considering him..... Your man's wealth is not yours. Work hard and be successful in whatever you set out to do instead of thinking that the only way to get to the top is riding on a man's shoulders. Be intelligent, independent and industrious, above all be the best you can be. Neyo's "miss independent" is the perfect description of the kind of woman I want 2 Likes |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by onstelly(f): 3:01am On Oct 18, 2014 |
Beautiful piece |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by mumumugu(m): 4:46am On Oct 18, 2014 |
Remix |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by imsuboi(m): 5:17am On Oct 18, 2014 |
hmm. Is this write up for naija females? I think not. OP. A typical naija female would come here, read this your lengthy juicy post, say some nice stuff like "Wow. Nice write up" & still open up her legs to the next dude that comes around with a flashy ride & some dough to blow. I don't mean to generalize sha, but head to either PH or Owerri then you'd see what I'm talking about. By engaging in a deep intellectual converation with some of them, you'd discover that the "content" is not there. Loyal, Classy Females are hard to find these days. 3 Likes |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by chimexcomm(m): 6:02am On Oct 18, 2014 |
A guy needs a lady who will understand him, who can stand by him and encourage him to reach his full potential, who can spur him on and always remind him dat he can make it no matter all odds. A lady who can come into his life and put things right dat were wrong, dat can get him to be organised and focused |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by Tymax(m): 7:10am On Oct 18, 2014 |
Ladies and their fickle minds. I hope they appreciate this and adhere. Sad that possessions and money rule their minds with the iron grip of a slaver. |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by jayminJr(m): 7:27am On Oct 18, 2014 |
*yawns* |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by Cheadiva(f): 7:54am On Oct 18, 2014 |
Nl guys b criticizing girls since 1908BC Nice post op |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by adepiero: 8:30am On Oct 18, 2014 |
You deserve a Medal |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by Raymysterio(m): 8:55am On Oct 18, 2014 |
I knew this was coming... Hmmmmmmm!!! |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by Nobody: 10:13am On Oct 18, 2014 |
Oya single ladies,over to you. |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by 100Cents: 10:16am On Oct 18, 2014 |
imsuboi: You mean those ones who travel to Owerri every weekend ? |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by dont8(m): 10:20am On Oct 18, 2014 |
Nice points, hope ladies can work on themselves with this writeup cos is for there own good. |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by MrCork: 10:21am On Oct 18, 2014 |
kentozybee: ...which letter & to which ladies?.....dak skin females or light skin females? ..wots goin on? 1 Like |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by GlorifiedTunde(m): 10:23am On Oct 18, 2014 |
Very good OP. and there's more here about both sexes https://www.nairaland.com/1954668/looking-perfect-partner-really-unfair |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by MrCork: 10:32am On Oct 18, 2014 |
...we not tryna hate but juss try a under stand his mission.....the boy right story like father chrismas and yet....no punnny reward. ....our questions;...wots the logic? ...serrriosly? 1 Like |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by prettyjo(f): 10:37am On Oct 18, 2014 |
I pray my comment does not enter the second page.I want to be on the front page too.Nice one@ op |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by agrovick(m): 10:37am On Oct 18, 2014 |
LadyCaty:runaway cathy |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by Nobody: 10:51am On Oct 18, 2014 |
By engaging in a deep intellectual converation with some of them, you'd discover that the "content" is not there. Loyal, Classy Females are hard to find these days. |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by April07: 11:09am On Oct 18, 2014 |
Lol.. Nice one OP.. kentozybee: Okay.. This part I have a problem with. I like to feel good about myself so I place emphasis on how I look before I step out of the house. I think boys need to understand that most girls don't make up to attract men.. infact very few do. I wear make up cos it makes me feel prettier and more confident... has nothing to do with a guy.. So if my makeup has got me running into play boys then.... its safe to say that the "so called" good guys like to judge a book by its cover..Not so good if u ask me.. No man can love you better if you fail to love I couldn't agree more with this point.. this is soooo true. The earlier a girl realizes this, the better for her. Nicely written tho.. thumbs up. 1 Like |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by April07: 11:23am On Oct 18, 2014 |
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Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by johnpepe1(m): 11:23am On Oct 18, 2014 |
I just hope they will hear cos girls of nowadays are very much after material things such that they are easily used and dumped at the mere flaunting of flashy things by guys. |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by sunnyt1(m): 11:48am On Oct 18, 2014 |
I like this part "Love isn't that butterfly feelings you have. Love is all about making wise decision on who you'd commit your heart to in love. This will determine your peace of mind and happiness, now and in the future. Look before you leap!" Love has become one of the most confusing source of debate, people never agree abt wat the true meaning of love is, the "butterfly feeling" is what people describe when they talk abt love |
Re: A Letter To The Single Ladies by irishCream: 1:03pm On Oct 18, 2014 |
NICE!!! INTERESTING PIECE!!! |
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