Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,194,603 members, 7,955,229 topics. Date: Saturday, 21 September 2024 at 08:02 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Advice Him (1351 Views)
Will You Advice Him To Sleep With His Boss Before His Weding Date? / He Ended Up Having Sex With Two Blood Sisters. Advice Him On What To Do / His New G.f Is Lezbian,advice Him Plz (2) (3) (4)
Advice Him by mubarakopeyemi(m): 3:42pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
My Friend needs your help See what he has to say """ See, she wants us to get married, but there's so many dark side with little or no light which can put out the darkness in this situation We've been dating for 4 months now, Dis girl hate muslims and Islam, she don't tolerate any islamic thing and I've tried to let her know the true image of Islam that islam is peace and not all what the media portrays, she said there's nothing I can say to her that will make her like muslims, but she said she's dating me simply because she loves me so much, wants us to get married to eachoda (wish I wish too but that's not my No1 priority), and that she hopes I become a christian someday That one day or soonest she would break up with me, coz I can't be a christian she has tried to break up with me before but I calmed her and she stayed coz of love, so now her point is if I can't be a christian, she would brk up with me and move on and probably date a christian like her and mayb get married. Many guys do disturb her and even offer her what I dare not even think about half of it, what I don't hv and all dat, bt she's a nice girl and dsnt care abt material tins, she do tell me about it and show me all the messages nd I know this kind of girl is rare and her true love for me is obvious but sometimes love is not just enough. The thing is that, something do tell me to allow her go jare, but I still realize that it will pain me if I lose this girl, she's complete; pretty beautiful and loving and I feel like she's a big asset to me dt I'm datin a girl like that (a virgin which I confirmed myself) and that she's not mine anymore. She's d best I ever had. I would go single for a long time coz if I don't go single ehn, dose lover girls are in trouble I would just take dem as nothing, and I don't wanna hurt any girl anymore. I see no sign that she can marry a muslim, she's d only Daughter and her Dad is a military man and a Deep christian (they would want a perfect wedding of their dreams for their only daughter, d way muslims does wedding is quite different from how christians does it), this make things difficult, soldiers are stern and stubborn, so there is a very high probability that he can neva allow her daughter marry a muslim, and he's a deep Christian , this makes things worst, imagine a deep christian who's only daughter is married to a muslim, u know dts quite difficult too (even if she insists on marrying a muslim and allow her to make her decision the feeling of dissatisfaction would still be dere). Belittling the fact that their tribe is different from mine coz I'm yoruba, but that's not a big problem. Now that aside that's abt her parents, what about her? Her belief and her perception, its very hard to convince her and even if I convince her and achieve success and she decides to stay, how abt her parents? They may neva tolerate her decision most esp her Dad. So all these factors the main thing is religion issue. So shud I bone and let her go if she wants coz I don't brk up wit girls or I should still make her stay coz we're still together 4 now and I still enjoy the relationship. I calculate a probability of 0.83 that there will be no light at the end of the tunnel of this relationship. Please ma guy advice me, I'm telling u dis coz I know U're a good person, seriously. What should I do ? """ Hmmmm, eleyi gidi gann Oya people pls Send ur advices to my friend If u like mk una sey na me write am, na una sabi, ur advices is my main concern. What I told him is that he should allow her to go, but that I would consult more people that this is serious and I wouldn't like to mislead him. |
Re: Advice Him by Evina(f): 3:47pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Please give us a summary or paragraph your epistle. The length of your post just hurts the eye. 1 Like |
Re: Advice Him by Nobody: 3:57pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
2 Likes |
Re: Advice Him by noblealuu: 4:06pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
The scenerio is crystal clear. She's an astute xtian, the father a devoute and committed xtian too. Hmmm sorry, it'll be considered an unequal yoke to have that nuptial muslim-xtian ticket. From all indications, disolve that unwholesome rlship and move on wit ur life. I bet u it'll be a herculean task for the dad to give his consent, nver! 1 Like |
Re: Advice Him by Nobody: 4:08pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Nonso23:He just said it all. You're not willing to give up your religion and neither is she, so what else? Like you said, sometimes love just isn't enough. Whatever you choose to do, your happiness should come first. 1 Like |
Re: Advice Him by mubarakopeyemi(m): 4:33pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Evina:Should he allow the girl go due to religious matters or keep her stayed with him coz he's enjoying the relationship? |
Re: Advice Him by mubarakopeyemi(m): 4:35pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Nonso23:Nice talk brother, one love! |
Re: Advice Him by Gooci(m): 4:36pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
noblealuu: |
Re: Advice Him by mubarakopeyemi(m): 4:36pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
noblealuu:Nice one! 1 Like |
Re: Advice Him by Evina(f): 4:37pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
mubarakopeyemi: thanks. Yes he should, better now than face more dire consequences in the future. |
Re: Advice Him by Nobody: 4:43pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
I dnt no y muslim brodas neva learn. A xtian man can date n marry a muslim lady wtout her asking or forcin him to convert for her sake cos islaim made us understand dt a womans religion is dt of her husband. D oda way round, d so-called xtian sisters wud b demanding a man to convert to her own religion. Every one b it man or woman shud stay in his or her own lane. Talking strictly from experience. |
Re: Advice Him by mubarakopeyemi(m): 4:44pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Evina:Yes dear and Na that military part fear me pass o |
Re: Advice Him by mubarakopeyemi(m): 4:48pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
marinel:Hmmmm, I don't know why its that way o, you mind sharing the experience? And btw did u get my PM? |
Re: Advice Him by Nobody: 5:11pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
mubarakopeyemi:. Ya, I did, been absent n jus got bak. My story goes thus. My big bro dated his gf for a long while n she knownin fully well dt her parents wud nt allow her to marry a muslim still insisted on d r/s. Now she wants him to convert to a xtian b4 her parents can approve bt my family stood der ground n at d end of d day d gal dad had to consent. My big sis is married to a xtian man wtout any resistance frm my family n they are both living happily. My current bf is a xtian n he keeps demanding I go to church wt him n weneva I refuse we end up having a fite, I suggested we end d r/s n go our separate way bt he wud neva agree n he keeps insisting dt I can neva marry any oda guy. I jus tire. |
Re: Advice Him by mubarakopeyemi(m): 6:37pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
omo dis is serious o but he cant insist that you cant marry another guy when he is nt ur father. but all will be well sha. contact me so as to figure things out and transact some social business |
Re: Advice Him by mesoade(m): 6:57pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
This one is tough o . . I can view it from your own perception cos the qualities you described in her,i've never seen a nairaland post describe a gal as such |
Re: Advice Him by Eastherbunny(m): 7:33pm On Oct 27, 2014 |
Op Don't worry she will reconsider and all things will fall in other if you guys are meant to be. Religion religion religion how many time I call you pls leave humans alone,stop be a priority in their decision making. |
Re: Advice Him by Nobody: 11:58am On Oct 28, 2014 |
mubarakopeyemi:. Dts jus it, sometyms I'll jus make up my mind n ignore him for a while only to find me back with him again.I don't wan to blive dt we are wasting our tym. |
Re: Advice Him by Nobody: 12:08pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
He should let her go they do not have the maturity and individuality required for this type of relationship. Its already over they are just postponing the goodbyes. 1 Like |
Re: Advice Him by pansophist(m): 12:18pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
One of the reason why I dislike religion, it fosters division. With Religion, human have been more seperated than ever. Sorry, I didnt help you |
Re: Advice Him by mubarakopeyemi(m): 2:16pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
marinel:The thing is Your mind isn't leaving him while u wanted to. U probably love him well. |
Re: Advice Him by Nobody: 4:15pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
mubarakopeyemi:I can't deny d fact dt I do love him despite knowing fully well dt we mite not work out. Ds tin called luv sef. |
Re: Advice Him by mubarakopeyemi(m): 5:38pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
marinel:Is wicked? Lol |
(1) (Reply)
My Fiance Threaten To Leave Me Because I Dont Have Mustaches / Why Do Men Like Free, No Commitment Sex? / Advice; Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her?
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 48 |