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Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 6:17pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
cococandy: Biko nwanyi oma, o na Naijeria ki gote ihe a ni'le? 1 Like |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 6:20pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Bitojoe: Good luck to them oh. Make she carry the husband go, if na pounded yam go make am waka make he go. Good riddance 9 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Bitojoe(m): 6:21pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
smokescreen4: a woman must cook her husband best food.if pounded Yam is his best.remember, the service you can't render at home to your husband or wife,there is someone else outside ready to serve better. 2 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 6:21pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
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Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by cococandy(f): 6:22pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
aisha2:na you biko 3 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by DeanHaas99(m): 6:22pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
aisha2:Your Men?..Only God Knows what that Means... Secondly...Really?...This is the Best Nairaland has Got?..1 Topic in like 9 Hours? 1 Like |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by cococandy(f): 6:23pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
njokusboy:they are available in nigeria |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by freecocoa(f): 6:23pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
So at one point in my life, I decided I wasn't going to remain with a certain bf that woozed me serious samaring, I kept hearing "You this girl, how will you stay with a man with so much willpower?", "nwanyi ekwesiro kwa enwe udi obi a", nwanyi kwesiri enwe obi umeala ka onwere di nwuo ife" In my mind I was like "chai! Who did this to these people?" I didn't know a woman's purpose on earth is to endure a man, but it's not my fault, God created me stubborn/gave me a mind of my own which I put to good use,,y'all can go talk to him if you have a problem with where I stand on the matter. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by free2ryhme: 6:24pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
aisha2: All the above mention rarely happens in this 21st century though in the past you May be right but now, very Minimal except the womEn u refer to is from the village 2 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by 5minsmadness: 6:24pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
moca:Its obvious that this particular guy has a beef with his wife that you don't know about hence his cold behaviour. |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by dabossman(m): 6:25pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
damiso: You are a good woman, my dear. |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Bitojoe(m): 6:26pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
aisha2: better give your husband his best food.if pounded Yam is his choice 1 Like |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by 5minsmadness: 6:27pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
MadCow1:But this has nothing to do with the topic Na! We are not talking of battered wives here. |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 6:28pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Bitojoe: Bitojoe: I say i no pound, i dash am to the small girl wetin again? 4 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by dabossman(m): 6:29pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: You, my dear, are guilty of generalization. You've not been married to most Nigerian men. Sometimes, this preconceived, generalized old wives tales is what ruins homes. You go in with a negative mindset, always on the defensive, even when no one is chasing. If you take your time to marry the right man/woman, the two of you will discover what works for you in your home. Don't generalize. 7 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by londoner: 6:29pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
OP, you are right in your assessment for the most part, especially with more traditional married African/Nigerian men. If I have the money, I will get a dish washer........if you stay in a house that has one, it's amazing how much time you have for other things. Same with washing machines. Makes life much easier and less stressful. Every time I see images of Nigeran street sweepers, bending down and damaging their already age ack, I shake my head. Its actually quite cruel imo. They can't even provide them with long handle brushes or less damaging ways of carrying out that task. 6 Likes
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Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 6:30pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
free2ryhme: See ya.answers: TheNaijan: Ya brother say modern technological gadgets to aid women go cause divorce. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by duperola(f): 6:30pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
i think it is just unfortunate that most women personally dont have self respect/worth so it transcends even in2 marriage.being married does not mean u hv 2 suffer.try being an asset 2 a man&even when he is low,u can lift him up! 4 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Bitojoe(m): 6:30pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
aisha2: women always look for trouble since 1863bc. 1 Like |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by DeanHaas99(m): 6:30pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
aisha2:You're not A Married Woman,Are you? 2 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by ichidodo: 6:31pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
By huitzilopotchli's balls we 've been starved of frontpage news that reading ludicrous and mundane topics such as this never gives us the awkward moment one has after losing a wrestling bout with a daughter of Sparta... 1 Like |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by jahbiz: 6:31pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Too many mistakes will not allow me to read the post to the end. Seems some Mods are lazy here. The Op needs to read the post again and do the needful. |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by koolg: 6:32pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
if as a woman you're hard working and have a good job or are very industrious then you will not even give a second thought to all these jagbajantis |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by manot: 6:32pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
hmm |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 6:35pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
jahbiz: No vex abeg new phone auto correct. Still trying to understand it Tried to modify, found out i couldnt modify the original topic 1 Like |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by LordReed(m): 6:35pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sometimes it is not about suffering. My parents bought yam pounder, washing machine and vacuum cleaner. Of the 3 only the vacuum cleaner remained useful because my mum hated the output of the yam pounder, she always complained of "seed" in the pounded yam. Till tomorrow she still pounds by pestle and mortar. The washing machine was destroyed by low water pressure within 2 or 3 washes so we never even got to enjoy it. |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by OkikiOluwa1(m): 6:36pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
aisha2:Supersport doesn't make real men go lazy cos they don't spend too much time infront of TV. Same should be said about Real African women who knows their onus & doesn't stay too long to while surfing the internet, chatting or watching African Magic Last Bullet The thing here is I m not against the points you listed in this thread. A woman can assist herself with washing machine, poundo yam, gas cooker etc if they v a large family & can afford them. They are dividends of our modern world. I m sure our forefathers ll v been glad to use them if they were available back then. What you & I should frown against is lazy women with their attitudes & how the affect their household 2 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 6:36pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Folks just love bastardising terms on this forum. When did "modern" become interchangeable with gadgets that aren't even a necessity? How many of you folks living in Nigeria can't even afford/have these gadgets in Nigeria? This is just a lousy topic to mask fakeness. I honestly don't see the hype in dish washers especially if you don't have a big family. But hey, some folks are just wasteful, and won't mind wasting electricity to have this ridiculous notion about being "modern" in their heads. We have had dish washer in my house since like forever, and my mum seldom use the darn thing. And almost every house I've lived in (including the current one) had/has dish washer, and I've never touched the darn thing. Wash ya darn plates after eating! 4 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 6:36pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Nigerians like suffering and they are usually envious of those who are not. Majority of them can't afford to buy those gadgets or use a hospital where they can get epidural . Instead of them to admit that they are unable to afford these things they would rather try and put those things down and make it sound bad for those who are fortunate enough to be able to afford it. It's the same way you will hear a man who cannot even afford to buy a bicycle saying that he dosen't even like Range Rovers because they are too common lmao. Most women that have all these gadgets work and they are contributing financially and then it will afford them the time to take care of them self look wise and still have steamy sex anytime. That to me is a good wife not one who looks a mess and just lies there during sex because the poor woman is tired from pounding yam and doing other chorea while she also had to go o work. The same men would insult the woman for letting herself go a if women have 48hour in a day. 18 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 6:37pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Good men buy all these gadgets for their wives if they can afford it. If your husband can't afford it, would you divorce him for that? 4 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nihilist: 6:37pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
The OP is a joker You want a Washing Machine, Dishwasher, Pounding Machine, blah blah... How much do you contribute to NEPA Bill? Or money for Gen? You can bet that she sits on her fat derrière all day, and doesn't even go downstairs to put on the pumping machine. Abeg, someone should arrest the OP for attempted robbery. 4 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by pickabeau1: 6:38pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
bukatyne: Is there anything new here When you lot are filled to the brim with your man bashing örgy you will move onto the next topic which of course will be something the man has done again.. Endless and recycled topics... 2 Likes |
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