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Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by RoyalRoy(m): 4:14pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 4:16pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
jaybee3:True this. I'm not really good at sharing my worries or concerns. In a subconscious way,it is me not wanting to bother him or disturb him. Maybe I should learn to put them in writing. Lol On the flip side,it gives him good excuse to tease me. "How are you going to discipline the kids if you can't even raise your voice and talk"? |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 4:18pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
damiso:mine wishes I would initiate such convo. |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by jaybee3(m): 4:21pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
cococandy:My worry is you create more problems for yourself in the long run with this your preferred modus operandi What happens if he suddenly stops asking/teasing things out from you due to unforeseen outside stress? Does that mean you going to start worrying about him not loving you? If the absent of effective communication is one of the key problems in relationships then why not try to avoid it at all times |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 4:28pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
jaybee3:it is not really a modus operandi per say because I didn't deliberately choose to be like that. It is a part of my nature that I didn't realize will be a problem once I began to share my life with someone else. Now I know and I'm working on it. I've come to a point where I say something or ask questions if I find that keeping quiet leaves me or him in the dark.(most of the time) But I'm still to master the art of chitchat. How to have regular fun gist. And that's the part he's more concerned about. So help me God. |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by dabossman(m): 4:29pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
aisha2: Hhm, interesting questions. 1. As far as this is concerned, I usually try to be reassuring. I've changed physically from the slim, boyish guy she married too, so I try to make her understand that change is inevitable in life. I tell her she is just as beautiful as ever. One thing I also try to make her understand is that if you can do something about it, then why mope about it. If you'd like to look slimmer try a diet or exercise. Worrying won't change a thing, but actin on it will. So now she is on a diet and the results look good. I'm the one who needs to join the diet train now. 2. Now my own insecurities I usually tend to bottle up and let escape slowly through a sprout like steam from a pressure cooker. I'm very analytic in nature and also do not take things too deeply to heart. So I ruminate on issues for a while, find a workable solution and move on. However, there are times when she notices the pressure of work or finances when we have to expend on a major project. She's very supportive and does her best to encourage me. She's my no.1 cheerleader. With her support and encouragement I usually feel more relieved. I probably should let her in more often right? But usually I don't want to transfer my worries to her, so I do my pressure cooker thing. 3 Likes |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by jaybee3(m): 4:35pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
cococandy:It's really easy ya know Interest=>Determination=>Result Show interest in the things he loves doing Go with an open mindset because you are determined to achieve the desired result If you enjoy cooking then invite him into the kitchen when you are cooking his favorite meal If he enjoys soccer then endure the 90 minutes with him then ask questions about the game Couples have to go extra length to make their marriage work and this is simply part of it. Look at it this way, if you don't talk to him someone else will almost certainly keep him company be it online or work |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 4:41pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
jaybee3:thank you. |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by rolled: 5:09pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Chick eyeing you or you eyeing the chick? Talk is so cheap oluwaseunla: 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Nobody: 5:12pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Cococandy, come let me couch u I was worst than u cos of my upbringing not necessary my nature. I hadly voice out. So many bottled up emotions and things that need at least a yes or no from me that when I exploded, it was shocking. Thank God it was immediately after my marriage. After that day, I decided to be as open as the express way. I don't know if I hv secrets at all. Hubby on d other hand don't like being open. Infact, u hv to be a judge to extract info from him. I will probe and probe, I also read body language though that doesn't work at times. Now d only thing he doesn't tell me is if he wanna surprise me maybe with gigts or some special things. Pls, talk,even if its about patience ozorkwor and her mother in law roles, that is how u will learn more about ur spouse even if ur gist doesn't make sense. I learnt d hard way. |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 5:16pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
moca:i will do my best henceforth. |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by rolled: 5:16pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Ok so for the happily married men Have you been physically abusive to your wife Have u ever Said very insultive words especially during a heated argument What about the once in a while cheating part,how do you balance having time for ur family and these flings I know I won't get any answer NL,Land of fakeness 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by oluwaseunla(m): 5:17pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
rolled: You are entitled to your opinions. Besides, 'twas an analogy. 3 Likes |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Nobody: 5:19pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
oluwaseunla: Kindly ignore, them plenty here. Pretending they dont exist pains them like hell, they hardly deserve responses as the aim is to transfer their bitter lives to others. Jump and pass 3 Likes |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:20pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
cococandy: In addition use the same energy you use in engaging in online conversations, debating and fraternizing with people who really do not care about you in the e-world ... and focus that energy offline. Channel that energy in building a really strong rappor with your spouse. If not handled carefully technology has a way of alienating us from people who care about us and can stand in our way of building formidable human connections with people that matter in our lives . #JustSaying Inbtwn Nice Thread I am learning. picking out valid lessons and discarding the noise. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by rolled: 5:22pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Be Careful pls Madam sweet life aisha2: 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Nobody: 5:26pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Matthewbriggs: True, social media makes strangers seem more interesting and intriguing than the real people we have around us. When you and hubby are at home or out on a date, please dont touch your phones, touch each other and talk to each other. 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 5:27pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Matthewbriggs:true that. Do you know that when he's even at work and we are romancing online,i find myself opening up more than when we are face to face. Like typing is waaay easier for me than talking. It is really something that I need to work on. Not just with him anyway. I've lost count of the number of times my twin sis will say to me "you're so quiet and boring" She's my exact opposite. If they all didn't love me and understand me,they would probably think I'm a snob. |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 5:29pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
aisha2:good idea for a new house rule. I will suggest this to him let me see what he thinks of it. 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Nobody: 5:29pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
cococandy: Oya type to him na when he is home. As you work on talking start with typing and gisting. |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Nobody: 5:30pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Matthewbriggs: Nice words there. 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 5:31pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
aisha2:I thought of that already. But it is kind of funny and weird. We may have to start with no phone,iPad,or tablet rule |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Nobody: 5:35pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
cococandy: Nothing wierd in marriage we all find what works for us darling. It can be loads of fun, me and hubby chatting seriously sometimes as if we are chatting with other people. When there is something difficult i need to tell him eg when he says dont do something and i do it and he is right lol, i confess when we are sitting and chatting. Find what works for you, one rule doesnt apply to all |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by xynerise: 5:38pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Signing up.... |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 5:40pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
aisha2: |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by olabox(m): 5:48pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
From my point of view to marriage, i can conclude that any marriage without God is a mirage which always end in confusion and waste of time. My advice is, let God be.the head of.your marriage, avoid beauty and riches but real love because God is love. |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 5:50pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
xynerise:question for you xy. I know you're a hands-on and devoted father. But are there times when you feel like it is your wife's duty to take care of the kids? Like you are only helping her or doing her a favor by contributing to child care? Some men say they don't do such things because once they start,their wives begin to see it as their normal duty and begin to take it for granted. But I'm wondering since the kids are both yours,should a man expect to always be begged to or thanked for taking care of his kids too ? (I know appreciating one's spouse is very important.thats by the way.) But have you had any reason to feel like you're doing your wife's job by engaging in child care? |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by crackhaus: 5:57pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Who's gonna open the thread for happily married women to answer some questions we have for them so the unmarried feminists can learn from? Too many women here have expressed views that I know for sure can't be how their homes are run, very strong views. Some have said they don't come home after work to cook, others have insisted they can make decisions independent of their husband's consent - some don't need to take permission for anything. The young and unmarried need to know how a wife should act. Any takers? All in a bid to foster unity in the family section on the true way most Nigerian marriages are run, of course... 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 6:02pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
crackhaus:help us na. Na woman open this thread to learn guys mind. You can return d favor |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by xynerise: 6:02pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
cococandy:Taking care of the kids is OUR responsibility and a priority especially during adolescent stage. There are things she ought to do to the kids that she doesn't, but I do them willingly. I don't get fascinated or envy the public stunt some guys do online by posting "hilarious" pictures of them feeding, bathing or wiping a baby's poop just to get the compliments from the opposite sex . They are my kids too and their success is my success Anyways I enjoy doing the nursing with her 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by oluwaseunla(m): 6:06pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
aisha2: Noted ma'am 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by kashman1(m): 6:10pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
I am a happy married man 3 Likes |
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