It is an error to remain with or contract a marriage relationship with a man or woman who doesn't genuinely care about you.

How then do you know when he or she truly cares? I will talk about characteristics that men and women display when they don't genuinely love their partners, and when they do love you, they do the opposite.



Here they are:



1. First, they feel uneasy and uncomfortable to identify with you in the public. They only feel relaxed with you when they are with you ALONE in a CLOSET.




2. They feel reluctant to introduce you to their friends. A guy or gal who goes about introducing you to their friends is already making little committment to you by that gesture. The implication of that is they are telling their buddies, hey...i have got a precious stone here in whom i am well pleased. It shows they boast about you.




3. They won't bring you home to meet with their brothers, sisters, and parents. Getting you to meet these guys mentioned is a greater committment. There's no game playing with this gesture. Of course, unless your partner is insane.



4. They talk down on you and make you feel inferior every time. They suggest in their behaviour and words that you are not of their standard.



5. When you call them on phone, they don't pick your calls at once. Even if you called fifteen times, they won't call back when they see your missed calls. That suggests that you are a bore to them.

6. They are not interested in the welfare of your family members. A relationship that survives goes beyond the two people involved. In fact, you are an extension of your family...what affects them, affects you too. If they don't care one bit about your family, then they don't really care about you. Please, open your eyes widely and see the point here.

7. They don't care about your career. It was Tim LaHaye, author of the book, Why You Act the Way You Do, who said that next to salvation, the next most important thing in life is your career, job and vocation (I am paraphrasing). If they are not supportive of what you do or want to do with you life, please think twice.

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Friends, what do you think of these points, which do you agree or disagree with, which have you seen at play in your partners? Share your opinions with us here. Lets learn from you.

God bless you Op
You just said everything that happened in Nino's life..

zadok60:
True

what's true? Could you please comment on this?

Over 100 views so far and no one has aired his or her opinion about this subject.

Meanwhile, this is the most sensitive of all relationship affairs. We need to know, we need to be informed about this matter.

I did not come up with this because i already know it all. Nope. I love to share. I love to learn.

We need to come forth and talk about this, learn from each and be better for it.

Please be the first to comment. Your personal experience could be a lifeline to someone else out there.

Thanks in advance.

No 5 on point @op......

MissMalia:
No 5 on point @op......

Yeah, people who are fond of you are always eager to hear from you. When they miss your call, to them its like missing their flight.

cj4someone:
what's true? Could you please comment on this?

Brb

Dear you are write. I have a friend who is like that but what I don't understand is that when he notice a new change in me he will start being close, just to no if I have another new guy but once no other guy he change back to who he is. He don't call, he don't pick, apart from whatsapp we can't chat but he always want to no everything about me but if I ask him about himself he won't reply he only chat we he notice some new changes. So I can't give my whole life to him he should fine his way let me fine, Everybody should answer his or her own surname.

@amakastarstella, that is a clear indication to say you are just like a spare tyre to him...whom he often comes around to inspect if you are still laying there where he kept...for want of space in the living room.

Is that the kind of treatment you want for yourself? I doubt so. If we get informed and smart about matters like this, we will then be able to stay away from such toxic partners.

My brother well don u try small. But wait,what that mean be say money($) don finish for my hand be that o if any babe try that with me

MissMalia:
No 5 on point @op......

Because that's what u always do

Freest:

Because that's what u always do

Lol...its nt my tin @al

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Nice one op
Everything you typed here are so educative *thumbs up*

u're right @op
I don't introduce a lady to my family members if I can't marry her esp my mum.
u gat wat I mean

Insightful

I and my baby are both on point . God bless love

amakastarstella:
Dear you are write. I have a friend who is like that but what I don't understand is that when he notice a new change in me he will start being close, just to no if I have another new guy but once no other guy he change back to who he is. He don't call, he don't pick, apart from whatsapp we can't chat but he always want to no everything about me but if I ask him about himself he won't reply he only chat we he notice some new changes. So I can't give my whole life to him he should fine his way let me fine, Everybody should answer his or her own surname.

You are just a supplement to him, some girls also do that in reverse. The truth is, if you don't move, there will be no space for another guy. It's always difficult at the begining but if you don't create the vaccum, no one else can fill it.

zadok60:
God bless you Op
You just said everything that happened in Nino's life..

Who is Nino?

Dz is so true.I do most of dz tinz wen I dnt like u anymore except no 4

More signs...

8. They are only moved by your presence. They only show you concern when you are with them. The moment you turn your back against them, they drop everything about you. Evidently, that is a make-believe love. You shouldn't take such people seriously. They are actors...and run their life on pretense. They will move the moment they have enough of you and leave you heart-broken. Unfortunately, this kind of folks are hard to spot, especially with their excellent acting and sugar-coated lips. But you can always identify them the moment you discover that they only put up such excellent performance only when you are there, and, of course, often to get you do certain things for them. Wise up, friend!

9. They don't contribute their own quota to the sustenance of the relationship. If you are the only one who is fighting tooth and nail to keep your relationship alive and going, know it that you are in a relationship that will not work.

This is what most partners do when their love for you wanes, when they get fed up of you. They just fold their arms and watch you fail, no matter how much effort you are making.

If your spouse suddenly becomes overly cold towards you, for instance, they let you do all the calling, you are the one who is always forthcoming while they stand on the receiving end, think twice!

Love is an emotional state that happens between two individuals, not one fellow. It is not lopsided.