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Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 8:10pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
saucechilli:those are the kind of men majority of women who later complain run to, why, they were never patient to know he is just a breeder. You see me close to my fourties , a thrillionaire , have married friends and loads of single babes around me and you still choose to marry me . Biko , for what other reason will I marry you. People should look properly before they leap.... Not come complaining and seeking pity when yawa don gas. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by cococandy(f): 8:12pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
majekdom2:what other lady? Anyway that's by the way. You won't take out anger in anyone else for something they didn't do to you. Thank god for your mindset. Sadly it is not the reality for many people. As for wrong assumption,I don't expect you to agree with me. But the fact remains that women who use their kids as alternative source of emotional happiness create a dependence that is not healthy when the kids grow up. Even if they don't realize it. |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 8:13pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
majekdom2: What about those that insist the woman gets pregnant before marriage ? The ones looking for male children? The ones looking for 4 boys, 2 girls? And someone here is feigning ignorance. 1 Like |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by cococandy(f): 8:16pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
crackhaus:I'm biased against who exactly? Nna Biko calm down. Yes a full grown mil has control over how a shitty marriage affects her relationship with DIL by not putting up with poo in the first place so that she doesn't turn to a frustrated mil If I didn't know you better I would say we are saying the same thing 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by cKaiser: 8:19pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
saucechilli: You know there are lots of women who marry for many things which love isnt one of them Some for breeding, some for money, some for comfort, some for connections , some to travel abroad etc 1 Like |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 8:20pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
desdichando: Thank you!! Go and marry before your muscles shrink. |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 8:22pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
cKaiser: Of course. That Nigerian marriages for you. That's why they try to tolerate the cheating husbands while using kids are their excuse. Truth is, they know the reason they need the man. Not even cheating nor abuse can separate them 1 Like |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by cKaiser: 8:26pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
saucechilli: So why are the men at fault here? Most came into marriage with a motive which love isnt one. Most Nigerian men would leave/look outside a marriage that cant give them a child, Most Nigerian female would leave/look outside a marriage which cant give them money/comfort/visa/connection So dont you think everyone end up deserving whoever they got https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lw3uAqT2iQE The girls in the video above too arent they Nigerian? Most of them would come and open threads on how their boyfriend or husband is cheating right? Well its open season on Nigerian men. They are the worst on the earth |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by crackhaus: 8:34pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
cococandy:A full grown MIL has control over how her sh1tty marriage would affect her relationship with her DIL by not acting out the frustrations from her own marriage on her son's - why did you twist it? BTW I'm perfectly calm, are you? Using/not using emoticons doesn't necessarily reflect one's true feelings at the moment. You are biased on this subject. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 8:34pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
cKaiser: Nigerian men are the cause of Nigeria palaver. all other countries can't be wrong At the front page, police women went to arrest someone and Nigerian men stripped them. I don't know if another wire connect dem brain with them pen1s. Once them hear punny, their ears go stand Minus the 1% good ones 1 Like |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by cKaiser: 8:36pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
saucechilli: And the ones in the video you quoted are Nigerian men too right? Who are telling the whole world the number of official men they sleep with |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 8:45pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
cKaiser: Stop deceiving your self, if I go to YouTube and search on Nigerian men this nairaland go crash. Better start wearing the honourable badge |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 8:45pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
saucechilli:even these days the babes are willing to get pregnant , I tell you. No be only the babe dey mess up. Yea , they dont wanna end up with a partner who has tampered with their fertility as spouses.why should I help you carry a cross you made for yourself. I can assist but not to my detriment. Well as for the four children thatswhy I said make you dey look well before you cross. |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 8:49pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
majekdom2: That's not the major factor sef. They get pregnant fast esp if the man is loaded. Some will come as fourth wife, saying love is blind. The love no carry you see poor man. Naija women are learning very fast. At the end, same cycle of sh1t. 1 Like |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by 9jagobetta: 8:49pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
happywife: u are wrong bring God into it |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 8:56pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
cKaiser:@ bolded , isn't it time we advocate changes in this kind of thoughts.... Unnecessary pity and comfort seeking. |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 8:58pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
saucechilli:hehehe , reality thumbs up. |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 9:00pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
saucechilli:will you ever like to settle with the person used in relating the idiom " horse in a book" |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 9:20pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
If u catch u Sophyrocks:
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Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by cococandy(f): 9:24pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
crackhaus:biased against who? |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 10:33pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
all4naija: Lmao, bomboclart rudeboi, you need to allow the chic. She's a focused young virtuous woman with her head in the right place. Let ol'girl keep growing in wisdom for her future hussy. She can't handle a thorough-bred nyggah from the forgotten parts of Souf Ldn, that's now a victim of gentrification. And moreover, don't believe the hype, I ain't got time for chasin' skirts, man. Too occupied with trying to create my reality within the dreams of my father. I can't let his dreams become MLK's which later became a nightmare. |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 10:35pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
babygirlfl: Erm, I'll number my reply to each of ya quotes for clarity. 1). I absolutely agree that both men and women should always look before they leap. And these days, most folks go into relationships for the wrong reasons, rather than looking at the bigger picture, and the end game. So my thing is: if you're stupid enough to make the wrong decisions, no one forced you to make, then you should be ready to live with and take responsibilities for ya actions. And a lot of women these days do use a lot of tricks to lock-down men who were never interested in taking it all the way. Once you do that, and he ends up being a serial cheater, you should be able to carry the cross cos the man never wanted the union in the first place. Regardless, counselling and communication do help a lot, and both parties should be able to sit down and ask each other tough questions - and consider the lives of the kids involved. 2). I might be wrong, but I think it has to do with the period from when a child is born, to when he/she becomes conscious of the immediate environment. The breast-feeding and all the things subconsciously instilled in the child during that period, somewhat creates a bond that's going to be there for a lifetime. And every time we just look back, we can't but just appreciate our mums no matter how flawed they might be. Personally, I feel more comfortable talking to my mum than my dad. Ditto my siblings. And I love my dad to death. I can crack jokes with my mum and play all kinds of games with her like I'm 7 years old again...but with my dad, we discuss serious things like politics, life, history, education, career, sports, future plans et al. Regardless, we'll always be kids to our parents. 3). I've got all the respect in the world for single mums. A lot of them are hard workers, and they've raised warriors and achievers. Also, a lot of them are victims of circumstances, and I've got nothing against those who fall into this space. However, there are certain folks who could've made better decisions and done certain things differently, but they never did. Then you look at your community and the dysfunctionality prevalent in there, due to this lifestyle that has created a certain image in which everyone views folks from the same community. regardless of their backgrounds. And you've to ask if we want to continue this cycle, or break it, and start creating something that future generation would be proud of. I've talked about this in the past on other threads. Two of my exes were raised by single mums. Because we were together for long, I developed a bond with their families (we're still very close) and they told me a lot of things about what went wrong. They did tell me that there were certain things that their mums should've done differently and they still miss their dads. And with people like that, due to the non-existent father figure in their lives, being with them always come with a lot of emotional baggage. When you're with them, rather than let you play ya role as a BF, they'll also want you to be that male figure -the missing link. Thus making life stressful for you. And this transcends into marriages. 4). Yes, we need to start holding cheaters (both men and women) responsible for cheating. Hopefully, male cheaters will also start looking at the bigger picture and understand the fact that making love to ya wives/partners is better than just having se.x with random folks. And family is always more important than a quick orgy with skets, just to satisfy lust. But I also think a lot of women also need to start closing their legs to married men. Se.x these days is just so easy to get lol. Anyway, I think you need to start posting more often. I like ya outlook and understanding of things. Perhaps that will enable more folks to start making every discourse about reality, and not the illogical fantasies and finger pointing that's rife here. By comparing apples to oranges and building castles in the air. And maybe, it's cos you're not part of the naij crowd...or those who left naij but never integrated with the real society they live in but have an outlook that was shaped by the jejune tales they see on TV and read in newspapers. |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 11:04pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
Babygirlfl This is the tune I always listen to whenever I'm in solitude and I think about how much of a warrior my dad is. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmDxJrggie8 1 Like |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by babygirlfl: 11:19pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
SirShymex: Wow. Lovely write-up . Thank you. I think we both agree on most things plus I have learnt a lot too. It is sometimes very difficult to post in this section. Remember when you said folks just love arguing just to hear what they sound like, you were right. If you post and disagree with them, they quickly twist your words, read another meaning to it, add their bits to it and give you a reply that will give you a shock and then top it all up with some insults plus give you a name. I do post though and reply to sensible people. You also need to post nice write-ups like the above. |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 11:32pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
babygirlfl: Lol, I've lost count ofthe number of times bits of my posts have been taken out of context, and twisted, for the wolf-pack to attack. I don't know if there's something fundamentally wrong with certain folks when it comes to reading and comprehension skills - or they just do it on purpose. Thought the politics section was bad, but this section takes the cake for stupidity and lousy idi.ots. Anyway, just continue to do you and don't let them turn you out. As for me, I'll always smack anyone that gets out of line - no time for time wasters 1 Like |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by GoldCircle: 9:45am On Nov 20, 2014 |
voodoo85: why not opt out? what's keeping you in? if you are regretting and still in it, then it must be worth it. |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by cpsw111(f): 11:08am On Nov 20, 2014 |
Just divorce him lol |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by diamazing(f): 12:56pm On Nov 20, 2014 |
shalommeri: Pls were is the dislike button. What do I need to know about the other woman? Abegi |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by DukeNija(m): 2:36pm On Nov 20, 2014 |
happywife: I'm very happy for your decision. You took the right step, Life according to the bible is full of trouble and with Gods strength and guidance you will overcome this present storm. 1 Like |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by DuchessLily(f): 5:40pm On Nov 20, 2014 |
Hmmm...@OP I have also wondered several times why pple (especially men) get married when dey r not ready to stay with only their wives. It so sad, but frm experience d pain won't go..... He will only end up killing d love u have 4 him, and dat is when u will actually stop feeling d hurt....when d love dies. Even him touching u as ur husband will start to irritate u sef. But what can we do? Stay in d marriage cos of d kids, n then pretence comes to play...oh yes! u will have to pretend to still love him for ur kids sake. Just concentrate more on urself n kids....its well. Pray always to be able to cope. Aint easy. And dez men who cheat can never 4give a wife/babe who cheat on dem oooo....but dey will cheat n expect u not to feel bad 1 Like |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 6:18pm On Nov 20, 2014 |
mutter:babe u got it all.wish my future wife cud knw all this. |
Re: How To Tolerate Cheating Husband. by Nobody: 7:47pm On Nov 20, 2014 |
GoldCircle:Probably stupid hope that smth will change |
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