SirShymex:
Anyway OP, continue to be a good wife, make sure you create an atmosphere for peace at home, and he has to use condoms with you. And hopefully, with prayers, he will outgrow this phase.

Hillary Clinton, Victoria Beckham, and Kobe Bryant's wife stood by their husbands and helped them change to become upstanding men lol. You can do the same.

And these are great women with great achievements who deal with reality not fantasies.

Shalom.

Onegai:


If my husband was a WEALTHLY FORMER PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES, A WEALTHY EX-FOOTBALLER (MOST LIKELY TO END UP IN GOVT) or A WEALTHY BASKETBALL PLAYER (who will most likely sign a 6-figure deal to write his memoirs after he retires)....

Baby, I will fight any oloshi strolling around him, cook him egusi and pound yam daily and pray unceasingly for him

But y'all broke brothas, you will be cheating giving me High BP and I cannot even afford to fly the kids and I out for a weekend in Dubai, instead I'm in your rented house, waiting to turn off the gen at 10pm and sleep in heat, skabashing in the darkness telling myself "he will return to my arms one day" whilst you are shouting "hallelujah!" on top of one woman in an air-conditioned hotel room somewhere....

As my aunt said to her husband, "I'm leaving you because you're cheating and beating me and you cannot give me hypertension and AIDS when you haven't even built your house"

She went on to marry a retired military General #CorrectWoman

Onegai:

If my husband was a WEALTHLY FORMER PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES, A WEALTHY EX-FOOTBALLER (MOST LIKELY TO END UP IN GOVT) or A WEALTHY BASKETBALL PLAYER (who will most likely sign a 6-figure deal to write his memoirs after he retires)....
Baby, I will fight any oloshi strolling around him, cook him egusi and pound yam daily and pray unceasingly for him
But y'all broke brothas, you will be cheating giving me High BP and I cannot even afford to fly the kids and I out for a weekend in Dubai, instead I'm in your rented house, waiting to turn off the gen at 10pm and sleep in heat, skabashing in the darkness telling myself "he will return to my arms one day" whilst you are shouting "hallelujah!" on top of one woman in an air-conditioned hotel room somewhere....
As my aunt said to her husband, "I'm leaving you because you're cheating and beating me and you cannot give me hypertension and AIDS when you haven't even built your house"
She went on to marry a retired military General #CorrectWoman

saucechilli:


Born again ?
You wey mouth sharp pass razor blade.


Wonders shall never end

iykedare:


What about the things women do before they get married? We still overlook those things and marry them.But they dwell so much on the things we do. After manhandling all the peni$e$ available, you want to have one(your husband's own) to yourself ehhh. Chai,these women sef.

mutter:
Bananabender I am sorry to disappoint you. My first daughter made the best A level result in her school and is studying .
I raise my children to aim for the best but never to loose sight of the fundamental values in life.
Humility, honesty and decency. Empty vessels are loud and crude.
A woman does not have to be a stay at home mum, but I would assume that a young woman with young kid`s would not necessarily have to be one that works late hours like the man. It is a privilege to have time to spend with the kid`s when they are young.
Besides what stops you calling your husband from work.
Anyway, you can puke all you like, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I have mine and you have yours.
I will only advice other women not to be deceived by you. Loads of women have this strange habit of trying to make out this dominant and feminist image outside.. yet they are the ones that take the most shit from men.

DailyNews:
Just have it in mind that every other married lady out there is coping with a cheating hubby cos 99.99% of married men cheat For those that will come after me with cutlass, no need cos I'm on my way to France and if u decide to leave to marry a presumed Pope John Paul u feel its best, be prepared to leave that one soon, and another and another

Ladies should just know it that: u cheat while young n hot, men then don't...so when they become older, hotter like Timaya, they too will cheat to balance nature

veave:



Hmmmn. Na wa for waec o. So because she is being real, you have automatically turned her to a retired runs girl. Omaga o! Please if you dont have any reasonable thing to say, just SHUT UP! Ok?

CHoccolaTE:
Abeg abeg abeg, born again or not you said it as it is, you cheat on me heavens know I WILL do the same. Suffer in silence because I dey craze abi because of wetin? Thank goodness I have gazzillions of exes that I can go to if he decides to start fooling himself.

jennykadry:


ROTFLMAO. Oh gawdddddd

BananaBender:


Your ignorance is mind-boggling. You should have married an illiterate, you two would deserve each other.

What has feminism got to do with nagging? Where did ever see a feminist promote nagging or insolence?

You blame feminism for the "collapse of African American" communities? Mr, stop saying what you know nothing about and read a darn book!

cococandy:


my naija sisters are very hypocritical when it comes to stuff like this. Someone who just left her lover's house with the xemen still not dry will join hands to shame another woman in the street because that one was caught.

Meanwhile all men cheat and we have fact to prove that men are even slightly higher in number than women in the population. So who are the men cheating with?
Not Nigerian women of course. Maybe she goats and women from other countries. Certainly not my virtuous sisters.

BananaBender:


So feminism is the reason for kids growing up without their fathers in the African American community? Feminism is to be blamed for the amount of single mothers in AA community. Really?! Really?!! Feminism is the cause of early pregnancy or teenage mothers??

I like when you show how dumb you really are Shy, you are just like any of these noise-making empty heads on NL.

lacord5:


Darling your husband seems to have extra cash in his pocket all the time, money make men cheat! They have enough to hang out, pay for hotels, take care of their new babes etc. Now he is able to do all that cos you have a good job and probably shoulder half of your family responsibilities, believe me if he were broke (I don't mean unemployed oh) and thinking of saving up money for children's school fees and rent and insurance, he won't have money left for extravagances.
Now solution... Change your kids schools, take them to a better and more expensive school, tell him their old school is now crap and it's a good investment to their future, be all nice and sweet while talking about this . Then, where do you live? A rented house? You need to get a land and start building, tell him how real estate is the new rave and a good investment too, look for a land and get him see the need to have his own house, by the time he starts building every kobo will go into it, be supportive too, show interest and always hang by him. If you already have a house, build more for rent and as an investment.
Again it may be hard but show him love, forgive him in your heart, be an active member in your church and get him to become one too, if you don't have a nanny please get one, hang out with him and those his friends and slowly get him to hang with you, be a buddy. Don't report him anymore to anyone, don't claim to be too tired to go to parties and clubs please go with him, listen to gospel teachings it will ease your pain.
DO NOT CHEAT BACK! It is your body, you won't like to desecrate yourself just cos he is doing so, you will feel worse. And it won't solve anything at all.
Stop cutting cost, get those things your family lack, don't wait anymore, get him to spend his money, start projects and don't stop... And moreover pray for him to change, don't underestimate the power of prayer and money

Fourwinds:
women are always problem to demselves. y because of greed for money and material things. who do d married men cheat with....most cases it is d single ladies. d single ladies end up marrying a man and complain about her husband cheating. Check very well...dere is LAW OF KARMA.

DailyNews:
lol, the problem married women have is single ladies and the problem is: every married woman was once a single lady, get that Cheating is inherent in every man, they only need more money to become full blown cheats

Onegai:

If my husband was a WEALTHLY FORMER PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES, A WEALTHY EX-FOOTBALLER (MOST LIKELY TO END UP IN GOVT) or A WEALTHY BASKETBALL PLAYER (who will most likely sign a 6-figure deal to write his memoirs after he retires)....

Baby, I will fight any oloshi strolling around him, cook him egusi and pound yam daily and pray unceasingly for him

But y'all broke brothas, you will be cheating, giving me High BP, I cannot even afford to fly the kids and I out for a weekend in Dubai, instead I'm in your rented house, waiting to turn off the gen at 10pm and sleep in heat, skabashing in the darkness telling myself "he will return to my arms one day" whilst you are shouting "hallelujah!" on top of one woman in an air-conditioned hotel room somewhere....

As my aunt said to her ex-husband, "I'm leaving you because you're cheating and beating me and you cannot give me hypertension and AIDS when you haven't even built your house"

She went on to marry a widowed retired military General #CorrectWoman

happywife:
I need advice on how to cope with a cheating husband.

I have always suspected that my husband was cheating on me but confirmed it recently when i found some condoms were missing from our home n his bank statement showed payment for a hotel when i was away on a short trip .when i confronted him his stories ranged from his friend took it to i was mistaken in my counting n to i went to the room but changed my mind n left without doing anything. but his behaviour showed he was sorry for about 2 weeks then back to normal. problem now is i cant bring myself to trust him n my love for him is reducing daily.when he comes home late from work or doesn't take my calls all i can think about is that he is with another woman. To be honest it's killing me slowly cos i find myself calling him n quarrelling with him constantly.

I dont think i can leave him cos he cheated on me cos lets face it most men do i just need advice on how to cope with my emotions cos i m soo unhappy n its affecting every area of my life . Sometimes i feel like paying him in his own coin but i m a one man kind of babe.

I just want to concentrate on my kids now but how do i cope with being suspicious all d time n being jealous n bitter n a whole lot of emotions thats killing me.

jennykadry:
90% of nigerian women are stewpid

majekdom2:
my dad is about 70 , If not for an enlarged prostate he will still be chasing women.he did that till he was about 65 and was diagnosed. He won't out grow anything. Wait till he infects her or bring in other kids in the name of mistake.

babyosisi:


Nne eh
If not that I am born again and trying to stay on the straight and narrow sometimes I want to advise the wife of a cheating husband to just go out and cheat to her heart's desire
What nonsense
There are a zillion men out there that can give her a good time
She may actually feel much better afterwards
For how long will somebody pray ?
You are praying,your man is shining Congo at Sheraton
You go night vigil shouting die die die,he is at Hilton and both him and the Okpeke are very much alive
You are jumping from one prayer house to another looking haggard and emaciated ,he is jumping from one bed to another happy
Why can't the Holy Spirit just allow women take matters into their own hands eh

Sorry folks
My flesh was speaking

majekdom2:
na where me and you dey fight be this ... U no be Nigerian too.

bukatyne:


Honestly, it is terribly depressing

When I say my husband is not a Nigerian man, I know what I am talking about

It is well for our sisters.

SirShymex:


And when did broke nyggahs start cheating? The only thing broke nyggahs have and use for stress relief is their wives' pum...cos there ain't no one checking for broke nyggahs out there.

However, these women have the world on their feet...and they could have opted for divorce, and run off with half of their husbands' wealth. But they never did that. They're classy women who understand the fact that imperfection is what makes us human. And that thought their decisions through, by looking at the bigger picture.

Only nasty and needy women think about wealth as the on glue that makes marriage work. Sometimes you just have to look at the bigger picture and what the institution represents, including the kids involved.

cococandy:
who do the married women cheat with? Single guys too sometimes. It is even becoming very common these days to see lots of married women with toy boys. Then these single guys get married and think their wives won't cheat?

Karma you called it .right? Funny folks

cococandy:
who do the married women cheat with? Single guys too sometimes. It is even becoming very common these days to see lots of married women with toy boys. Then these single guys get married and think their wives won't cheat?

Karma you called it .right? Funny folks

Sweetlemon:
Reading through comments here I can't help but laff my asss off.

I just want to believe that all these small small girls forming "I can't tolerate cheating" here are just forming internet feminist warriors.

Una eye go open when you marry. The more successful your hubby is, the more women he will have around him. Just pray to marry someone that will love and respect you enough to keep it far away from you and also be smart enough to use protection, then compensate you well enough that you don't feel the pain.


Even broke assses sef dey cheat. The only difference is the frequency. Stay dere.............


My advise? marry someone that will be worth the headache and after your wedding, know ye that you are now his madam. Forget about the rest of the world and face your work. Leave the rest to God and trust me, you will be very happy!

Cheers!

SirShymex:

I think you're not looking at the bigger picture of what the guy is saying. I grew in a community where a lot of folks never really had father figures in their lives. And no matter how folks try to make excuse for it, that missing link can never be replaced. It went from that, to a stage we're right now, where being single mums and absentee dads have become cool, and that dysfunctionality has now become a vicious cycle. Affecting not just individuals, but a community.
Personally, I just think a lot of folks are selfish/self-centered and myopic. And our haste to always make rash decisions without thinking it through is our bane as a people. When folks make stupid decisions, thus getting hitched-to/marry and make babies with the wrong folks - they should be ready to live with it. Find a compromise, go to counselling, or do something - to keep that family structure intact. It's your decision and you know what you were getting into, before you got into it. Learn to carry ya cross and live with it. All these broken marriages with dysfunctional kids they keep churning out are causing problems for everyone. Just make it work in whatever way you can...single mum isn't an option.
Anyway, sholly, if you ever get married - just make sure you tell the guy who/how you're and he's someone who agrees/loves you for that. Single-mum/divorce isn't an option.

junglebook:
old stories
in asmuch as i dont surport cheating men attal,it is pertinent to note that women cheat if not as much but almost as much.
i happen to work in a place where i ve more than 4thousand women,where most are married..where dey run around young boys/maried men alike.
young ladies sleepin wit thier pastors n not even talkin abt nysc camp thrash.
men r jst too ashamed to bring up such discision abt dia wives/the wives r too damn smart to be caught.
cut men some slacks plzzzzzzz .its a 60/40 situation.