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How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by ifeemikel: 3:37pm On Aug 09, 2006
Tricks On How To Approach A Girl On The First Day

Please guys, help me out. This has been some kind of problem to me. If i see a girl for the first time I will not know what to tell her or say. Please I desparately need you guys help.
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by Busta(f): 3:47pm On Aug 09, 2006
like huh, how old are u?
I sense fear, u gotta overcome that first!

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by iice(f): 4:26pm On Aug 09, 2006
Busta:

like huh, how old are u?
I sense fear, u gotta overcome that first!
for real o
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by ifeemikel: 10:09am On Aug 10, 2006
hey guys i need you help.am old enough to have a girlfriend.please tell me the tricks
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by Damsal(f): 11:37am On Aug 10, 2006
u actually appraching the girl often depends on your surrounding. When u approach just act causal like you are approaching a friend or just any girl, walk up her and smile this would make her warm up to you if u are in a meeting/class e.t.c you can start by asking if she enjoys it or anything relating to it. Then work your way way up.
     Some other girls like a more direct approach and hate it when guys beat about the bush, so when you walk up to her don't forget to smile (It's one of your attractive weapons) tell her you've been watching her for a while, then u can get get aquainted ask her name, (If u are sweet compliment her on it, if you're not boy just nod) can aslo ask her other things, but to end it just say "Hey i'm sure a pretty gril like u already has someone, but i'd really like it if we could be friends, you know hang out sometime" if she says yes and gives you her number then ma job here is done. If she tells u she is not interested holla back at me.

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by dollypee1(f): 1:17pm On Aug 10, 2006
he says he doesnt no what 2 say when he sees a girl for d first time.
@ damsal; i just hope ho doesnt pee on his body when hes doing dat,and if d girl gives him a dirty slap consider it ur fault cos dats his first time of approachn a girl.

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by ifeemikel: 1:31pm On Aug 10, 2006
oh i must thank you so much .you have given me courange to do so .thanks a million times
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by Damsal(f): 7:14pm On Aug 10, 2006
dolly -pee:

he says he doesnt no what 2 say when he sees a girl for d first time.
@ damsal; i just hope ho doesnt pee on his body when hes doing that,and if d girl gives him a dirty slap consider it your fault because that is his first time of approachn a girl.
Lol, if he pees in his pants it's not ma fault he's clearly not doing something right. grin. It's a simple approach nothing hard.
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by otokx(m): 2:33pm On Aug 11, 2006
nice one

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by Brownsuga(f): 11:58am On Aug 21, 2006
I dont like the "tricks" part. shocked
How about "Tips" on how to approach a lady? cheesy
Doesnt that sound so much better? cool

The thing with "tricks" is it sounds so tricky, so negative and women dont like that!

So brothers, lets hear your TIPS on how best to approach a sistah! grin
BS
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by Raymand(m): 1:21pm On Aug 21, 2006
HA! whatta wimp! o boy just shack some beer, walk up to the girl, talk wetin ever come out from your mouth! haba! she be Abani Darego! una tire me ooo, just for toto! *sigh* mo i go sleep abeg! una sefu!!

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by bechex(m): 8:06am On Aug 22, 2006
Try to overcome ur shyness and grow some more confidence in urself. Think more of ur positive attributes and that will give u more confidence in urself.

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by ThoniaSlim(f): 1:19pm On Aug 22, 2006
grin grin
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by micklplus(m): 7:30am On Feb 20, 2007
hey bro, u REALLY do not need any trick for real ! the sistas aint vampires ! they aint got fangs,okay ! just be yourself and introduce a lil bit of composture, then start flowing from there. Ofcourse, u must be calculative as to what to say and what time. it might be distratrous to say the right thing at the wrong time or even the wrong thing at the right time.
Just be cool.

Cheers

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by georgies(m): 2:08pm On Feb 21, 2007
Guy,it is the easiest and hardest thing to do.this is dependant on your carriage.Do not forget your smile,it sure makes the girl comfortable.Don`t be to quick rather be calculative.She will always put up tough to get,its part of it.Look into her eyes,she will sense your confidence.This gives u a leadway.Dont try to impress her with sweet words,she probably would have heard better ones than yours.Just be you and let her see you as you are.Work on this,the issue will become history.

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by ugodaniel(m): 2:46pm On Feb 21, 2007
This is how i do it and it always worls

I will drive up to her with my Audi TT, then flash my diamond-encrusted Rolex, after that answer an imaginary call with my 3G Nokia Phone while oozing all sexy and manly with a whiff of Imperial Majesty perfume(asking price is well over $200,000).

I'm telling yu, she'll rush and enter your car even before you say anything

TRY it, it sure works for me all da time!
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by iice(f): 2:49pm On Feb 21, 2007
LMFAO *rolls eyes*
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by fellow(m): 2:52pm On Feb 21, 2007
go to www.becomeaplayer.com. Its all written for guys like you

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by domwas2(m): 3:16pm On Feb 21, 2007
CONFIDENCE IS KEY to approaching women.

For many men, approaching a pretty girl they like can feel as if they have an anxiety disorder. The nervousness and anxiety can become so bad when trying to "pick up" a pretty girl, that you might actually experience symptoms that are similar to those of a panic attack!

Now let me ask you this, when you are thinking about or are about to approach a beautiful girl that you like.

Do you experience any of these symptoms:

Hyperventilating
Jitteriness
Racing thoughts
Racing Heart Beat
Feeling sick
Stuttering
Flustered
Words come out wrong
Difficulty breathing
Lump in throat
Difficulty swallowing
Mind drawing a blank
Butterflies in tummy
Fear of stuffing up
Fear of rejection
Sweaty palms



If so, this guide will help you over come your fears and approach beautiful women with ease and confidence. No fear of rejection, no sweaty palms, no overwhelming anxiety. Just "hey baby, how's it going" with no problems of any kind!

But before we get into the "meat" of this guide, there is some very simple facts you absolutely MUST know about women that are sure to make you feel better as you go over them:

Simple Facts About Women - Most women are just as nice and friendly as you and me, they are not mean to strangers and will NOT slap you or scream "Pervert" when you approach them.

Check Your Confidence Level - When it comes to dating, a confident guy always has an edge over shy guy. As a matter of fact, you could rarely see woman approach a guy and ask for a date. Guy will make the first move, most of the time.

Eliminating Negative Self Talk - Your subconscious mind will often try to do everything within it's power to prevent you from doing what you want by telling you all kinds of nonsense.

Creating Positive Self Talk - What you ask yourself WILL directly affect your self-esteem and confidence therefore increasing your anxiety when faced with approaching a woman.

Building Your Confidence - There are many ways to build your confidence, you can work out to look and feel great, try to always look your best, or even drink a little alcohol to get a little "Liquor Courage". What I'm going to talk about is how to build your confidence by way of affirmation.

Preparation Before Approaching Woman - Have you ever approached a girl, got her attention and then had nothing to say? That can be a big braw back because silence and awkward moments will NOT help you get anyone's phone number.

Planning Your Conversation Topics - Planning your conversations, where were we? That's right, getting out the pen and paper and planning what you will say, starting with your greeting.

Dating Conversation Topics Examples - I have quite a large number of questions I have banked up that I use often on people. But I won't list all of them here. Besides some of them may not be suitable for me to mention here and I don't want to offend anyone.

Proper Breathing to Calm Down - If you hyper-ventilate or find it hard to breathe when approaching women, then this part of the book can be of great help to you.

Exercise to Reduce Anxiety and Depression - Exercise gives you more energy, helps you sleep better, makes your heart stronger, helps your circulation, increases your lung capacity expand, makes your muscles stronger.

Removing Negativity Thoughts - What can happen once you actually approach a woman, start talking to her and is that you might go blank for a second and might start getting negative thoughts.

In the beginning of this section, I gave you some simple facts about women. I reassured you that most women are just like men, they are not evil rejection machines that are out to embarrass every guy that approaches them.

Women are not the enemy, in most cases men are their own worst enemy when it comes to approaching women.

It is your negative thoughts, anxiety and fear of rejection that stops you from getting the girl you like. Of course you already know this, so what's my point?

http://www.datingclass.com/shyguy/index.shtml

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by ugodaniel(m): 3:20pm On Feb 21, 2007
@iice, why yu rolling them eyes cool
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by iice(f): 3:23pm On Feb 21, 2007
The rolling of eyes is very subtle i take it? tongue
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by ugodaniel(m): 3:38pm On Feb 21, 2007
works for moi! cool
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by iice(f): 3:42pm On Feb 21, 2007
Right. . .enjoy it
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by FactorChic(f): 12:07am On Mar 07, 2007
First, get rid of the fear of rejection.
If she's someone you see everyday, most girls can tell if a guy wants to ask her out by his first approach, and some tend to reject him immediately
you dont want it to seem like that

comment on her shoes or her dress, then walk away
the next day, smile and say hi, ask her about her day, then walk away ( do all these if she's someone u see all the time, maybe in ur school or something)

I believe with that, you are already on the leve of friendship, you dont have to be scared cos u've talked to her already
next time u see her, u can offer to help her carry whatever she's carrying, from there i'm sure something will come up
maybe u asking her to lunch, as friends and u knwo d rest, u're a guy u'll figure it out

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by CrazyMan(m): 12:32am On Mar 07, 2007
There are several steps you must take

1. Apperance: When meeting a girl for the first time it’s advisable to look very smart co’s your appearance would tell the kind of person you are.
And if you’re the type that doesn’t care about body odor you look untidy, and grow bushy hairs dang! You’ve disqualified your self.

2 Be bold: Some decades ago, shy guys were respected by girls they were seen as honest and trust worthy but unfortunately these our generation girls are so exposed that you being the guy have to fight for that superiority or else you’ll be like a remote control in her hands. So when you approach her, feel free and relax. You might be a little nervous, but you must not let her notice it until you’re done.

3 Be a good story teller: It’s also advisable to talk a little with her before telling her your feelings, this is done so as to know the kind of response you’ll get when you ask her.
Usually most girls love guys that make them happy so as you talk keep observing her ie how she responses to you how committed her response is, and how focused to you.
You must get things in order beforing firing your ultimate weapon so you won’t get rejected.
And believe me you won’t.

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by luckynzo(m): 2:20pm On Mar 08, 2007
Hey, the problem with you is fear. I suggest you map out ways you can overcome that fear first and get some confidence in yourself. You see, girls like confident guys so if you want to get ahead in your love life, learn toy be confident. A lot of guys face the same problem as you.

Here is a way you can get rid of fear of talking to a woman. Whenever you see a woman you like and want to talk to, suggest something positive to yourself. Keep on repeating to yourself: I am confident and can talk to any girl anytime anywhere. Repeat this several times ad then just go over and talk to her without giving a damn what she thinks about you. Chances are that she may respond positivel y.

Get more tips on how to approach women and get them to fall for you at www.hot-dating-tips.blogspot.com
www.approach-women-easily.blogspot.com
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by ugodaniel(m): 10:36am On Mar 28, 2007
Ever heard of the word 'GOOGLE' before dude!!! lipsrsealed
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by dblock(m): 10:59am On Mar 28, 2007
Walk up to the chick, and start twirling your tongue, this will turn her on.
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by afrikangal(f): 11:22am On Mar 28, 2007
as usual now i know say u sabi aw to talk to a lady do am da way ya papa do am.just walk to her talk to her solemnly and all da flow go just dey flow safe ma guy smiley smiley smiley smiley
Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by chidichris(m): 11:33am On Mar 28, 2007
oboy, just meet the girl, introduce urself and tell her who ur father is( obj or the late abiola).
tell her that u love her pass ur mother and she will smile.
if she smiles, then know it she has accepted.
please confirm from the girls here, as soon as u say hello to any gal, the tone of the hello will always explain to her why u said hello and whatsoever her response will be will show as soon as you tell her, i love u pass my mother.
might that not work for u let me know and i will let u try the option b

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by pathanpowe: 11:36am On Mar 28, 2007
Allright people listen up, i can clearly see none of you have ever interacted with a girl before lol. but seriously the most easy and afficiant way to approach a girl on the first date is to complament her. Then she will think you are a nice guy, then just see how things go on from there , wink

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Re: How To Approach A Girl On The First Day? by kike001(f): 12:06pm On Mar 28, 2007
try nad control ur temper i mean shes a person just like u n just say wateva comes to ur head but be a good listener n pretend as if u r intrested in wateva she wanna say n remember ladies first

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