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Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by sureteeboy(m): 9:36am On Dec 29, 2014 |
Instant Message Flirting; How to Tell a Girl Likes You Online and Through Text Messages With the advances in technology over the years, the mediums for flirting have changed. No longer do you have to meet in person or make a phone call to flirt. Thanks to instant messaging, text messaging and social networking sites, it’s easier than ever to charm a girl. Instant messaging has introduced new methods of flirting. However, many guys, such as myself have trouble picking up on flirting when it’s in person. It’s even harder to pick up on these signals online. So to help you out, I have consulted with a number of trusted women to help you find out if a girl is actually interested or if she wants nothing to do with you. I consulted some good friends Ishilove, Mukina2, Farano and others. THEY INITIATE THE CONVERSATION This seems fairly obvious but it needs to be said. If you are always the one initiating the conversation, that’s not a good sign. She needs to IM or text you initially at least some of the time. However, don’t expect that too often because even if she likes you she may not want to come off as desperate and will wait for you to start the conversation. THEY SEEM INTERESTED IN WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY This is another fairly obvious one but if she asks a lot of questions and has good responses to your comments, than you might be in luck. If you are the one always asking questions and trying to keep the conversation going, then you should probably try your luck elsewhere because you aren’t her anytime soon. Here’s what Ishilove had to say on the matter: “A good sign would be if a girl is constantly engaged in the conversation (i.e. “brb” is a BAD thing) and writes fairly long, but not too long, or too short messages. Too long and they may just consider you a friend; too short and they are just not interested.” EMOTICONS Emoticons are always a good sign. The more, the better. Big smiles and laughs are always good when flirting in person. Online is no different. Here’s what my friend Mukina2 had to say: “Without a doubt, the wink or grin is super important when flirting over aim and texts. .” Quivah agrees: “I do send quite a few of the emoticons as well, usually the winky one, the blushy one, or the big smile one.” and Prexxy1 … “The winking face is a definite flirting tool, and general teasing of whoever I’m flirting with.” EXCLAMATION POINTS Exclamation points are a great sign. Hey! Is better than Hey. What’s up!? is better than what’s up . It shows they are genuinely excited to talk to you and not just being polite. ADD-ONS TO A GREETING Any sort of add on to a greeting is usually a good sign. For example, instead of saying Hey, they say Hey there! or Hey babe . Here’s what Rocktation had to say: I’d also start off with “hi handsome” and end with “bye babe” EXTENDED WORDS Any sort of extension to a word is good. For example Heyyyyyy or Byyyyee are always good signs. Other words used are ; “greeeeatttt!” or Hiiiiiiiii! or Byeeeeeee or I knowwwww " CAPITAL LETTERS Capital letters that accentuate a point are good as well. Once again here’s what a friend noticed when digging through some old conversations: “I always seemed to be really excited about anything that you said. CAPITAL letters and all WOW nice! to anything that you said whether I understood it or not.” THEY SAY GOODBYE FIRST This was another one I was unaware of before starting this post. I had multiple responses from my “focus group” saying they always would try to sign off first. Apparently they want to make it look like they are busy. This is what my Farano had to say: “I also tried to come off busy and tried to end the conversation first. I would always say I was going out with friends or somewhere else and if he wanted to stop by that, that would be cool. I would say all sorts of things to show him that I was busy and would not be waiting around for his next move.” This could get confusing since a girl who is not interested will likely sign off first as well. This is why you need to pay attention to the other flirtation signals listed above. If you get an extended goodbye or an add-on than you might be getting lucky really soon. DISCLAIMER : All characters appearing in this article are fictitious. Any resemblance to real persons, EITHER ON NAIRALAND or NOT , is purely coincidental. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by izsmike: 9:45am On Dec 29, 2014 |
hmmmmm |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by HelenBee(f): 10:12am On Dec 29, 2014 |
That's trueee!!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by naijaboiy: 10:17am On Dec 29, 2014 |
Your disclaimer though I for once thought they really made those comments 1 Like |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by JoshuaKay(m): 10:32am On Dec 29, 2014 |
Well, from what I experience always; when a girl likes u, >she'll try to respond to every msg u sent n even initiate a conversation sometimes. > she'll use d emoticons to express what she's feeling at dat moment. Some may even use both emoticons and chat acronyms like LOL, LMAO, ROTF when u say something very hilarious n some may even say "u no well o" or "jorrr o" when u say something teasing. > she may sometimes call ur name in short form or add it to greetings, like Josh, hey Josh, hi Josh, morning josh. Trust me, when a girl address u dis way, it means u have her attention n she as well likes d attention u always give to her. >sometimes, they'll passively use words like hello luv, hi dear, thanks dear, et cetera. NOTE: THEY DON'T ALWAYS SAY GOODBYE FIRST. I am not saying they don't normally say goodbyes first but most time they just want d conversation to continue even though they r out of words to say to u. But just not to let u have d feeling dat they r trying to snub u, they won't say d word "bye". What I do at moments like dat is to quickly tell them 'catch ya later' or 'see ya later'. And d response would be "Ok or Aiit", they may add dear, luv, smiling emoticon or simply leave it like that. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by Crocz(m): 10:35am On Dec 29, 2014 |
Nice write up...but |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by quivah(f): 10:44am On Dec 29, 2014 |
true that!!! that describes me.. even when I really wanna ignore/snub you..I find it hard I'm working on it tho |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by quivah(f): 10:56am On Dec 29, 2014 |
nice writeup op!.. but I disagree with 3 and 8..for me emoticons; I use emoticons always, to describe my mood.. either am feeling you or not.. when I'm angry, I use it when I'm smiling, I use it when I'm blushing, I use it when you are saying rubbish, I use the appropriate smiley etc so it depends on my mood and not cause I'm digging you. they say goodbye first; maybe not me.. I hate to say goodbye or hear it even when theres no more topics to discuss, I won't wanna end the chats.. lets just keep talking please. I can count the number of times I initiated the 'bye ttyl' msg with my bf.. it has always be coming from him, which normally hits me with a little touch of pain..but it has to happen na number one just describes me, but I'm beginning to read some other meaning to it, and might soon stop or reduce it. PS; I was like na when this op interview me fa still I saw the disclaimer |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by JoshuaKay(m): 11:15am On Dec 29, 2014 |
quivah: Nothing do u sis |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by sureteeboy(m): 11:32am On Dec 29, 2014 |
quivah:lol Maybe I should reduce them to 7. It seems people are not agreeing totally with that no 8. |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by dubylhover(m): 11:39am On Dec 29, 2014 |
Guys don't b decieved totally oo ,sum of dese girls wud become so chatty nd friendly when dier bis or subscription is almost xpired.so we wee b d rechargers . |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by benuejosh: 12:08pm On Dec 29, 2014 |
partial truth |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by mhyra(f): 12:39pm On Dec 29, 2014 |
hahahahaha! Okay, I love this!! |
Re: Instant Message Flirting; 8 Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You Online During Chat by Nobody: 11:55pm On Dec 29, 2014 |
Urm, if this was true, den all the ladies i have been chatting with ever since had a crush on me....which would be a very big fat lie..... Cmon guys, lets not b decieved by such...... |
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