i agreed not to rush my 6 months girlfriend about sex bcuz we plant o get married, but she leaves for her nysc year in february.we havent had sex. i'm worried that if i don't sex her she will be captured in her nysc year. what do i do? am i worrying over nothin? am i riskin every thing if i don't have sex with her? someone please help me out here before i make a mistake. i don't want to loose her. i love her with everything.

if she loves you she will return after the youth service. just pray she does'nt get carried away.

another insecure loser . You dont derserve her.

having sex is not a fulfilment of ur manhood,rather a lack of self contol outside marriage, whats wrong with all these young bloods, that u can produce a baby doesn't make u a man, u would lose her when u have sex with her, i bet u that.let her go to NYSC with that trust, infact what do u guys talk about in quiet moments, u better start thinking of your future dude.

@ lekki2
why should sex destroy a loving relationship and not enhance it? dont forget that in these mordern times lots of youths tend not to be virgins by the time they are 19.i included.i am 29 years old.this girl i want to marry.so i am only trying to make the right choice.

@poster if you really want to have sex with her before she leaves, then tell her if she don't want to she will tell you.
you are worry over nothing

hidden

mr man. rattle the whole etu, and do it etu-siatically

what i mean is make sure u shake the whole area well well b4 she

leaves,cos once they are out of your sight, they are no longer yours

anything can happen. so take your opportunities while u can. goodluck.

If ur r/ship is just 6mths just like u said and it is just starting to blossom then u have an advantage because both of u will b unconsciously looking forward to d next moment. Believe me there is nothing like suspense and anticipation in any r/ship. 2ndly, if she's still a virgin (up till this stage in her life) coupled with the above mentioned factors then ur r/ship is still safe because they r hardly adventurous at this stage in life (which is y i personally never wants to meet any at this stage in my life ). However, if none of these factors r playing for u, then just let fate determine u guys path. Good luck pal!

Hi D obama,

Although, having sex with her is a like consolation if she leaves, however, having sex does not also guarantee that she will stay.

Pls let her be, dont do it. what will b will b

Just b prepared, it could get better or worse. U can see am battling wit mine now!!! women are wonderful.

take care

even if u make love to her 50times,she will still leave u if she is nt urs,bros love no b everything

try and talk to her, let her no that you trust her completely. even if you are not there with her you still trust her. Ori Lomo

guy if u luv her, let her go; if she's urs, she will come back 2 u. hwever if all u dream about all day n night is making luv 2 her, den talk to her about it. but b ready 2 accept wat she gives 2 u. n remember u hav no business being in dat relationship if u don't trust her.

I don't get it

What makes you think that if you have sex with her, she won't cheat, find somebody else etc

i don't want her to ever leave,and i have been helping her so much.like tomorow i will give her 10 000 naira for her french lesssons. she knows the sacrifice it is for me to give her that .and

the fact that i don't "take any thing back" in return when helping her should convince her more. its only that my friends from way back have this saying that if you hadnt had sex with your chick you are holding her with just two fingers. so i wonder which part is wise here

People have wahala, sha.

free ur mind dis guy
the thing is these days trust is hard.boys cheat girls cheat and it isnt until u sex that u can uphold her loyalty.let her go and try to just love her ur own way

me think you should free your mind and hope for the best,
it will be better to maintain a good reletionship filled with trust and love than bothering yourself about sleeping with her,
you may not be okay afterwards cos of the motive,
most guys feel sorry immediately they sleep with a girl in the category you are in,

@Poster, see just free your mind and hope for the best. If she wants to have sex, let it be because she wants to give it to you, not
because you want to "consolidate". Don't force her, abeg. Free her, love her, let her go for nysc. Don't listen to the insults of people calling u an insecure loser, lots of guys have experienced what you are in, its nothing new.
If she wants to give it to you, it will happen naturally, virgin or not. Focus on more important things in your rlationship, i.e trust, love, etc

@POSTER

Guy! If you don't sleep with her before she goes to camp, then be rest assured that:

1. She will be heavily saturated with orgasms by other bad guys in camp or place of primary assignment

2. She might end up not being your girlfriend by the time she comes back or finishes NYSC

So the best thing is to d everything possible to sleep with her continously before she goes unless, you would have just been another romantic loverboy taking care of another man's property.

Don't fall for all that insecure nonsense talk on nairaland by some people. You are not insecure but extremely secure and brave to bring out this topic. If she goes, she is NOT coming back as a fresh meat for you. She will be heavily boned by some other guy and its better you cane her well before she goes so that at least she will miss that part of you, but if you think she will bother to worry herself about how nice, cool and kind you are before she comes back then, sorry to say "Your out of your mind"

Better sleep with her now and rest your mind, and when she is off, try to get another chic by the side while she is during "attention" both on the parade ground and in Bed with another man!

Better sharp up you this man! Naija chicks today don't send you! Its either you chop them first or they chop you down!

Tis all depending on if she also loves you the way you do. ladies could be funny at times.

Obama

The Nysc orientation camp is the Government sponsored Largest free fuckfest in the world

When i was in camp, i the chic i rammed was a virgin.
So Boy, i'd advise you to tap that ass or risk spending the rest o ur days wondering what might've been

If she wants to go into the camp a virgin and come back out a virgin, she can do it

Some girls have morals and virtues u know

Why are you worrying yourself sick?

Don't be decieved by what almost everyone is saying!

Cheiii!! na Brash be this?

Na me

U dey find me?

Just surprised at your post, baby.

Ebony-Silk:

Just surprised at your post, baby.

How can you not know Brash by now

The guy get plenty sense

lol, not surprised at that.

@ Post

What is the big deal? If she has kept it for this long surely she won't lose it at camp. Stop worrying over nothing and trust her.

@ poster, listen to a word of advice from moi--- please have sex and better still make love to your girlfriend before she leaves for her youth corp but that will not guarantee if she will eventually marry you or not, but at least you wont feel like a looser, if she comes back from her service and start singing another love song for a different brother,  Make love to her not too often before she leaves on february .

thanx guys, we've agreed to go to the next level.  feel ya in if it eventaly happens.  the one thoing i know is tha for now this girl really realy loves me. left to me right now nysc should be banned.