cococandy:
I read that thread too. More men cussed the guy out than ladies. Are they feminists too?
What's with the obsession?
there's nothing wrong with a woman sticking to her faith. Everyone should be responsible for their own salvation. You won't be the one to stand for her on the great judgement day. So the choice of where and how to worship should be the exclusive right of every grown adult.
Problem is they should have been in agreement before marriage. Big mistake
All I can say is that you still have a lot of growing to do if you're the one that typed this.
Just get married first. Let's see how your family will make it without you helping out around the house. Except you have a wife who's willing to be a fulltime house wife. No extra job.
If not, you can't get away from house work except you're prepared for a crashed marriage:
Or you literally marry a mule or work horse. Literally.
you must have met a lot of disturbed ladies. Get them help:

aisha2:


You sha have energy to fetch water with a basket
Goodluck. He has a disturbing idea of what marriage neans and is ready to defend it with his life, dont bother, only pray he never gets married and subjects an innocent persons child to this trash he believes

cococandy:
I blame the women who encourage such nonsense by the kind of training they give their sons.

aisha2:


Enough of blaming the mothers. The fathers probably did the same thing and they are coping
Not everything is a woman's fault.

cococandy:

Well it is unproductive to blame the fathers in my opinion (even though I like to)
human beings being selfish won't like to change a system that favors them.
Waiting for a man who is law unto himself to teach a son that marriage is more than getting his ego stroked and all his bullsh1t swallowed will just be a waste of time.
It is left for the women to show their sons by the way they relate with their fathers and by the teachings they give their kids that marriage is not all about the man but about the couple and kids.
Most of them grew up seeing their moms swallow poo all the time. It will be hard to disabuse their minds when they are grown of the notion that their wives have to replicas of their moms.
It starts from the foundation.

armyofone:
Owen,

Good thing you said it yourself that you're planning to have three money spinning machines before you marry
May they never run dry.
We all pray for men with strong head on their shoulders
All hands must be on deck for marriage to be successful. If she is serving you BF/dinner all the time, make efforts to serve her too. And be understanding when she is tired.

Happy new year.

I thought you’d taken care of all the cultural know-how every lady should possess, that you’d instilled discipline in her. I believed you made hard work a priority and that all your daughters knew the drill, from sweeping the house and doing the laundry. I’ve been doing that myself all this years; I wash my clothes because Madam cannot use the washing machine.

I sweep my room, lay my bed and even
cook sometimes. Your daughter is always too busy with her phones to notice anything. You should come around unannounced one of these days; you’d think she’s the maid.
She’s always looking unappealing, like
one who needs sometime with the
Shrink.

My people are scared for me; especially my Mother until death took her.
Right in front of my younger sister I
scrubbed the floors of the house in our
second year and none of your daughters cared to help. Your ounger daughter was with us on
holidays then

cococandy:
I read that thread too. More men cussed the guy out than ladies. Are they feminists too?
What's with the obsession?

there's nothing wrong with a woman sticking to her faith. Everyone should be responsible for their own salvation. You won't be the one to stand for her on the great judgement day. So the choice of where and how to worship should be the exclusive right of every grown adult.

Problem is they should have been in agreement before marriage. Big mistake

All I can say is that you still have a lot of growing to do if you're the one that typed this.

Just get married first. Let's see how your family will make it without you helping out around the house. Except you have a wife who's willing to be a fulltime house wife. No extra job.
If not, you can't get away from house work except you're prepared for a crashed marriage:
Or you literally marry a mule or work horse. Literally.
you must have met a lot of disturbed ladies. Get them help:

cococandy:
Your fear of marriage (from your posts )
so far can be summarized thus:
1) you're afraid of getting married to a
woman who won't tolerate your
cheating because it is in the blood and
you can't help it
2) you're afraid of actually doing your own house work. Your own family
home! Smh
3)you may not live a good life if you
marry a wife who doesn't kneek down
to greet you. What a funny feargrin In summary you don't have any
genuine fear. Just the regular spoiled nigerian dude who has been raised to think a dyck gives him extra priviledges and is growing up to realize that life is not really like that hence the fear to go into a kind of life he wasn't aware of until now. Times have changed. Get with the program or get left behind.

KanwuliaJara:
Please, pity us o!
We are really suffering!
Nigerian marriages NA HELL!

aisha2:


A woman who has been emotionally and totally mentally abused cannot be in the right state of mind to teach any lessons. She would have been told to stay fast and pray, everyone telling her that cannot be wrong she reasons. I would only blame her for not loving herself enough to remove herself from a bad situation, I wont totally blame her for a son turning out like his dad, it takes two. Child raising is not all on the woman

Mondisweets:
Only on nairaland is the definition of feminism:- male bloodsucking vampires

Mondisweets:
Only on nairaland is the definition of feminism:- male bloodsucking vampires

oweniwe:


so... How would you define feminism?

Mondisweets:

Feminist theory aims to understand gender inequality and focuses on gender politics, power relations, and sexuality. While providing a critique of these social and political relations, much of feminist theory also focuses on the promotion of women's rights and interests. Themes explored in feminist theory include discrimination, stereotyping, objectification (especially sexual objectification), oppression, and patriarchy.

Mondisweets:

Feminist theory aims to understand gender inequality and focuses on gender politics, power relations, and sexuality. While providing a critique of these social and political relations, much of feminist theory also focuses on the promotion of women's rights and interests. Themes explored in feminist theory include discrimination, stereotyping, objectification (especially sexual objectification), oppression, and patriarchy.

oweniwe:


thats where the problem is.... something... The most important thing was excluded... The family...!!...

....."politics, power relations, and sexuality. While providing a critique of these social and political relations, much of feminist theory also focuses on the promotion of women's rights and interests"...... There's nowhere the family is taken into consideration here, which could mean feminism is not meant to be even 'tried" at home...!!...


I now see why most women who try to apply feminism to the home front end up broken into pieces

Mondisweets:
If feminism doesn't take into account family tell me why many feminists are married?

oweniwe:


"feminism" is not written on women's head so you cant really say who is or who is not a feminist...

Even dos u are referring to... Though they may practice it at work or at social gatherings.... When at home, they're very traditional....

Mondisweets:
please just go to sleep abeg

oweniwe:


come and sing lullaby for me

Mondisweets:
You want to damage your ear drums? Okay challenge accepted

oweniwe:


is your voice so loud....??....

Louder than a 1,200 watts woofer...??..

If its not above that, then my ears will gladly welcome your mondisweet voice

Mondisweets:

oweniwe:

my ears are made of brass

Mondisweets:
Pics or you are lying

oweniwe:


if i post the pixs, i will be banned.....!!...

But must u sing at the top of your voice...??... Dont you pity your lungs....??..

Well, morning don reach.... I don sleep.... I don wake..... Is there still any need for lullaby.....

Mondisweets:
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