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Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 9:01pm On Jan 01, 2015 |
cococandy: You sha have energy to fetch water with a basket Goodluck. He has a disturbing idea of what marriage neans and is ready to defend it with his life, dont bother, only pray he never gets married and subjects an innocent persons child to this trash he believes 3 Likes |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by cococandy(f): 9:40pm On Jan 01, 2015 |
aisha2:I blame the women who encourage such nonsense by the kind of training they give their sons. |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 9:46pm On Jan 01, 2015 |
cococandy: Enough of blaming the mothers. The fathers probably did the same thing and they are coping Not everything is a woman's fault. |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 9:56pm On Jan 01, 2015 |
OP, all u said is the effin truth |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by cococandy(f): 10:44pm On Jan 01, 2015 |
aisha2: Well it is unproductive to blame the fathers in my opinion (even though I like to) human beings being selfish won't like to change a system that favors them. Waiting for a man who is law unto himself to teach a son that marriage is more than getting his ego stroked and all his bullsh1t swallowed will just be a waste of time. It is left for the women to show their sons by the way they relate with their fathers and by the teachings they give their kids that marriage is not all about the man but about the couple and kids. Most of them grew up seeing their moms swallow poo all the time. It will be hard to disabuse their minds when they are grown of the notion that their wives have to replicas of their moms. It starts from the foundation. |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 4:09am On Jan 02, 2015 |
Only on nairaland is the definition of feminism:- male bloodsucking vampires |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 6:57am On Jan 02, 2015 |
cococandy: A woman who has been emotionally and totally mentally abused cannot be in the right state of mind to teach any lessons. She would have been told to stay fast and pray, everyone telling her that cannot be wrong she reasons. I would only blame her for not loving herself enough to remove herself from a bad situation, I wont totally blame her for a son turning out like his dad, it takes two. Child raising is not all on the woman |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 7:49am On Jan 02, 2015 |
armyofone: you made me all smiles...!!.... helping out with house chores is not a problem oo.... Its jus that... Some women, when they have seen that you can do those things well, they will start feinging tired, sick then stroll majestically around the house while u're washing.... Lemme searc out this thing.... Letter To My Uncaring Father-In- Law: I thought you’d taken care of all the cultural know-how every lady should possess, that you’d instilled discipline in her. I believed you made hard work a priority and that all your daughters knew the drill, from sweeping the house and doing the laundry. I’ve been doing that myself all this years; I wash my clothes because Madam cannot use the washing machine. www.nairaland.com/2066994/letter-uncaring-father-in-law thats what i mean.... Once she know you can do those things, she will start misbehaving 1 Like |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 9:09am On Jan 02, 2015 |
cococandy: you're the one who needs to loosen your rigid mentality.... There's nothing wrong with sticking with one's church....ok.... They should have agreed before marriage abi...??... I know your kind of ladies... Before marriage, they will acting soft and sweet... Which lady will jeopardize the prospect of getting married by refusing to go her fiance's church?..... It is only after the wedding that they will start those strong head-uncompromising rules.... There's nothing wrong with going to your spouse's church once in a blue moon.... But refusing to go to husband church at all even when he do visit your church sometimes if invited.... Maybe you don't know simple issues like that do crash marriages.... you're the one who need to grow up.... Every group have their own culture... Even the Americans you look up to have their culture.... When you get married to somebody, you have to jell and move alone with the person's cultural orientation too... Otherwise... Am sorry to say... The marriage wont last long. On my side here, women dont knee down to greet men and neither do men postrate to greet elders, just bow a little.... Though i grew up in the west... After uni and nysc in the east, i went to abeokuta for a visit and was shocked to see ladies bending knees to greet and guys semi-postrating for elders.... Now my point is... Assuming you marry a yoruba guy and after wedding, you lock head and say "since kneeling down is not a part of my culture, i will not kneel down to greet my husband or inlaws again".... No matter how gentle/easy going the husband may be, he will not be happy if his mom comes to visit and you dont knee down to greet her... If you are an Idemili woman... You told your husband that they dont kill python in your village...and yet he killed a small python in the compound, will you be happy..??... Its not about kneeling down... Its about the culture... If you say u no wan kneel to greet ur husband, go marry onyibo..!!.. If i say ladies are hypocrites now, you will call me a chauvinist... You do know most ladies prefer men who can control them and yet you're forming "they are crazy ladies"... Naija women will say something and do the opposite... Am sure you're one of those strong willed ladies who will say they need a man who can control their wild part 2 Likes |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 9:15am On Jan 02, 2015 |
cococandy: where did i say i will cheat on my wife..??... I said the basic reason why people cheat is cos they've been involved in multiple relationships in the past so find it hard to stay faithful after marriage... Does that mean i jump jump into every skirt i see...??... Maybe you didnt do psychology... There is something called "observation method" in psychology...Ok....!!... I dont want to do house chore..??.. You make me laugh... I dont have any problem with that.... I do cook for myself and clean my house, ok...??... What am not cool with is a woman using that as excuse not to do her job... "darling, am having headache, pls do the cooking".... I say ok...go to the kitchen only to come out and see her watching kardeshians while tapping Z10.... I know you're just teasing me jor so i'll let it pass.....!!... Little things like kneeling down does matter o.... Naija women and double dealings.... Do as i say but not as i do... Na una same women forming here go open mouth condemn a divorced lady say, "see your marriage have crash now, what is inside kneeling down that you cannot do for your husband/inlaws" ... .... If a guy refuse to open car door for you on a date... Or forgot ur birthday.... You will be screaming blue murder..... i nor fit touch any lady who reason like that... Even with a very loooongg stick 1 Like |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by KanwuliaJara: 9:20am On Jan 02, 2015 |
Please, pity us o! We are really suffering! Nigerian marriages NA HELL! 1 Like |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 10:27am On Jan 02, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: Nigerian marriages are not hell ooo just that the couple refuse to reach compromise over little issues...and those things later turn to big quarrels.. The key is nipping those little things when they crop up and not waving them off cos they tend to build up over time when ignored.... Is it American or British marriage that is sweet..??... Why then do they divorce anyhow...??.... Kate henshaw wey seperate from onyibo husband... Na naija marriage..??... What about Tai & Sheila sholarin...??... That woman (sheila) try... !!... |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 10:36am On Jan 02, 2015 |
aisha2: one thing i have observed about you... Is that you give up on challenges easily.... Na to pack and waka.... Every woman facing problem in marriage should pack abi? If she leave and d kids take after their father, whose fault is it? Women dont have their own palava too? Abeg make we clap for you....!!.. 2 Likes
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Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by papi7007: 12:03pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Marriage is a journey embarked on between two individuals from different background and often times also with different upbringing. For these reasons, friction and misunderstanding is likely to erupt between newly married couples at the initial stage because you suddenly realise your ways of doing things are not the same. The blame game sets in, you try to correct and manipulate other half to suit your way all in a jiffy, arguments arises, I don't like this, you don't do that, why not do that, do it that way etc. From experience, here are few pointers I think can sustain a marriage. 1) Money is the manure for love; A man must provide for his family. 2) marriage should not be seen as a competition, it's a joint effort 3) effective communication should be established without raising eyebrows 4) There must be trust between both partners, no need sniffing around looking for clues to distrust your other half 5) Give each other some space every now and then, travel away and spend time alone. It will allow you miss each other and might just re ignite the love . 6) A wife must, except when ill be willing to give her body to her husband when he's in need. Do not deny your husband of sex if you want to keep him. Try to initiate it and spice it up with different positions. I will add more soonest. ...... 1 Like |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by lilmax(m): 12:07pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Mondisweets:this is 2015 |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 1:07pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Mondisweets: so... How would you define feminism? 1 Like |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 1:14pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
oweniwe:Feminist theory aims to understand gender inequality and focuses on gender politics, power relations, and sexuality. While providing a critique of these social and political relations, much of feminist theory also focuses on the promotion of women's rights and interests. Themes explored in feminist theory include discrimination, stereotyping, objectification (especially sexual objectification), oppression, and patriarchy. |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by babygirlfl: 1:15pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Mondisweets: |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 1:38pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Mondisweets: thats where the problem is.... something... The most important thing was excluded... The family...!!... ....."politics, power relations, and sexuality. While providing a critique of these social and political relations, much of feminist theory also focuses on the promotion of women's rights and interests"...... There's nowhere the family is taken into consideration here, which could mean feminism is not meant to be even 'tried" at home...!!... I now see why most women who try to apply feminism to the home front end up broken into pieces 2 Likes |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 1:42pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
oweniwe:If feminism doesn't take into account family tell me why many feminists are married? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 3:40pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Mondisweets: "feminism" is not written on women's head so you cant really say who is or who is not a feminist... Even dos u are referring to... Though they may practice it at work or at social gatherings.... When at home, they're very traditional.... 2 Likes |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 3:45pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
oweniwe:please just go to sleep abeg |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 4:49pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Mondisweets: come and sing lullaby for me |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 4:52pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
oweniwe:You want to damage your ear drums? Okay challenge accepted |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 5:22pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Mondisweets: is your voice so loud....??.... Louder than a 1,200 watts woofer...??.. If its not above that, then my ears will gladly welcome your mondisweet voice |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 5:27pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
oweniwe:Its can break a glass |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 5:31pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Mondisweets:my ears are made of brass |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 5:34pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Pics or you are lying oweniwe: |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 7:14am On Jan 03, 2015 |
Mondisweets: if i post the pixs, i will be banned.....!!... But must u sing at the top of your voice...??... Dont you pity your lungs....??.. Well, morning don reach.... I don sleep.... I don wake..... Is there still any need for lullaby..... |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 9:15am On Jan 03, 2015 |
oweniwe:I dont know any lullabies o grew up in the village, while others were learning lullabies we were busy throwing stones at each other by the stream |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by oweniwe(m): 9:39am On Jan 03, 2015 |
Mondisweets: surely, you must know how to sing folklores then |
Re: I Dont Envy Married People At All by Nobody: 8:49am On Jun 06, 2018 |
LMAO. Funny and very true |
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