This is how it all goes. I saw this fine girl in school December at night, and I asked a friend to call her for me from where we sat. The guy proceeded to call her. She came and meet me and I talked to her maturely. She later asked me to stroll her down to her hostel. We got to the front of the hostel and I gave her my number which she flashed. Throughout December before I went for the short Christmas break we scheduled several times to meet but none of us had the chance. I sent her happy new year shoutout. I called her three days later and we talked fine, she even agreed to my request for us to meet and talk.

To cut the long story short, after several postponement, we finally met tonight at a boarding house in front of her hostel. Before I reached there she was already calling that she is sitting a nd waiting for me. I went to school from town only to see her. Mind u the very first night we talked she already told me she has a guy. I sat close to her as we exchanged pleasantry. She was coughing and I used that as a starting point of discussion, urging her to take sum pills. I must confess that I was skeptical of meeting this girl to night due to ''what-to-say problem''. After advising her to try cough relieving drugs, she smiled and showed gratitude for my concern. I then tried as much as possible to make the discussion flow naturally, without any awkwardness. I showered her praise at appropriate times. She complained of feeling very cold, that she came out cos doesn't want to disappoint me. I thanked her. I told her to tell me about herself. She very briefly did. She then asked me why I sent someone to call her that first day we met instead of me to have approach her myself, saying she thought that is kind of old fashioned. I quickly said that after I told the guy that I've been noticing her for some time, he decided to call her for me. She coughed again and I patted her on her back softly. Note that before I even sat down I have touched her in a very obvious manner and she acted ''somehow'', but after sometimes, the ''somehow'' reaction from her stopped. She asked if I came to school this night just for her and I nodded. She smiled and appreciated.

Noticing the way I talk, she asked if I have deficiency with speaking well, as in the sense that is my tongue finding it difficult to move. I explained that the reason was that my mouth was very dry due to the harmattan. She told me it was not normal, that she doesn't feels her tongue is dry at all. I insisted the condition is normal for me, and that she should not forget our body is different. Since she is studying Chemistry, she began to explain why it is not normal, why it is obstructing my attempt to be effortless at speaking fluently, yada yada yadas. She advised me to seek for help, that if possible I should ask Google before I sleep tonight. SHE was literally begging me to take medication. I was just playing along, pretending I was taking her serious. She also asked me a little stuff about myself. She then said she wanted to go inside cos she was feeling very cold. She told me she can't ''escort'' me. I nodded sheepishly in agreement.
''I like your cap'', she said.
''Thank you'', I said as I snapped the cap with my fingers. I asked if we could go on a date, she reply by reminding me she is in a relationship. I protested that it doesn't matter. She told me it would take some little moment. We walked a bit to a place with so much light, and told me she was going back. She asked me to greet that my friend and that I should sleep well,
''Byeeee'' she muttered in a girly voice
''Bye'', replied I enthusiastically,
''Bye'', I awkwardly repeated, trying to feminize my word,but there was no more words from her. I went to park, picked a cab and went back to town beginning to feel very bad. I began to wonder why didn't I even shake her hands before I go, and even make some sexually suggestive move?
''Very dull boy'', I hissed out loud in disgust even while still in the taxi. I then tried her number twice but she didn't pick. I was mad at myself for my untold stup.dity, and began to feel depressed till now...

ROMANCELANDERS, PLEASE WHAT REALLY WENT WRONG?? WHY DID I FEEL SUDDENLY DEPRESSED, DISGUSTED AND UNIMPRESSED WITH MYSELF? YOUR OBSERVATIONS WOULD REALLY HELP ME TO URGENTLY PUT THINGS RIGHT. LADIES...GUYS, MAYK NA NO LEAVE ME LYK THIS, ABEG!
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Bros, in my own view oo u tried. Me no fit reach dat level with gals xo dnt feel bad

bros nawaaoo....u tried naa haba....just take it easy,one step at a time..u rilly tried being a gentleman

OP, let's cut to the chase; this girl is not really into you. Read the handwriting on the wall. There's a woman for every man. You'll find yours someday. Meanwhile I'd say you didn't Do anything wrong. The issue is that she already told you from the onset that she's in a relationship(which obviously she cherishes). Move on. I wish you the best.

I may reply better much later in the day.

But if I were to give you my candid opinion, I would say you should forget about the girl,not because you've blown your chances as you've so wrongly evaulated your actions, but becaue SHE'S ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP. The most noble and honourable thing to do as a guy whom I think is matured is to leave her alone.The best you can be to her if you choose to,which I wouldn't even put too much weight behind, is being her friend.

Cheers.

Bro keep calm in fact don't call her again
am sure she is not dat into u however if she likes u a bit then she will definitely flash u d usual way again but dat won't b now

@MizMaColi, I sight you, you better say something o.

Thanks guys for the answers above. I believe so many guys out there face similar stuff. I was hoping I can still get her though

Don't sweat it bro if she truly enjoyed ur company she will call u,don't try to call her again

if u call her again...i go use my left hand take slap ur right eyes..

just kidding.....

take a step backward...and four steps forward...
my friend...please move ahead jor..if not..d girl go do u chengey!!!

Don't call her. However, if you continue your game this way, you're sitting on a keg of gunpowder! Navigate here to step up: https://www.nairaland.com/1553594/improve-dating-game-here-see

Lmao

Say whatever comes to mind. Believe in yourself. First impressions are a two way street.

Dadada... Superwoman to the rescue. Okay Mr man let's eveluate your performance.


Lemme start by pointing out that, that girl is very nice and she might be into you and if at all she is in a relationship, she's looking for a way out.

Okay, senerio num 1 someone called her for you and she came wow. In this 21st century, my brother that girl is a keeper oh she's humble and like I said might be desperating looking for love or escape from her present guy (whom doesn't show her care n love) so she prob taught to herself "what kind of proud guy sends someone to call a girl in 2015 (which by the way she told u later) hmmm lemme just go and see him n try my luck its not as if the person I'm with even cares"


Senerio num 2 after your first meeting she was impressed and so into you, I'm sure you noticed it. She spoke with you on phone, was eager to meet you, came out shivering and got to your meeting point first do u need a prophet to tell u dat she likes you? A girl dat doesn't like u won't even pick ur call if na me I for no even come dat first day you called me




Case study num 3 she wanted more from you. She wasn't exafctlt too impressed with your secound meeting. She was evaluating you the whole time and u kept failing. Not all girls arethe same some girls like gentle men and some (most) like bad boys. U were a gentle guy and that's cool but this your damsel wanted more; I'm not saying u should come on strong but from all indications, her presently guy doesn't show her love and she wants to nbe sure dat if she leaves him for u, u won't be the same as he is. So all the time she was testing how considerate you are of her. She told u she was cold, she expected you to cover her with your jacket if you had one or suggest a more closed (secluded) area for both of u to stay were the wind isn't brushing against her skin or insist that she goes back to her dorm and get a cardigan or postpone the meeting and tell her that you came to see her but u can't let her put her health at risk for u (she would have gone back to hold her pillow and dream of u all night) u should have done sunthin more, she came out in her state to see you (wow again, so into u).

When u asked her on a date and she told u she has a boyfriend its cuz she's trying to test how eager you are to be with her despite all odds. Maybe she is in a relationship maybe not but the truth is where was her so called bf wen she was meeting with u or making numerous attempts to see u. The truth is, she likes u but she doesn't want to be a fool, she wants you to want her so wen you meet her next time (and u will) turn on your charm. Don't be too gentle next time, call her n tell her you've a resturant for you guys to see, wen you pick her up don't just hug her, peck her on the cheek tell her she's beautiful. Tell her you know she's in a relationship but you can't help but like her so much, tell her your appreciate her coming to see you again... Ask nairaland guys for romance advise them be expert for this area. Tell us wen the thing has clicked, Thank me later

Wow bruh!! u tried, really!! if u can reach dat level of coversation with a single girl, with preference apart, she'll b urs no doubt.. n u ddnt put a foot wrong, u did well

The last two posters were great, esp @DSuperWoman. But that part where she didn't pick my call though...somebody that if I call before she would pick before I spell Jack Robinson, nawao.


Seriously is this all what Nairalanders can offer me? I need help, infact Rock station, Farano, Seun, Pasqal09, kindly help a needy Romance lander push this to the front page, ejoor, biko. Thanks.

She's not picking cuz u failed her test or maybe she wasn't with her phone and expects you to call back. She picked before because after meeting for the first time she was impressed and taught you were her prince charming but now she's kinda disapointed so you'll have to prove yourself. You can send her a text saying you've been calling but maybe she didn't see ur calls (don't say she's nt picking oh we dnt like getting blamed for stuff even wen we are wrong) tell her it was nice to see her the other day n u realsed u were a bit inconsiderate about pulling her out to see you, despite her health and that you're sorry. Tell her you'll love to get another chance to leave a better impression and that she should call or flash when she gets this. Like I said earlier she seems like the kind of girl dat would want you to persist in chasing her, so she might be testing you again. If I were her though I would appreciate it more if you show up n suprise me. If u have the time u can wait for her outside her dorm or class and be like "hi I've missed you or something" now that would really blow me off my feet #winks

OmoUSH:
The last two posters were great, esp @DSuperWoman. But that part where she didn't pick my call though...somebody that if I call before she would pick before I spell Jack Robinson, nawao.


Seriously is this all what Nairalanders can offer me? I need help, infact Rock station, Farano, Seun, Pasqal09, kindly help a needy Romance lander push this to the front page, ejoor, biko. Thanks.

bros...this babe sure die... just make sure dat the next time u see her..kiss her...she'd somehow like it or she'll feel bad..if she feels bad..tell her u're sorry nd try another time again... but guy..na me dey tell u..dis babe sure die..ok?
just be cool nd man-up...after all wats the worst dat can happen sef?

iamsolomon:
bros...this babe sure die... just make sure dat the next time u see her..kiss her...she'd somehow like it or she'll feel bad..if she feels bad..tell her u're sorry nd try another time again... but guy..na me dey tell u..dis babe sure die..ok?
just be cool nd man-up...after all wats the worst dat can happen sef?

Big ups to u Solo. I'll try my best

Guy Ehnnn U try gan ...U sabi ...I no fit finish stage 1 d way u finish am I swear

OmoUSH:
The last two posters were great, esp @DSuperWoman. But that part where she didn't pick my call though...somebody that if I call before she would pick before I spell Jack Robinson, nawao.


Seriously is this all what Nairalanders can offer me? I need help, infact Rock station, Farano, Seun, Pasqal09, kindly help a needy Romance lander push this to the front page, ejoor, biko. Thanks.

Your chance to date her is still intact and a lot of advice has been given. wish you gudluck ....

besides,u skul in OAU?

apparentlylaw:
Guy Ehnnn U try gan ...U sabi ...I no fit finish stage 1 d way u finish am I swear

Maaaaaan, thanks for showing up on this thread.

@DSuperWoman, I really appreciate your comments. I don't have the time to be ''lurking'' about her class cos I've exams and tests by the corner, by the way won't I seem jobless and desperate by doing that? U know something about me? I'm the kind of introvert that learned hard to seem a ''bad, naughty guy'' to lot of ladies. I bet you they like and always stare at me in bunch. the other day inside GTBank in school where I went to collect my ATM, a lot of girls, including fellow guys were staring at me to the extent one couldn't control herself, before she knew it she was talking to me, blushing and smiling. This has always been the case with me and it was this that really got me extra-confident in my career of being a ''bad, naughty guy'',lol. The other day a fine gal came to students relaxation building around 10:30 pm, actually two guys and two gals. She sat on the long iron bench behind, while the rest three sat at the front playing Konami. Immediately I came, she looked up and gaze at me for some seconds. To cut the long damn story short can u believe I nearly unzipped this girl's bra. On the way, i have even pulled her hair and advised her to make it natural. I played with her fingers, scratch her palms, and each time she would turn and look at me, saying with a baby voice, ''I'll flog u o'', each time she said that my reply was ''flog me now, I'd only cry'', in a tone mimicking her voice. Meanwhile, her friends at the back occasionally look back to see me handling her, I never gave a damn. To everybody, she seemed my girlfriend. Just as I was gently unzipping her bra from behind while she pretend to sleep, her friends terminated their konami and she slowly got up and followed them, almost simultaneously one riff-raff of a guy came and destabilised my mind by begging me transport to go back home, asking if the girl was my babe. What I'm trying to say is that I've reached a point where I touch random girls anyhow, anywhere with little or no protest from them, that is if the girl just gave me anything like a hint, sometimes I do that to just pretty any girl and on turning to look at me they just lower their guard a bit, not that I'm all that facially but I've learnt to carry this aura of absolute confidence around girls. But with this certain chik I was on my humble self in her presence during this second time of our talking. I was even finding it difficult to display my ''bad boy'' features on her! I was literally behaving like a shrimp. Why is this so??

Rapsodee:
Your chance to date her is still intact and a lot of advice has been given. wish you gudluck ....

besides,u skul in OAU?

No, my man

U don fall na. That's how it feels to fall. You loose ur bad boyishness and become carefull

OmoUSH:



@DSuperWoman, I really appreciate your comments. I don't have the time to be ''lurking'' about her class cos I've exams and tests by the corner, by the way won't I seem jobless and desperate by doing that? U know something about me? I'm the kind of introvert that learned hard to seem a ''bad, naughty guy'' to lot of ladies. I bet you they like and always stare at me in bunch. the other day inside GTBank in school where I went to collect my ATM, a lot of girls, including fellow guys were staring at me to the extent one couldn't control herself, before she knew it she was talking to me, blushing and smiling. This has always been the case with me and it was this that really got me extra-confident in my career of being a ''bad, naughty guy'',lol. The other day a fine gal came to students relaxation building around 10:30 pm, actually two guys and two gals. She sat on the long iron bench behind, while the rest three sat at the front playing Konami. Immediately I came, she looked up and gaze at me for some seconds. To cut the long damn story short can u believe I nearly unzipped this girl's bra. On the way, i have even pulled her hair and advised her to make it natural. I played with her fingers, scratch her palms, and each time she would turn and look at me, saying with a baby voice, ''I'll flog u o'', each time she said that my reply was ''flog me now, I'd only cry'', in a tone mimicking her voice. Meanwhile, her friends at the back occasionally look back to see me handling her, I never gave a damn. To everybody, she seemed my girlfriend. Just as I was gently unzipping her bra from behind while she pretend to sleep, her friends terminated their konami and she slowly got up and followed them, almost simultaneously one riff-raff of a guy came and destabilised my mind by begging me transport to go back home, asking if the girl was my babe. What I'm trying to say is that I've reached a point where I touch random girls anyhow, anywhere with little or no protest from them, that is if the girl just gave me anything like a hint, sometimes I do that to just pretty any girl and on turning to look at me they just lower their guard a bit, not that I'm all that facially but I've learnt to carry this aura of absolute confidence around girls. But with this certain chik I was on my humble self in her presence during this second time of our talking. I was even finding it difficult to display my ''bad boy'' features on her! I was literally behaving like a shrimp. Why is this so??

DSuperWoman:
U don fall na. That's how it feels to fall. You loose ur bad boyishness and become carefull

So I don fall in love be that o

E fit never reach love yet but na so e dey start

OmoUSH:

So I don fall in love be that o

op, where do u nd ur new chick schl??

Children everywhere I set my foot on NL, smh, nothing unkle Ray , no go seee

Nothing wrong with this scenario except the call, Why did u call??, you fvck up BigTime

Afrobasic:
Nothing wrong with this scenario except the call, Why did u call??, you fvck up BigTime

pls what do you mean by ''that call''? now do you think she will react when she saw it?

DSuperWoman:
Dadada... Superwoman to the rescue.

i dey feel you!!! You are an Expert walai

Cutting to the chase my good man, personally, I tend to be very str8 to the point with women (quite explicit sometimes) and they all say the same thing "you are so spoilt" My reply: "I WAS BORN BY SPOILT PARENTS AND PLAN TO HAVE SPOILT KIDS WITH A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN LIKE YOU"
I know people its a load of crap but they eat it up most the time, then I proceed to poke, throb, percuss, caress, stroke you name it while maintaining a good sense of humor and intermittently acting uninterested, removing my hands before she can realize whats happening it send 2 confusing signal you see, creating mystery and that pull women in, you need to learn the act of seduction (I know I need deliverance working on it ).
Man up OP, I am not trying to objectify women , hell no, just saying learn how to break through a ladies insecurities
You aint got her good until you can fart where she is without feeling bad about it
, good luck

OmoUSH:

Maaaaaan, thanks for showing up on this thread.

@DSuperWoman, I really appreciate your comments. I don't have the time to be ''lurking'' about her class cos I've exams and tests by the corner, by the way won't I seem jobless and desperate by doing that? U know something about me? I'm the kind of introvert that learned hard to seem a ''bad, naughty guy'' to lot of ladies. I bet you they like and always stare at me in bunch. the other day inside GTBank in school where I went to collect my ATM, a lot of girls, including fellow guys were staring at me to the extent one couldn't control herself, before she knew it she was talking to me, blushing and smiling. This has always been the case with me and it was this that really got me extra-confident in my career of being a ''bad, naughty guy'',lol. The other day a fine gal came to students relaxation building around 10:30 pm, actually two guys and two gals. She sat on the long iron bench behind, while the rest three sat at the front playing Konami. Immediately I came, she looked up and gaze at me for some seconds. To cut the long damn story short can u believe I nearly unzipped this girl's bra. On the way, i have even pulled her hair and advised her to make it natural. I played with her fingers, scratch her palms, and each time she would turn and look at me, saying with a baby voice, ''I'll flog u o'', each time she said that my reply was ''flog me now, I'd only cry'', in a tone mimicking her voice. Meanwhile, her friends at the back occasionally look back to see me handling her, I never gave a damn. To everybody, she seemed my girlfriend. Just as I was gently unzipping her bra from behind while she pretend to sleep, her friends terminated their konami and she slowly got up and followed them, almost simultaneously one riff-raff of a guy came and destabilised my mind by begging me transport to go back home, asking if the girl was my babe. What I'm trying to say is that I've reached a point where I touch random girls anyhow, anywhere with little or no protest from them, that is if the girl just gave me anything like a hint, sometimes I do that to just pretty any girl and on turning to look at me they just lower their guard a bit, not that I'm all that facially but I've learnt to carry this aura of absolute confidence around girls. But with this certain chik I was on my humble self in her presence during this second time of our talking. I was even finding it difficult to display my ''bad boy'' features on her! I was literally behaving like a shrimp. Why is this so??

point blank be say u dull....just accept