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Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bukatyne(f): 10:29pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
LordReed: We cooked @ each other's houses We slept in each other's bed when staying overnight & smelt the breaths . Toilet seats; he is not particular about up or down; I am not too and can't remember till I get there next time. When I say there is minute difference for us, I mean it. We were both green so no forming or whatever. We showed who we really are and What we don't like, we point out while the other party adjusts or refuses to adjust all in courtship. We did not experience the first year is ... ... stuff; it is just a graduation for us Like babymama would say, partners know about 95% of each other's behavior before tying the knot. Everything I complain about in hubby today, I have done so since courtship & vice versa. Sometimes it is so funny we laugh about it because we know we had it. Whether the 95% known is real or fake is another thing All together. 4 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by LordReed(m): 10:53pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
bukatyne: I like that you guys spent alot of quality time together but you do realize that not many people can do some of the things you did without loosing focus (I mean the sleeping over part). I do agree that with no forming part though, I mean what use is forming for the person you want to marry? 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 10:53pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
TV01: best NL post this year....... ...so far 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Shirley07: 10:58pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
5minsmadness:Lol. No doubt, I really do enjoy banters but it becomes boring when it comes down to lies to save face. I wouldn't have even interfered if you hadn't lie. Tell me, who's attacking who? Before her last post, coco never made any spiteful words despite all your effort to irk her, I was beginning to think she was dulling. And you should know me already, no dulling moment, especially with a stüpid fellow like you. 5 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bennyrazz: 11:01pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
@ohwhy, that particular vegetables you use to cook for your fiance while you were dating, have you stopped cooking it? you know those vegetables you cooked for him for 6yrs before tying the knots and he accepted you the way you are, have you forgotten if yes, start recooking it again. And everything will return back to normal CC: sambarry take lecture notes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by LordReed(m): 11:12pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Ohwhy: Glad to know that it's not because you have terrible character flaws, any inference was due to the phrasing in your first post. Your husband does have unrealistic expectations of marriage though. It is also possible that what he used to consider as the features of an ideal wife have changed but that doesn't excuse him either because he made the choice to still marry you. The only advice I can think of is to patiently point out to him that you have not changed from the woman he chose to love. That he should remember all the things he valued in you are still there. I do want to know if you work. 2 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by cococandy(f): 11:13pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Shirley07: The efforts have really been relentless. The so called post again that is causing heart ache Well if he's beating you up , you better find your way out for your health and life's sake. Explained in primary school English 1) if he's abusing you physically leave for safety's sake 2)if it mere adaption or adjustment issues as newly weds. Give it time. Consider counseling 3) If he insists on leaving then move on as there's nothing she can do All IF. I feel sorry for whoever had the task of teaching him in school. Dude or lady must have been to hell and back just to explain the simplest ideas. 6 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 11:33pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Shirley07: 6 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by 5minsmadness: 11:37pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Shirley07: I said shvt the fvck up you stvpid smelly b1tch. You are like an annoying fly buzzing around looking for attention. Who called you into the matter? Did cococandy pm you? Busibody eediot looking for who to orgasm over this night. You cant even compose ur tenses well, what are you, twelve? Looking for how to enter the argument so you will be noticed. Buzz off. 4 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by 5minsmadness: 11:39pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Another annoying fly. Hahaha, I don't believe it, she actually pm'ed you guys to come n help her! Muhahahahahahahaha!!! 2 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 11:58pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Shirley07: Couldnt have said it any better. 3 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by okotv(m): 12:11am On Jan 13, 2015 |
ohwhy, a little advice for you. Watch Mr and Mrs, the one acted by Nigerians. That's all from me. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 12:15am On Jan 13, 2015 |
cococandy: Hopefully Beyoncé has not been opening up new frontiers for him. He wants his wife aggressive like another woman kwa? 2 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 12:51am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Ohwhy, I'm so so sorry about this! .there are good advices here from married people. I really wish these issues become resolved quickly!I pray God heal your marriage!M waiting for baby pictures soon. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by freecocoa(f): 2:40am On Jan 13, 2015 |
LordReed:I'm referring to the OP's case with that I said, so I don't know why you think I was trying to say what is "usually" being said, is this you trying to be a sabi sabi?. Anyways, whatever. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by LordReed(m): 7:04am On Jan 13, 2015 |
freecocoa: Calm down, I was only laughing at the fact that your twist was still funny. Yeah whatever. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by ihedinobi2: 7:06am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:Couldn't you really? Now compare what that lady has said and done on this thread to what TV has said and done here too and tell me which is more christlike. 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by freecocoa(f): 7:07am On Jan 13, 2015 |
LordReed:I am calm. Was just checking sha, we all know how it is/can be on here. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 7:40am On Jan 13, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: The comment is based on previous observations from other threads and obviously i aint the only one who has noticed. I know you are his no 1 fan so i am not surprised you came to his defence. Well, its just my opinion. Not expecting you to agree and i dnt expect it to be debatable or worthy of argument. there is a big difference between being christlike and in being religious. 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by LordReed(m): 7:43am On Jan 13, 2015 |
freecocoa: Okay. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by ihedinobi2: 7:54am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:I neither require you to debate nor agree. If I have a demand it is that you think. I have seen him on other threads as well. But that is neither here nor there. The issue is clearly this: the woman who felt that she had the right to make that judgment call hardly qualifies to make it herself judging by her own manifest behavior. And if she does not qualify, her judgment means exactly nothing. As for being his fan, that too is neither here nor there, but I'll entertain you. He's not my dad and hardly anyone who has dealt with me on this forum could call me a toddler. I am obviously capable of personal judgment. If I am his fan then there is a reason for it. And if the reason is good it is a good thing that I'm his fan. I doubt that you'd take offence at being called Christ's fan yourself. Difference between christlikeness and religion. Feel free to share what the difference is. Finally, as I always say about opinions. Once you share them, they are arguable and can be torn to shreds. 2 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Montaque(m): 7:54am On Jan 13, 2015 |
mutter:perfect. For those asking why marriage is diff |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by kaboninc(m): 7:59am On Jan 13, 2015 |
mutter: Reading your post...I must admit that I have so much to say right now but still, I have nothing to say! Your comment has a powerful meaning! |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 8:02am On Jan 13, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: Cool. Like i said, its not worthy of debate. Its a complete waste of our time to deliberate on it. As for the bolded, thats a topic for another day. i wont derail this thread. A previous thread had once discussed something of that nature. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by ihedinobi2: 8:14am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:If there is a previous argument about a difference between the two that you subscribe to, you can point me to it to explain what you said. You're the one who thought it was important to point out that there's such a difference. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 8:26am On Jan 13, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: You dnt get it, do you? I am not discussing it with you. but since you are so bent on knowing, let me give you a clue. All the conversations jesus had with the pharisees, the religious leaders, go and read them. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by ihedinobi2: 8:30am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Sophyrocks: I'll assume that you don't really have anything to say about it. 5 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 8:34am On Jan 13, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: Rather i dnt want to say anything about it. I made that clear. I want you to do your research as a christian. I am taking you back to the bible. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 8:53am On Jan 13, 2015 |
DukeNija:question you should have ask byvan is: "is she married herself?" people who aren't have divergent views to those who are |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by ihedinobi2: 9:06am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:Indeed 3 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 9:25am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Ohwhy: Looks like you are acting the role of the perfect wife instead of being yourself. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bellong: 10:03am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Ohwhy: If what you have written up here is true, I guess your husband needs a psychiatric assessment. And I am serious about it by all means. Nigeria is a very stressful environment which consciously and unconsciously affect people's minds. The uneducated way we view psychiatric examination makes it look like hell. In all sincerity of purpose and concern for the well-being of every home, I think when doing periodic medical check-up, couples should subject themselves to psychiatric examination also. The happenings in this country are enough to turn a sane mind insane and also make a wise man mad. Your husband is under intense pressures and he is transferring the aggression on you. A sane mind doesn't threaten divorce after two months of marriage even if s/he marries the devil. Something big is wrong somewhere and I want to believe his CNS needs a thorough check and an urgent action will salvage the situation. It is well. 1 Like |
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