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Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by 5minsmadness: 2:26pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Rosarie:Lots of good advice on this thread so far but this is the one that touched me most. Op if your story is real then listen to this advice. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by TV01(m): 2:33pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
zeb04:Where did I offer any advice? Carefreewannabe was interested to know what I thought, I responded in a tongue in cheek manner. Feel free to offer your own advice to the issue, rather than taking it upon yourself to grade other peoples posts or analyse their faith. Toodles TV 2 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by freecocoa(f): 2:36pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Timbuktou:No, it's not difficult to look at things from other's perspective but that doesn't mean agreeing with whatever they say, as being married, is not a license to wisdom. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by zeb04(f): 2:42pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
TV01:ok |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by TV01(m): 2:43pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Timbuktou:I disagree, I reckon he was aware of her immaturity & solipsism, he pandered to it as boyfriend/girlfriendage, but figured he'd tighten up when things were formalised. She would have seen his flaws as well, but as women typically do, "talked over them" . Typically when men take on the burden of marriage, they are less accomodating of capricious behaviour. Moreso if he now has to focus to provide for their household. I see him as a bit immature as well, he just needs to spell things out and support her to get where she needs to be. Let one wake up, the other shape up and then grow together. TV 3 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by crackhaus: 2:49pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Interesting... After putting up with your attitude/character (which you conveniently failed to expand on) for six years, can you blame him for getting fed up just two months after getting married? He probably made the mistake of believing you would change after putting a ring on it, only you can help yourself at the end of the day. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 3:12pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
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Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Odunharry(m): 3:26pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
chaircover:u always make sense.. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Odunharry(m): 3:34pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Abigail all is well... Ohwhy |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by crackhaus: 3:43pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Lol @Telemundo syndrome |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by TV01(m): 3:46pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
crackhaus: ...this one has solipsistic, entitlement princess written all over it It shocks me because he knew my character and my personality before he asked me to marry him yet he did.i.e. I was a right cow, and not only did he not complain, he brought me extra grass ! Well now he owns you and he's milking you. Deal wid it ! He did her a favour. Bore with the rubbish during courtship and wifed her. A few more relationships like that and she would have hit the wall - hard - and then had to go through the worse situation of struggling to find someone she liked who would even look at her - desperation. This way she gets to learn on the job instead of being long-term unemployed ! All she has to do is put up with him as he mans up - just like he did for her. If she's smart she'll adopt wisdom and a concilitaroy approach. He's currently "dealing with her" and she can ameriolate that with a little sense and humility. Notin' spoil TV **I'm liking this...I think I'll adopt a more consult role from now on...only post when I'm specifically asked to. Perhaps direct people to the relevent parts of my large body or work here on NL ** |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 4:00pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by crackhaus: 4:05pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
TV01:Apparently in her mind, this dude has to keep on putting up with her character and personality as he always did for six years. And you're indeed right on that bit @bold, maybe it's her turn to put up with him - after all if he could do it for six years, she should at least try to do it for a quarter of that time until both can find a common ground. 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 4:06pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
TV01: Why do you think so? |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 4:09pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Aprime: Yup. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bukatyne(f): 4:10pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
crowns2: What is the difference? |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by freecocoa(f): 4:12pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Even if OP is the one with all the faults, why did this man have to accept it all those years only to cry divorce now? People just like putting themselves in trouble sha, mschew. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Odunharry(m): 4:15pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
crackhaus and TV01 una be clown, 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by crackhaus: 4:18pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Nonso23: |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bukatyne(f): 4:19pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
freecocoa: Honestly, I do not get 'courtship is different'; 'boyfriend takes nonsense hubby is showing up' mentality. And sadly, this does not affect the male folk alone. You will see a lady who has no intention of reckoning with MIL after marriage going to wash her clothes during courtship. Why can't people be real? If you do not like A, state it and either be patient for your partner to change and move on... That's why a lot of ladies feel marriage is a bondage... you are smiling with bros, you do not know what he will manifest to after marriage. 4 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bukatyne(f): 4:20pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Nonso23: What is wrong with 'Telemundo syndrome?' |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 4:23pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
freecocoa: My dear, one has to wonder. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Lepetitechic(f): 4:24pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
byvan: How can you tell when a marriage is worthless? |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 4:26pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
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Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by TV01(m): 4:28pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
crackhaus:The brother tried 0 jare - six years for one fish. Jacob sef only did 7 years for Rachel ! Many women nowadays come with a huge sense of entitlement, especially if lauded as fine, but often for no discernable reason ! He obviously considers her a catch, so put up with her nonsense to seal the deal. Now she's "caught", and it's showtime, she needs to play the role ! The better she plays it, the more fulfilling it will be. I think she can turn this around wioth a simple "attitude adjustment" crackhaus:The best thing she could do for herself, them and their unborn child is to take a long hard look at herself and to get to grips with the situation as I've discribed. His threats are just flexing, possibly compounded by her being a bit of a liability - pregnant, not working, all the stress to keep things going is squarely on him, and all she can do is parrot demands and expect him to wait on her hand and foot as she "suffers" through labour. Abeg, make like a hebrew woman and let us hear word. TV **I really should put something together - perhaps post in the "Boys night out" thread. If there's the demand maybe** |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by crackhaus: 4:30pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Odunharry:Yet you're not laughing Bro, e be like say you know this lady (saw your earlier comment)... how far na, her story complete? |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by TV01(m): 4:30pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bukatyne(f): 4:31pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Nonso23: Interesting. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by freecocoa(f): 4:34pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
bukatyne:It's really a pity, see the comments on here sef, all sounding like that's how it's supposed to be, smh. 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bukatyne(f): 4:38pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
freecocoa: Whatever rocks one's boat I consider it deceit to keep quiet during courtship and start showing yourself after marriage... the period of courtship was wasted then. Nothing like getting someone who has same values with you... Life is so beautiful 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 4:40pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
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