pickabeau1:


Just as i expected the same from you and your ilk

A woman comes here
One sided story
She is using an underage maid ....there was one guy dein77 who was crucified for the same thing

You all up in arms...

Na today?

When some of you lot can keep your emotions in check to discern....there will be less issues on this section

Why not invite the husband to give you the 2 sided story. Mtschewwww! The issue has turned to underage maid abi? Because she complained about her husband. Something you and your lot can't stomach. Oya argue underage maid since it will make you feel like a man.

soonest:

Why not invite the husband to give you the 2 sided story. Mtschewwww! The issue has turned to underage maid abi? Because she complained about her husband. Something you and your lot can't stomach. Oya argue underage maid since it will make you feel like a man.

Says the wench hissing about like a snake

Let me break it down for you...


It is not about an underage maid but it is the glaring incompleteness of the tale.

Go figure...

soonest:

Why not invite the husband to give you the 2 sided story. Mtschewwww! The issue has turned to underage maid abi? Because she complained about her husband. Something you and your lot can't stomach. Oya argue underage maid since it will make you feel like a man.

So the Op's crime shouldn't be discussed because She's the Op. And how is child labor a lesser evil to wife battering?

Op is an angry, unforgiving and resentful woman

5minsmadness:
Sigh. Another day on Nairaland.

Sickos , jobless , traumatized folks on the loose

laplace12:


So the Op's crime shouldn't be discussed because She's the Op. And how is child labor a lesser evil to wife battering?

Is the Op the only one guilty of child labor? And does the topic involve just child labor? Are you people saying the Op deserves to be beaten just because of child labor that both the Op and the husband are guilty of? Do you now see how faulty this reasoning is?

laplace12:
Op is an angry, unforgiving and resentful woman

How is a woman who is beaten often supposed to feel?

OP if he is that abusive I don't see him ever changing. The truth is I do not need to know what happened. If he indeed used a cane, belt and blows to the head on you then you two have no business together. Your combination is toxic. Please start planning your future. Put that rage and thirst for revenge you have now into planning a safer and healthier future for yourself. I wish you well

Sophyrocks:


Is the Op the only one guilty of child labor? And does the topic involve just child labor? Are you people saying the Op deserves to be beaten just because of child labor that both the Op and the husband are guilty of? Do you now see how faulty this reasoning is?

We are trying to establish a fact that the Op is not the saint she wants us to believe she is.

It magnifies the doubt on the overall sincerity of her post.

dinachi:
If your husband is a monster, then you are also a monster! I totally abhor it when you female monsters cause problems in your homes and come here to blab. Tell us your own faults and the evil you perpetrated before you come here to disparage a great gentleman like your husband. Witches like you have been attacking their husbands at will and generally causing mayhem, when the man in a bid to save himself deals you a handsome blow to reset your brain, you come here to spew thrash.. Wet dat your husband sef, let me give him a high five! He deserves a God bless you pat in the back!

DINACHI the great EMPEROR

@op what can I say?.... Plan your comeback wella and watch your back while at it. I'm sure you'll get great tips here too.

Sophyrocks:


How is a woman who is beaten often supposed to feel?

unprovoked anger and resentment can trigger the beating.

5minsmadness:
Sigh. Another day on Nairaland.

Mumbo-jumbo-feast

laplace12:


We are trying to establish a fact that the Op is not the saint she wants us to believe she is.

It magnifies the doubt on the overall sincerity of her post.

So just because you got beaten up by someone and you got angry and accumulated resentment towards that person therefore whenever you show the anger then you probably deserved the beating? Are you saying her husband was right for beating her up? A woman needs to be happy that her husband beats her up?

Again, what has child labor got to do with the beating?

laplace12:


unprovoked anger and resentment can trigger the beating.

So a woman is meant to be happy thatt she is physically abused? where does the resentment come from?

Once again

Some don't read and fly off handles with out showing comprehension

Spousal abuse is to be condemned

The tale by the OP is incomplete

If it happened that she had used a pestle on the husband the same flighty people will say another tale
At least we have seen female posters who admitted to slapping their husband before he retaliated


What is the Genesis of the violence
Is the OP also a physical abuser

What is clear now is that she is employing an underage maid.

But OP, How could yoube sleeping when your husbandwas out.
Do you know how risky that can be, he might get attacked while bannging to enter the house.

Nothing justifies a man laying his hand on a woman but this was wrong.

Secondly it is wrong to stop a child`s schooling for flimpsy reasons. You should have found an alternative.

pickabeau1:



Says the wench hissing about like a snake

Let me break it down for you...


It is not about an underage maid but it is the glaring incompleteness of the tale.

Go figure...

Says a sissy!!!

torchwave:
The people who justify the husband's aggression or violent conduct on the ground of provocation are the same peeps who are quick to condemn it when it leads to the lady's tragic death.



Sick world

You notice they absolved the husband of any blame and never condemned his atrocity. It took a well known misogynistic whiner, who derives joy in using his emotions and frustrations to comment, to chip in child abuse issue to distract the rest who are willing to jump into his bandwagon and change the thread to a different topic entirely. Thereby, turning the thread to a free for all.

Funny right?

laplace12:


So the Op's crime shouldn't be discussed because She's the Op. And how is child labor a lesser evil to wife battering?

It can be discussed but not sidetracking the main issue which is wife battery.

soonest

Hahaha...
Classic ...

Resort to insults when all reason departs

Numbskull

Sophyrocks:


You notice they absolved the husband of any blame and never condemned his atrocity. It took a well known misogynistic whiner, who derives joy in using his emotions and frustrations to comment, to chip in child abuse issue to distract the rest who are willing to jump into his bandwagon and change the thread to a different topic entirely. Thereby, turning the thread to a free for all.

Funny right?

Don't mind them. Na today? We know them.

dinachi:
If your husband is a monster, then you are also a monster! I totally abhor it when you female monsters cause problems in your homes and come here to blab. Tell us your own faults and the evil you perpetrated before you come here to disparage a great gentleman like your husband. Witches like you have been attacking their husbands at will and generally causing mayhem, when the man in a bid to save himself deals you a handsome blow to reset your brain, you come here to spew thrash.. Wet dat your husband sef, let me give him a high five! He deserves a God bless you pat in the back!

Amuhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
This is one demolishing and devastating punch..
OP this guy's abuse is mos def more than your Hubby's...


Take heart tho. You girls need to reason better when making decisions about marriage. Don't always choose wealth over love, respect and understanding. Quit the marriage if you can't continue and channel your energy into your career. Also, try making another home. If you do as adviced, without fighting him, you will end up causing him more harm than ever because he will always feel bad for letting you go.

Don't poison him tho!

Often times I wonder who its really to blame for physical abuses in relationships/marriages. Is it the woman that has no control with words as against Prov15:1 or the man that allows himself to be dragged into silly arguments which often times results in outrage, Anger!

I still think most women have a stereotyped way of looking at their men once they are settled in a relationship/marriage. But then, the men are equally guilty of laxity. Which ever way,keep the standards that you started with and live peaceably.

My two kobo.

I thought the OP was about her abusive husband?

Every thread is now about people's hurt feelings.

carefreewannabe:
Every thread is now about people's hurt feelings.

Hehehe. Feelings that were hurt by women in their lives. So emotional right?

Sophyrocks:


Hehehe. Feelings that were hurt by women in their lives. So emotional right?

Very emotional but I have always known it.

laplace12:


We are trying to establish a fact that the Op is not the saint she wants us to believe she is.

It magnifies the doubt on the overall sincerity of her post.

She did not say she is a saint. She said the hubby was knocking on d gate and they did not hear him due to the gen being on. He finally got in and started beating up the maid with implements. She tried to stop him and he beat her too. There is no justification for this at all, it is simply reprehensible. Why resort to violence.

Violence cannot be excused no matter what and she says he has beaten her up many times. Op please separate from this man first before you now start thinking of your next step. I cannot imagine living with a man that will be beating me. So barbaric

carefreewannabe:


Very emotional but I have always known it.

mutter:
But OP, How could yoube sleeping when your husbandwas out.
Do you know how risky that can be, he might get attacked while bannging to enter the house.

Hehe.. This woman eh

TheMadame:


Mr dinachi,
Please give this a rest. I beg of you. Every thread/arguement does not have to be US versus THEM. Why not treat each case on its individual merit and give your honest unbiased advise.
Yes,thinking bee was wrong to hire a 12 year old and she has admitted that it was a stop gap measure till her real nanny returns from holidays.
Her description of her husband is that of an angry,violent man. She at least needs a kjnd of temporary seperation from him till he gets his act together.

Madame abeg leave Dinachi alone, his posts need not to be generic like others we see on here.

Besides, why is her own case being taken lightly when a man was brutally mobbed here for similar offence days ago?

How's family?