This thread was opened as a reaction to the thread Where did you meet your spouse and is a platform for those who are still searching and I hope that the married folks can help them find what their hearts desire.

So you had to balance both sides?? Now, that's what I call consideration
Where do you fall?

There is no particular place to find her/him

It can be anywhere.
Village
School
Friends place
Grandma house
Hospital
Facebook
Nairaland
LinkedIn
molue
Aeroplane

Have an open mind that's all. Be yourself always and above all, don't forget to make your self happy ,so your positive attitude , brings out the shine in you

goofyone:
So you had to balance both sides?? Now, that's what I call consideration
Where do you fall?

Fall?

Chillisauce:
There is no particular place to find her/him

It can be anywhere.
Village
School
Friends place
Grandma house
Hospital
Facebook
Nairaland
LinkedIn
molue
Aeroplane

Have an open mind that's all. Be yourself always and move over don't forget to make your self happy ,so your positive attitude , brings out the shine in you

@bold

Very important!

carefreewannabe:
This thread was opened as a reaction to the thread Where did you meet your spouse and is a platform for those who are still searching and I hope that the married folks can help them find what their hearts desire.

Why do girls who wanna settle down switch from runs gehs to church sisters at their late twenties? And why do panel beating, chain smoking and alcoholic males pretend for girls?
Help me tell them to open their eyes before they end up with the worst kind of partner..

francizy:


Why do girls who wanna settle down switch from runs gehs to church sisters at their late twenties? And why do panel beating, chain smoking and alcoholic males pretend for girls?

The girls realize that it can't go on like this forever and try to become "wife material", I guess.

Help me tell them to open their eyes before they end up with the worst kind of partner..

What do you advise?

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Chillisauce:
There is no particular place to find her/him

It can be anywhere.
Village
School
Friends place
Grandma house
Hospital
Facebook
Nairaland
LinkedIn
molue
Aeroplane

Have an open mind that's all. Be yourself always and move over don't forget to make your self happy ,so your positive attitude , brings out the shine in you

true..

carefreewannabe:


Fall?

what's your own story? Are you married or still searching?

goofyone:
what's your own story? Are you married or still searching?

In a relationship. And you?

carefreewannabe:


The girls realize that it can't go on like this forever and try to become "wife material", I guess.



What do you advise?

Extensive monitoring/evaluation and analysis of the partner.
Some people often get blinded by love and don't care about anything else rather than to just and up with him/her.
Have people secretly monitor that man, get enough info about him. Get answer to these questions: does he pound you whenever you vex him, does he cheat on you, does he lie like a kid? Remember, this will be your children's father.

For the males, I feel that any lady that cheats and is kinda extravagant will always cheat on u when married, especially when the guy is broke..

Odunharry:
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So you were saying, your female friends see you as a cheat and that's not the real you.

Have you considered that there might be factors making them think so? Do you think there's any and can you tell us what they are?

You also said, you quickly lose interest if a girl doesn't give in at your own pace, don't you think that's somewhat selfish?

Let's start with these, I really do hope I can help.

francizy:


Extensive monitoring/evaluation and analysis of the partner.
Some people often get blinded by love and don't care about anything else rather than to just and up with him/her.
Have people secretly monitor that man, get enough info about him. Get answer to these questions: does he pound you whenever you vex him, does he cheat on you, does he lie like a kid? Remember, this will be your children's father.

For the males, I feel that any lady that cheats and is kinda extravagant will always cheat on u when married, especially when the guy is broke..

Good pieces of advice.

carefreewannabe:


In a relationship. And you?

Not in a relationship. I guess I'm one of those who should stick around on this thread.

freecocoa please Chucky still loves you. Can you allow him ignite the flame of passion once more?

So, we wait to hear...

freecocoa:
So you were saying, your female friends see you as a cheat and that's not the real you.

Have you considered that there might be factors making them think so? Do you think there's any and can you tell us what they are?

You also said, you quickly lose interest if a girl doesn't give in at your own pace, don't you think that's somewhat selfish?

Let's start with these, I really do hope I can help.

Maybe it due to the fact i have got female friends and the truth is i hardly visit females..

I dnt think i am selfish and one thing about i dnt force people or pressure them to do something.
Lemme give u an example..There is this friend of mine that i asked out and she didnt give me any response..i really loved her but i decided to let go of her and the feelings is not there anymore.
She had the whole time in the world to respond Yes or No i didnt get any answer... I have moved on ever since now she says i dnt ask after her again or have her time.

chaii low ba3

goofyone:

Not in a relationship. I guess I'm one of those who should stick around on this thread.

Yes, please.

carefreewannabe:


Yes, please.

Tell us your story. How you met.

goofyone:

Tell us your story. How you met.

I already have, on the other thread.

Chillisauce:
There is no particular place to find her/him

It can be anywhere.
Village
School
Friends place
Grandma house
Hospital
Facebook
Nairaland
LinkedIn
molue
Aeroplane

Have an open mind that's all. Be yourself always and move over don't forget to make your self happy ,so your positive attitude , brings out the shine in you

Nairaland ke? With all the bullies here and constant dissing of nigerian ladies in this site? Hmm. Ladies, take the guys here seriously at your own risk!!!

As for your concluding part, you are absolutely correct. Nothing like being positive and free minded.

IDEApro:
freecocoa please Chucky still loves you. Can you allow him ignite the flame of passion once more?

Oboy leave me abeg.

carefreewannabe:
This thread was opened as a reaction to the thread Where did you meet your spouse and is a platform for those who are still searching and I hope that the married folks can help them find what their hearts desire.

Nne when are we seeing your pics? You are calming down on feminism and becoming a more interesting person

Odunharry:


Maybe it due to the fact i have got female friends and the truth is i hardly visit females..

I dnt think i am selfish and one thing about i dnt force people or pressure them to do something.
Lemme give u an example..There is this friend of mine that i asked out and she didnt give me any response..i really loved her but i decided to let go of her and the feelings is not there anymore.
She had the whole time in the world to respond Yes or No i didnt get any answer... I have moved on ever since now she says i dnt ask after her again or have her time.

Hmmm, having female friends is not enough reason to brand one a cheat, how you relate to these female friends however, is something you should look into, you might flirt innocently with them and this can easily be misinterpreted.

I can understand how frustrating it can be to be kept in the dark, but do you pay attention to body language? Many girls won't say an outright 'yes' to a potential date but would give signs, why they behave that way is story for another day.

I think you should be more patient and pay more attention to how a lady behaves around you, that could tell a lot.

laplace12:


Nne when are we seeing your pics? You are calming down on feminism and becoming a more interesting person

Thank you but I have to disappoint you bro, I am not going to put up my pics on the Internet. I am not even on Facebook. I prefer to remain anonymous.

this thread should be deported to the romance section sharply

bennyrazz:
this thread should be deported to the romance section sharply

No, it shouldn't.

Married folks are asked to help those who want help or have questions.

Romance section is full of teenagers.

"keke abeg drop me here, make I check if my missing rib is here"

following...

carefreewannabe:


No, it shouldn't.

Married folks are asked to help those who want help or have questions.

Romance section is full of teenagers.

mods, because of this, let the thread stay