Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New
Stats: 3,153,493 members, 7,819,803 topics. Date: Monday, 06 May 2024 at 11:59 PM

The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) - Romance - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) (3287 Views)

Be Careful Of Val, Else You May Not Avoid This ( Pic) / Ladies, Always Ask A Man If He Is Married After The "Hellos" To Avoid This / Why Do Very Beautiful Girls Make This Mistake??? (2) (3) (4)

(1) (Reply) (Go Down)

The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Staccy: 2:08pm On Jan 27, 2015


So, a lot of the stuff that works for me in text messaging is very SUBTLE.

The other day I was hanging out with a couple of friends who go to a very prestigious business school, and they were telling me about how frustrated they were about how girls responded to them over text.

I asked to see their messages, and something immediately jumped out to me – they weren’t using what we call “textanese”.

Their messages went something like this:

“Hey, how are you feeling today? I’m just about to head to class right now, we should hang out later. Talk to you soon!”

Ok, now of course, that’s how you write people emails when you are in business school wink But over text, it doesn’t work. All the punctuation and capitalization and proper grammar sends the very subtle signal that you are putting a lot of thought into your texts and that they are a FORMAL thing.

Texting, though, should be anything but formal.

The reason that this stuff works so well on girls is because it is SO casual and easy-breezy. So they feel very comfortable responding.

So textanese is my little shorthand term for the way you use language differently over text.

“hey headed to class now lets hang later… oh ya btw how u feeling today”

Most grammar teachers would choke on this sentence, but this is how girls talk to each other on text… and when you talk like them, it makes it a lot easier for them to communicate with you.

The big differences are that…

I shortened things up
I assumed that she’d want to hang out
I eliminated all punctuation, including the question mark at the end
I used words like ya and btw (by the way)
Can you imagine how different she feels when she gets this one, vs. the first one? The first one feels like something that you really thought about, while the second one seems like it was dashed off quickly in between other awesome things you’re doing wink

It’s subtle, but it makes a HUGE impact on how girls respond to texts (and this goes for emails, facebook, and messaging on online dating sites too!)

This is just scratching the surface though. If you want a full-on breakdown of textanese and how to talk like the baller that you are (or that she wants you to be haha) then you’ve gotta get up on How to text Her.

Doesn’t matter whether you’re a business-school genius or still chillin’ on friends’ couches (that was me until not too long ago haha) – good text game is make or break! (More Interesting Tips Visit http://washingtonlens.com/the-wrong-way-to-text-girls-avoid-this-mistake/
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by BeeBeeOoh(m): 2:13pm On Jan 27, 2015
Ok nah! Thanks
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by alberto2k(m): 2:18pm On Jan 27, 2015
Noted
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by demelza: 2:21pm On Jan 27, 2015
Absolute rubbish!
The way you text does not matter. The only thing that matters is your ability to carry on a conversation.
The reason your friends are getting those lukewarm response is because they are boring.
QED

6 Likes

Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Justeenaleo(f): 2:23pm On Jan 27, 2015
I dislike the text thing, give me full text please, spending your time to type in full means you consider me important. When you drop, ttyl,sup,k, e mean say you no get time for me.

7 Likes

Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by naijaboiy: 2:25pm On Jan 27, 2015
Justeenaleo:
I dislike the text thing, give me full text please, spending your time to type in full means you consider me important. When you drop, ttyl,sup,k, e mean say you no get time for me.
seconded!

2 Likes

Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by justmag(m): 2:26pm On Jan 27, 2015
In nigeria? These girls could careless about how u type your message. It's a question of "are you worth her time?"

whether you say

"Hey! How are you doing today? Did you get the money I sent you??"

Or

"Hey! I sent you the money.


IT DOESN'T MATTER. $$$

3 Likes

Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by iceberylin(m): 2:41pm On Jan 27, 2015
Girls mentality shocked
Justeenaleo:
I dislike the text thing, give me full text please, spending your time to type in full means you consider me important. When you drop, ttyl,sup,k, e mean say you no get time for me.
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Extom(m): 3:38pm On Jan 27, 2015
Textanese oo, Lebanese oo, or whatever 'nese', bros, it is bullshitt. If you cannot reply me in simple and correct English, without the irrelevant shorthand, I can't even chat with you, let alone type the rubbish myself.
You might see the whole 'texting in shorthand' as subtle, but it would shock you to know how many 'subtle' habits later became a life-defining character of some people.
Someone actually got fired for replying his boss "am on ma wae",when he was asked about his whereabouts. (I wasn't told, I saw it).

What is the whole fuss about the dating game fa? undecided I want a matured, intelligent young lady that can type well, and not some 'gurrrll'.

I think the OP is the one that needs lecturing. Who's with me, so we can bring the OP in for some coaching class, and change his mentality??

3 Likes

Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Justeenaleo(f): 3:40pm On Jan 27, 2015
iceberylin:
Girls mentality shocked
I'm a girl
What mentality I'm I supposed to have??

1 Like

Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by iceberylin(m): 3:44pm On Jan 27, 2015
Justeenaleo:

I'm a girl
What mentality I'm I supposed to have??
You hate what you do undecided

We all know girls usually use "kk, aii etc
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by yorex2011: 3:54pm On Jan 27, 2015
naijaboiy:

seconded!
Thirded
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Afrok(m): 3:56pm On Jan 27, 2015
Use all your Textanese and at the end, all her response is WHATEVER undecided.
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Justeenaleo(f): 3:57pm On Jan 27, 2015
iceberylin:

You hate what you do undecided

We all know girls usually use "kk, aii etc
Lol
Who are the "we", you and who??
Guys use that too, you can't deny.
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by iceberylin(m): 4:20pm On Jan 27, 2015
Justeenaleo:

Lol
Who are the "we", you and who??
Guys use that too, you can't deny.
99.8% of kk used on social media's were used by girls...
Agree undecided
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Justeenaleo(f): 5:12pm On Jan 27, 2015
iceberylin:

99.8% of kk used on social media's were used by girls...
Agree undecided
Osheeeeey researcher
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by syphs(m): 6:48pm On Jan 27, 2015
demelza:
Absolute rubbish!
The way you text does not matter. The only thing that matters is your ability to carry on a conversation.
The reason your friends are getting those lukewarm response is because they are boring.
QED
bless this post!
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by syphs(m): 6:50pm On Jan 27, 2015
Justeenaleo:
I dislike the text thing, give me full text please, spending your time to type in full means you consider me important. When you drop, ttyl,sup,k, e mean say you no get time for me.

na the same chain tie me and you wink
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Kimmo(f): 7:52pm On Jan 27, 2015
I don't think people understand just how annoying it is to read "textspeak".
All that "k, lyk, ttyl, hbd, 4rum" nonsense is childish and when I get adults texting me that way, it really puts me off.
Typing in full would only take five seconds more!

1 Like

Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Kimmo(f): 7:56pm On Jan 27, 2015
Extom:
Textanese oo, Lebanese oo, or whatever 'nese', bros, it is bullshitt. If you cannot reply me in simple and correct English, without the irrelevant shorthand, I can't even chat you with you, let alone type the rubbish myself.
You might see the whole 'texting in shorthand' as subtle, but it would shock you to know how many 'subtle' habits later became a life-defining character of some people.
Someone actually got fired for replying his boss "am on ma wae",when he was asked about his whereabouts. (I wasn't told, I saw it).

What is the whole fuss about the dating game fa? undecidedI want a matured, intelligent young lady that can type well, and not some 'gurrrll'.

I think the OP is the one that needs lecturing. Who's with me, so we can bring the OP in for some coaching class, and change his mentality?? grin

Thank you. Seriously!

1 Like

Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Itsabibaby(f): 12:37am On Jan 28, 2015
I think it depends on the lady, I personally would rather you write properly than to use text languages. I'd also prefer phone calls instead of having conversations over text.
cheesy
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by 100Cents: 1:33pm On Jan 28, 2015
How does this thread affect the crashing value of the naira ?
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by 100Cents: 1:34pm On Jan 28, 2015
My advice to guys toasting a new girl.

Keep behaving like mumu, girls like this a lot
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Nobody: 2:13pm On Jan 28, 2015
Extom:
Textanese oo, Lebanese oo, or whatever 'nese', bros, it is bullshitt. If you cannot reply me in simple and correct English, without the irrelevant shorthand, I can't even chat with you, let alone type the rubbish myself.
You might see the whole 'texting in shorthand' as subtle, but it would shock you to know how many 'subtle' habits later became a life-defining character of some people.
Someone actually got fired for replying his boss "am on ma wae",when he was asked about his whereabouts. (I wasn't told, I saw it).

What is the whole fuss about the dating game fa? undecided I want a matured, intelligent young lady that can type well, and not some 'gurrrll'.

I think the OP is the one that needs lecturing. Who's with me, so we can bring the OP in for some coaching class, and change his mentality??
I'm with u ooo.... My brother

1 Like

Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by MrCork: 2:15pm On Jan 28, 2015
Staccy:


So, a lot of the stuff that works for me in text messaging is very SUBTLE.

The other day I was hanging out with a couple of friends who go to a very prestigious business school, and they were telling me about how frustrated they were about how girls responded to them over text.

I asked to see their messages, and something immediately jumped out to me – they weren’t using what we call “textanese”.

Their messages went something like this:

“Hey, how are you feeling today? I’m just about to head to class right now, we should hang out later. Talk to you soon!”

Ok, now of course, that’s how you write people emails when you are in business school wink But over text, it doesn’t work. All the punctuation and capitalization and proper grammar sends the very subtle signal that you are putting a lot of thought into your texts and that they are a FORMAL thing.

Texting, though, should be anything but formal.

The reason that this stuff works so well on girls is because it is SO casual and easy-breezy. So they feel very comfortable responding.

So textanese is my little shorthand term for the way you use language differently over text.

“hey headed to class now lets hang later… oh ya btw how u feeling today”

Most grammar teachers would choke on this sentence, but this is how girls talk to each other on text… and when you talk like them, it makes it a lot easier for them to communicate with you.

The big differences are that…

I shortened things up
I assumed that she’d want to hang out
I eliminated all punctuation, including the question mark at the end
I used words like ya and btw (by the way)
Can you imagine how different she feels when she gets this one, vs. the first one? The first one feels like something that you really thought about, while the second one seems like it was dashed off quickly in between other awesome things you’re doing wink

It’s subtle, but it makes a HUGE impact on how girls respond to texts (and this goes for emails, facebook, and messaging on online dating sites too!)

This is just scratching the surface though. If you want a full-on breakdown of textanese and how to talk like the baller that you are (or that she wants you to be haha) then you’ve gotta get up on How to text Her.

Doesn’t matter whether you’re a business-school genius or still chillin’ on friends’ couches (that was me until not too long ago haha) – good text game is make or break! (More Interesting Tips Visit http://washingtonlens.com/the-wrong-way-to-text-girls-avoid-this-mistake/

angry

1 Like

Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by Jonwesley(m): 4:16pm On Jan 31, 2015
Justeenaleo:
I dislike the text thing, give me full text please, spending your time to type in full means you consider me important. When you drop, ttyl,sup,k, e mean say you no get time for me.

Your beauty is justified by this response you made. You are my kind of friend....
Re: The WRONG Way To Text Girls (avoid THIS Mistake) by K9blunt(f): 6:42pm On Jan 31, 2015
I respect people who type in full (especially guys) cause it means he's matured and respectfull but otherwise he's just a boy in a man's image.

(1) (Reply)

Annoying Things Ladies Do That Kills Chat Which Makes Us Delete Them / I Snatched Her From Someone Else, Can I Marry Her? / Is This A Good Thing Or Plain Hypocrisy?

(Go Up)

Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket

Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10)

Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 40
Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland.