AIM: This thread is targeted at ladies in a sensible relationship. She has a sense of decency and modesty. Her target is to get him to marry her because she loves him dearly and truly.

You know what? The issue is not that she doesn't love and respect him but like Eve, she makes poor and rash decisions based on "feelings" alone and that...has consequences.

Am I making guys feel important? Yes o! There are more girls than guys in our world so you need us more than we need you. ... Kidding


I'm about to list some decisions made by ladies IN A REAL RELATIONSHIP which have in them tendencies to actually destroy what they've spent years working on...



1. Decision To Allow Sex

This will spur up bashing but I can tell you this- NO WOMAN will perfectly trust the husband who slept with her during dating! None! I "personally" can't marry a girl I've slept with. So Ladies, sex won't make him marry you o! Don't be fooled!


2. Decision To Ignore The "Beatings" And "Cheatings" Of Today.


Oh girl, he will not change o! Unless you be "mamalawo" wey want change am. If he hits when there are no much pressure, simple mathematics should tell you that it can only increase! Love isn't blind, you are!



3. Decision To Walk Away For "Myopic" Reasons.


He may be living in One Room or Self Contain today and a few furniture. That's not enough excuse to walk away if you're smart and SEES THE SEED OF GREATNESS IN HIM. You look at them flashy guys with flashy cars, Yes! But life is in phases, sweetheart. Think deep!



4. Decision To Let Your Anger/ Pride Get The Better Of You.


Anger is like the ™ of most girls today. Any small thing, them don explode! I tire! Na only you dey! He forgot your birthday, and so what? Be the bigger person, call him to call you and wish you a happy birthday. It will end in laughs and kisses instead of disappointment and break up. Master your emotions sef!


5. Decision To Flirt "A Little" With His Friend(s)


Some girls sha...Are you testing him or what? You know he loves you and you are secretly enticing his friend and even have plans to get him laid. Only dogs do that. And you are even in a marriageable age? I laff!



6. Decision To Uphold The "Law Of Feminism".


You are not equal with him. Stop Trying To Be! Not in the sense of potential but that of Authority. 65% of break ups /divorce is traceable to Feminist Attributes. It won't hold water!
Even, if you pretend today and tomorrow you show you true colour, he will still react and that's not what you bargained for...Be yourself!



7. Decision To Start Comparing Him With An Ex.


"X" is that close to "Z" for a reason. The probability of you getting together in a healthy relationship is slim. Most times, you end up being friends. Don't compare A to X, they're far apart!
No guy likes comparison, vice versa.


Choices are easy to make but its consequences are difficult to amend.

Have a Good Evening.

Well done op. Lemme add

-Decision to test his faithfulness
Cooks up some drama to see if he is really faithful but things may start going wrong from there.
-Decision to ve 'some fun'
She gives in to some new guy just to ve some fun only for it to ruin her relationship. She may be caught 'cheating'
-Decision to make him an atm
She just forgets herself and begins to make unneccesary demands...he sees her as a gold digger and runs for his life.

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Some points are valid some are invalid abeg ...

*put straw in viju milk and sits back*


Observing!

Deejavuu:
I am coming

I'm waiting

Maamin:
*put straw in viju milk and sits back*


Observing!

Goes to sit him...

oh guy, comment joor

Deejavuu:
Some points are valid some are invalid abeg ...

Can you pinpoint and analyse them?

ArchEnemy:
Well done op. Lemme add

-Decision to test his faithfulness
Cooks up some drama to see if he is really faithful but things may start going wrong from there.
-Decision to ve 'some fun'
She gives in to some new guy just to ve some fun only for it to ruin her relationship. She may be caught 'cheating'
-Decision to make him an atm
She just forgets herself and begins to make unneccesary demands...he sees her as a gold digger and runs for his life.

You immediately caught my points but not all though...nice one!

Just observing

Genea:
Just observing

Nice background

nice lists....but no1 aint right ,most Guyz dont care...me for one dont care

emusmith:


Nice background

lolx tnx,nice write up though

Genea:
lolx tnx,nice write up though

Thank You ( Latino Accent)

First compliment from a lady...

I hate feminists with passion, they often confuse right with .... Some of these feminists don't have good home.

decision to move in small small..... hair net first, toothbrush second, change of clothes third, mini travelling bag.... e.t.c

Nice one op

I disagree with number one partially...

Guys of nowadays always want to sleep with their fiancee before marriage and vice versa,its okay to check the **** before marriage...as marriage is another school entirely... No mistakes

emusmith:


Goes to sit him...

oh guy, comment joor

Enhem!

Dat your number 1. ehn! E be like say u want use am put garri inside our sand sand
Oh! Sorry sand sand inside our garri.

HizMissy:
decision to move in small small..... hair net first, toothbrush second, change of clothes third, mini travelling bag.... e.t.c

And wen it gets messy dey pack those things little by little at night to where dey came from

HizMissy:
decision to move in small small..... hair net first, toothbrush second, change of clothes third, mini travelling bag.... e.t.c

So girls do this with opened eyes?

Kennywills7:

And wen it gets messy dey pack those things little by little at night to where dey came from

or all at once

emusmith:


Thank You ( Latino Accent)

First compliment from a lady...

lolx ,u r funny

Ploy:
I hate feminists with passion, they often confuse right with .... Some of these feminists don't have good home.

Yes. True!

Most!

Genea:
lolx ,u r funny

MODIFIED:

Thank you!

tollyB:
I disagree with number one partially...

Guys of nowadays always want to sleep with their fiancee before marriage and vice versa,its okay to check the **** before marriage...as marriage is another school entirely... No mistakes

I thought of that... but...it has consequences o

HizMissy:

or all at once

on point miss
and dey do dis mostly at night due to shame!!
I wonder how dey feel wen d load finally gets home and their younger ones will b looking at dem like d return of d prodigal sister!!

Kennywills7:
Nice one op

Thanks bruv.

Deefuray, where have you been?

emusmith:
Deefuray, where have you been?

I've been around jare

Deefuray:


I've been around jare

Hardly on NL...or Sexuality Section? Hope you're good?

emusmith:


Hardly on NL...or Sexuality Section? Hope you're good?

Lol. I'm good. Lovely thread BTW