bukatyne:


Teach you What?

When you become a teacher....

What do you want to teashh?

kaboninc:


When you become a teacher....

What do you want to teashh?

Mathematics

bukatyne:


Mathematics

That's my favourite subject......


Was that your first degree course?

shinejackie:
Endless back and forth argument, what works 4A might not work 4B, choose what works for ur family, stick to it and have peace of mind, to each is own......Kapish

Kapish ma'am

Ewuro4:


Kapish ma'am

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Exactly!!!

bukatyne:


First and foremost, Mrs. Bukky detests working in a bank I see it as modern day slavery So it is actually out of it.

Since the last child is a pre-term, creche would not work for now and my mom is working.

1a. Mrs. BUKKY wants to be a lecturer So would further her education (do a dull time masters + PhD at a stretch If possible )

b. Mrs. Bukky is also playing with catering So If her masters is not possible, she can start catering on a very small scale and grow.

2. Mrs. Bukky also likes to write So she will write for columns and finish up her book.

3. Mrs. Bukky also like to mentor youths especially girls and will organize programs around that (like to teach, really enjoyed teaching during service, even organized might classes)

I answered based on who I am really am.

I cannot stay with the pre-term alone at home all day. I will break down mentally.

That's me.

Thanks for taking the time to give a detailed response to this Bukky - much appreciated.

Okay, you've mention 3-4 hefty things that Mrs B. would be doing. Each one on it's own is a massive task that will take a lot of dedication, hardwork, and commitment, in order for success to be achieved. I noticed however that there was no mention of the kids.

Who would be looking after all three of them while Mrs B. decides to tackle one or some of those listed tasks above simultaneously? Remember that Mr B. would hardly be around and when he does return home late at night, he would most likely be bone-tired and wouldn't appreciate having the 3 kids thrust on him.

Would Mrs B. be brreastfeeding the pre-term baby exclusively or not?

shinejackie:
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Exactly!!!

Ya

Dis place don turn chatroom

EfemenaXY:


Thanks for taking the time to give a detailed response to this Bukky - much appreciated.

Okay, you've mention 3-4 hefty things that Mrs B. would be doing. Each one on it's own is a massive task that will take a lot of dedication, hardwork, and commitment, in order for success to be achieved. I noticed however that there was no mention of the kids.

Who would be looking after all three of them while Mrs B. decides to tackle one or some of those listed tasks above simultaneously? Remember that Mr B. would hardly be around and when he does return home late at night, he would most likely be bone-tired and wouldn't appreciate having the 3 kids thrust on him.

Would Mrs B. be brreastfeeding the pre-term baby exclusively or not?

You asked about work and I answered based on that

I also have not said I will do all of them at once... It is not realistic.

@ I will do baby friendly for 6mths.

bukatyne:


You asked about work and I answered based on that

I also have not said I will do all of them at once... It is not realistic.

@ I will do baby friendly for 6mths.

Okay.

You've listed the things Mrs B would like to do, but you still haven't answered the question as to how she'll achieve that desire with three very young and needy kids in tow.

And as per your last statement, if you can't be alone with the pre-term child, who will? Will hubby have to find his way back home during his lunch break?

Sorry to ask but what's "baby friendly"?

EfemenaXY:


Okay.

You've listed the things Mrs B would like to do, but you still haven't answered the question as to how she'll achieve that desire with three very young and needy kids in tow.

And as per your last statement, if you can't be alone with the pre-term child, who will? Will hubby have to find his way back home during his lunch break?

Sorry to ask but what's "baby friendly"?

Exclusive breastfeeding

I didn't mention anything about staying with the pre-term here.

I am assuming the wife is staying at home and she is doing things around that time.

Like you said earlier, a stay at home mom does not necessarily cater to the kids 2 4 7 and she can work stuffs around it.

And as I said, she doesn't plan to do it all concurrently and the kids grow as she does.

Each of us to our own.

bukatyne:


I never said SAHM s are idle and never will

I believe a woman can combine staying at home with something else.

My opinion.

You are right and I agree with you because I am like that as well. BUT the only reason I why I typed that post was some other women are not.Some people are not great multi taskers and can only ever really do one thing (very well) at a time.Does not mean I or those who can are necessarily better people. Hence my 'captainsavetheSAHM' stance sometimes on NL . You are right though everyone is entitled to their opinion.

Like others have said and the EOD of all NL discussions 'each to his own' lets all do what will work for us and our individual families..I just type these long epistles cos we women tend to look down on other women who made decisions that we might not necessarily have made even though we have not walked in their shoes.

We even have some SAHM who believe they are better mums than working mums not stopping to think not every one can afford to live on one income. It's not a either or thing for me its many shades of grey.

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