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Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by kaboninc(m): 8:22pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by bukatyne(f): 8:23pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
kaboninc: Mathematics |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by kaboninc(m): 8:30pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Ewuro4: 8:31pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
shinejackie: Kapish ma'am |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Nobody: 8:32pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by EfemenaXY: 8:34pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
bukatyne: Thanks for taking the time to give a detailed response to this Bukky - much appreciated. Okay, you've mention 3-4 hefty things that Mrs B. would be doing. Each one on it's own is a massive task that will take a lot of dedication, hardwork, and commitment, in order for success to be achieved. I noticed however that there was no mention of the kids. Who would be looking after all three of them while Mrs B. decides to tackle one or some of those listed tasks above simultaneously? Remember that Mr B. would hardly be around and when he does return home late at night, he would most likely be bone-tired and wouldn't appreciate having the 3 kids thrust on him. Would Mrs B. be brreastfeeding the pre-term baby exclusively or not? |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Ewuro4: 8:36pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
shinejackie: Ya |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Nobody: 8:38pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
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Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by bukatyne(f): 8:42pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: You asked about work and I answered based on that I also have not said I will do all of them at once... It is not realistic. @ I will do baby friendly for 6mths. |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by EfemenaXY: 8:46pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
bukatyne: Okay. You've listed the things Mrs B would like to do, but you still haven't answered the question as to how she'll achieve that desire with three very young and needy kids in tow. And as per your last statement, if you can't be alone with the pre-term child, who will? Will hubby have to find his way back home during his lunch break? Sorry to ask but what's "baby friendly"? |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by bukatyne(f): 9:02pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: Exclusive breastfeeding I didn't mention anything about staying with the pre-term here. I am assuming the wife is staying at home and she is doing things around that time. Like you said earlier, a stay at home mom does not necessarily cater to the kids 2 4 7 and she can work stuffs around it. And as I said, she doesn't plan to do it all concurrently and the kids grow as she does. Each of us to our own. |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by damiso(f): 9:14pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
bukatyne: You are right and I agree with you because I am like that as well. BUT the only reason I why I typed that post was some other women are not.Some people are not great multi taskers and can only ever really do one thing (very well) at a time.Does not mean I or those who can are necessarily better people. Hence my 'captainsavetheSAHM' stance sometimes on NL . You are right though everyone is entitled to their opinion. Like others have said and the EOD of all NL discussions 'each to his own' lets all do what will work for us and our individual families..I just type these long epistles cos we women tend to look down on other women who made decisions that we might not necessarily have made even though we have not walked in their shoes. We even have some SAHM who believe they are better mums than working mums not stopping to think not every one can afford to live on one income. It's not a either or thing for me its many shades of grey. |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Sunnypar(m): 9:15pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
7 REASONS WHY YOU ARE NOT GOING TO GET MARRIED 1) You have TRUST ISSUES, you claim you have been hurt before, and so it's difficult for you trusting someone else again. Well unless you go for Counselling, just like you believe, IT WILL ALWAYS BE DIFFICULT FOR YOU TRUSTING ANYONE, and sincerely speaking, without trust a Relationship or Marriage can NEVER survive. 2) You grew up in the midst of FAMILY SECRETS, and had to tell a lot of lies to cover up perceived shame. And now you have become a Pathological liar. Even you are amazed at how you can't say anything without telling a lie. You want to tell the Truth, but it is foreign to you. Without Truth, you can't build a lasting Relationship or Marriage. Someday, EVERY LIE you have told will come to light, and you will be found out to be a STRANGER, anyone and everyone should run away from. Why don't you seek Counselling. 3) People say you are Proud, but don't know that it's because you have a Complex. You have done a good job exhibiting a Superiority Complex to keep people from coming closer to you, because if they do, you don't believe they will truly like you as you are. Even you don't like yourself, and that attitude may be tough in a Relationship or Marriage, because it takes a person who loves and accepts himself to love and accept others. So with the help of an expert, run a Personal Check on yourself to have a very good understanding of your Personality, and how to make it work for you. 4) You are NEVER wrong. As far as you are concerned, you believe you are the Seat Of Wisdom. And so everybody knows you are ready to argue about anything and everything, because you just have to be right, while everybody else is wrong. The way you get Angry is also alarming. Haven't you noticed that people are always eager to stay away from you? Now that won't work in a Relationship or Marriage, because it's only those who prefer someone else to themselves and are ready to make the other person take the shine, that relationship and marriage works for. 5) You are Self-Serving and Selfish. You always do things for YOURSELF, and have no one else in mind. So you cheat because even though you are getting 80% of what you need from your friend, you take it for granted and go in Search of the 20% you think you are not getting, but need from someone else, and eventually lose the Diamond in your possession while going after Glitter. Marriage only looks good on those who put the other person first and into consideration, before they consider themselves. 6) There is a hole in your heart, and no matter how many people try to love you, you cannot receive love. You drink, smoke, and have sex with anything and anyone. Commitment is difficult for you. You are not even committed to yourself, not to talk of another Person. Unfortunately for you, Marriage requires TOTAL COMMITMENT or nothing else. Get Counselling, find out the root cause and deal with it. 7) You have No Relationship with God. Really? So why do you want to get married? Don't you know Marriage was instituted by God. YOU NEED A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD IF YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED AND STAY MARRIED! But Jerome, I don't agree with you, I have some of these flaws and I am married today. Really? Do you think having a Wedding is the same thing as Getting Married? I know you had a big wedding, but ARE YOU MARRIED? Consultation with Jerome is not free. Whatsapp +2348037194335 SOUNDmind 2AFF30BF jerome@jeromeis talking.org 08053JEROME. |
Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by pashaun(f): 9:04am On Feb 10, 2016 |
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