aflyingbird:
why are some of y'all blaming the wife ?

OP , ur mother wanted to take the photos, but u didn't mention her wanting to print them and bring back the original. 1) ur wife had every right to prevent her from taking the photos ( they are her photos after all ), especially if there was no mention of printing. they r child dedication photos dat mean a lot to ur wife , of course she won't let anyone take them just like that . 2) ur mother had no right to slap ur wife just 'cus ur wife said she couldn't take the pictures. why hit her? she isn't ur child neither is she a little kid to be slapped anyhow. u don't put ur hands on anyone. let's be fair here : your mother initiated this fight. ur mother had her sister n friend there so of course they will take her side, ur wife is the lone ranger dat they ganged up on , but if u ask me she is the victim . they were probably looking for a fight from the start

aflyingbird:
op's mother had the strength to throw the first hit and fight . she isn't as elderly as we might like to assume , in terms of age .

cococandy:


Those two ladies she brought to visit with her, why didn't they stop the fracas before you got there?
I'm suspecting them.

JeffreyJamez:
My Dad didn't Talk to his mother and his siblings for 16yrs until she died and he wasn't even moved.... why?...she gave him same choice "your wife or me?" And knowing the kinda women his wife(my mum) and his mother were he gladly chose his wife over her and his siblings took the side of his mum....and why all this? simply because my mum called her a Witch to her face!!.... and when my Dad was Confronted you know what he told his mum "if you didn't act like a witch she wouldn't call you one ".

What's my point?..... why would your mum slap a grown married woman if she wasn't looking for trouble?.... better stick to your wife..... your mama time don pass.... After the Bible sef talk am.

TheFilmmaker:


We probably have different family backgrounds and one of the moral tenets of my family (not married yet) is to shun hypocrisy. That it.

We shun hypocrisy. I will never ever ever ever slap my mother. Nor another person's mother. I, therefore, will never condone such.

I don't know about you. If she can slap your mother, then you can slap your mother too. Savvy?

TheFilmmaker:


We probably have different family backgrounds and one of the moral tenets of my family (not married yet) is to shun hypocrisy. That it.

We shun hypocrisy. I will never ever ever ever slap my mother. Nor another person's mother. I, therefore, will never condone such.

I don't know about you. If she can slap your mother, then you can slap your mother too. Savvy?

kingmassa:
Bro, your wife is very worng. Try ask her this question- if it were her own mother that demanded for the picture would she deny her? If she say no den she is wrong to do that to your mother but if she says yes she would deny her mother the pics bros I don't what else to say. Bro talk to God cos the devil wana enter ur home

perfectionist:
@ ZACHIE
Thanks for updating your previous post.
My wife called me while they were still quarrelling, before the fight started.
I hope to God this issue is resolved amicably. I've already started the mediation process but it's not easy 'cos my mother would have none of it. Her terms for reconciliation are rather steep, necessitating the departure of my wife from the home.

dazangel11:
no matter wat your wife should respect your mom.
PS blood is thicker than water you can have another wife but you can only have one mother

think am well bro. goodluck

MadCow1:



I may never slap my mother but if my mother puts herself in a position to get slapped then she has it coming. Remember that it was his mother that acted above her authority to slap his wife.

If your mother in law comes into your house making demands that you refuse her and she proceeds to slap you, I doubt you would be saying all this.

The case here remains that the mother slapped his wife because she refused her taking pictures of her baby without her consent and as far as I am concerned everything else that transpired after the slap are all secondary.

exthar87:
It will take the grace of God for your mom to forgive your wife..if it was only your mom that came visiting and all this happened I am sure it would have being easy but with a friend nd sister..that is shameful and an injury that won't heal easily.

Your mom is not meant to ask for those pictures,cause I believe you should have printed her own copies and sent it to her and even if she had requested for it why will your wife make a big deal about it,to the extent of raising her hands to hit your mom..that is bad

The deeds has been done,now it's how to clean up the mess

Don't run to your mum begging her..no no no that won't be okay as the injury is still fresh.

Tell your wife to call and report herself to your mum's elder ones if she has or elders that can plead on her behalf

Call a religious head to plead on her behalf. If your mum is a christian let your wife locate her church and speak to her pastor to plead on her behalf

Let her beg the witnesses to forgive her and join her in the crusade of appealing to her MIL

Let her call her people to also plead on her behalf

And put the matter in prayers cause it is only God that can ease the pain

No matter how we try to justify the matter blood is thicker than water

Nd I hope her apologies will be sincere

aflyingbird:
no respectable elder ( man or woman ) will lay their hands on another person . no respectable elder will engage in violence . in the court of law , the person who hits first gets blamed . i don't stay in Nigeria so carry go with ur primitive ways of living . it's only in Nigeria that pple will blame the poor wife for something like this , no wonder the country is 200 yrs behind from the rest of the world

Dragonking:


Even the weakest person can throw a slap or two. The wife would have been better off if she controlled her anger.

Also, if she has a son and two grand children how old do you think she would be? My advice to you is to avoid such physical show of power with your MIL whether you are in Nigeria or anywhere else in the world.

julietchic:





u have said it all, some mother in law are wicked and like wise their daughter.oo

mine don't have any problem bt her duaghter is wicked she monitor the amount of food I eat( the food dat hubby bght ) she is married bt hardly stay in her husband house when ever they return and will not bring anything whie coming. this lady is lazy even to bath her only son is a big work to her talk more of cooking as I write dis nw she is still sleeping and will wake up monitoring me. I have ask to give me patience heart.

MadCow1:

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Utter bollocks. .

You dont know his story so stop with all these sentimental nonsense.

Go fhuck your mum na so she can have your offspring's since she did all that stuff you wrote there.

And though we can not replace mothers biologically, we can replace mothers in every other aspect. Those motherless babies in homes all have mothers.[/s]

fejikudz:
ohh, no respectable elder ( man or woman ) will lay their hands on another person??
Would she have fought her own mom if she slapped her for any reason??

itsMrIke:


'I guess she chose not to listen'...
You seem so lackadaisical about the whole thing. So you have warned your wife to avoid such situations, you know there is no love lost between them and you still thought it wise to leave them alone?

I blame you. I blame your wife and I blame your mum a little.

Slapping your mother was completely wrong on the part of your wife, unless she would tell me that she slaps her own mother in retaliation too.

You didn't even mention if and how you have reprimanded your wife for what she did. You seem not concerned with how grave her actions were. You are even dissociating yourself from the abomination claim. You try well well. Continue letting your wife think she is Tatiana Ali, well done!!

Oga, my suggestion is going to be harsh. You must 'handle' your wife. Get me right. Your mum will find it hard to forgive her, unless she knows/thinks you have punished your wife in some way. So my advice is that you ask your wife to go to her parents for a while, let her parents know what she did and have them beg on her behalf. She should remain there while you invite you mum to spend the weekend with you and the kid/s. Use the alone time to beg your mum. Invite ur in-laws to meet and beg her in your place. The you can invite your wife to come and reconcile with her there.

Don't take your wife to you mother's house, I use God name take beg you!!! With what women do these days in anger!!

I wish you good luck!!!

aflyingbird:
both of them had unsettled issues , the MIL was obviously angrier . BTW , keep your sorryass advice to itself. I'll be blessed with a respectable MIL who won't go around hitting pple , u can get arrested for dat sort of thing , doesn't matter how old you are . control your anger n keep ur hands to yourself

haul:

Damn! Your dad walk this lane and you also have the mantle now. Oga I pity your ass.

TheFilmmaker:


I'm sorry for you OP. There is no woman on earth that will slap my mother and go scot free.

What am I even saying? I trust my momma like fire. She would have probably maimed her before I return.

But I understand that not all women are hot blooded and hot tempered like mine Howerver, what your wife did was uncalled for. What a travesty! This is your chance to prove you are the owner of the house. Send the hot blooded woman packing! Nollywood corruption.

If you don't teach sense into her now, it will happen again. and ultimately it will descend to the point where your kids will not be allowed to visit your mom or even touch or talk to her. Whatever you do, be sturdy about it. Send her packing, back to her parents. Her parents should tender an apology. Ask your hot blooded wife how she will feel if you land 3 hot slaps on the eldest member of her family or either of her parents.

Hypocritical short thinking people everywhere. By the way, this story looks perfect for a Nollywood script.

Cc: Safari29

PS: If this happened during the middle ages, the OP would have been ordered to gut his wife.