This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of misinterpretations, but I can no
longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has
become one of the challenges faced by many
young girls today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a life
partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our
minds back to the time of our mothers and
grandmothers, was there
really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem?
Or, maybe there were more men than women
then, or there was an adequate corresponding
numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe
then, the women had values and were prepared
to build a
home and not park into a built home. Then, once
a young man comes of age and can at least feed
himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a
wife and the woman really appreciates him and
helps him to build a future. What am I really
trying to say? We created what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the
reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define
her dream husband; you get things like "he has
to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house
at least, and be presentable" and then she adds
"God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls around you and
the number of men that meet that standard, and
you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I
cannot suffer in my father's house and then go
and start suffering with a man." What a
wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you
have everything you want and there is no
suffering, and later in the marriage, the table
turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run
away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good
to start small and end big, than start big and end
small. The problem is that the description
majority of girls give of their ideal man is
virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same
kind of man and the man that fits what they
want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick
one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to
the face of our economy to find a man who is of
marriage age who possesses all
those things these ladies want, legally (except
those involved in Internet fraud); even the
number of those in Internet fraud is not enough
to match all those searching for already made
husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies of
substance, of good value and virtue, who are
ready to build a home with a man who has
prospects, are married and not complaining of
husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a
husband now, is to change your view of who a
husband is. A husband is that man God made
and then saw that it may be hard for him to
really actualize his purpose for making him,
without a help mate and then made the woman
and gave to him, and he felt complete and
fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of
building the family of God here on earth. For
those who see marriage as a way out of poverty,
it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to where
God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another
truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST
MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in
alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE
RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should
pick anyone that comes your way and talks of
marriage, not all men are husband materials.
What I am saying is that you should stop setting
your standard on material acquisitions or
physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT
HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE
IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of
is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes,
only its
effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent
thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that
which is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to
God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for
making sake; He made her for Adam's need to
be complete.

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There are surplus boyfriends but scares amount of husband material in Nigeria

Same stuff every 3months...,Nairaland:land of dumps

It all depend on people point of view, and their believe, to me, there's nothing like that.

There is no scarcity of husbands in anyway as I type this, some girls are confused on who to marry among the 4 guys/men coming to ask for their hands in marriage.

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Marriage is a permanent thing? ?