TrishaP:
Not Cool.

For those who might not know what Caesarean Section is,
A Caesarean section(CS), is a surgical procedure in which one or more incisions are made through a mother's abdomen and uterus to deliver one or more babies.

It is often performed when a vaginal delivery would put the baby's or mother's life or health at risk. 

It isn't fair when people mock someone who went through this. We should learn to put ourselves in other people's shoes, it'll only make the world better.

Intersesting

Never heard of shaming women who gave birth CS...

I only know of people rejecting CS and praying miraculously for the mother to give birth vaginally and their rejection stems from the fact that it is seen as an illness or anomaly and not 'shaming'

In my world, women who birth through CS are treated with pity (Like someone who is/was ill) and care

@Juzzybabe,

It is well

Thank God both mother and daughter is hale and hearty

Juzzybabe:
Humm...this post touch me. I give birth a week ago to my first baby, and CS was never an option I ever dreamt of, but after I had labour for hours,I had to be scanned n it showed my water was insufficient to have a natural birth. The doctors told me CS was my way out. I had to accept to save my life and my baby. [b]Still nursing the cut and pains my mother in law look me in the eyes and insulted me that I was too lazy to push my baby out. She has been telling people and even to my face that I wasted her son's money on CS all because I couldn't push. she said I didn't labour. [/b]I am hurt by her words but I pray God have mercy on her.

Woow . . . .

That woman is the real definition of SATAN!

Juzzybabe:


Thanks dear.
Sorry to say but you won't believe that this very woman mocking me has an only daughter that has been married for 7years without a child

i wonder if she will be happy when her daughter complains of being mocked by her own MIL.
The things we women do to each other.

Anyway Always make sure you tap into all possible sources of happiness and enjoy your life to the fullest.
Never respond to any negative comments concerning that issue.

MarvellousGod:
Was looking to see a real life example but none... Op, where did you get the notion that women who give birth through cs are mocked?

All I see here is people condemning the act but no real life experiences

I ask cos it sounds insane to me...

MarvellousGod:
Was looking to see a real life example but none... Op, where did you get the notion that women who give birth through cs are mocked?

All I see here is people condemning the act but no real life experiences

I ask cos it sounds insane to me...

jmoore:


Ask am oh. No real life example.

I have never seen a woman mocked because she gave birth via CS.

I Have an aunt who was almost at the verge of breaking down about this thought of mockery. Few days ago, on her way back from work she decided to branch my home.

From different gist this one came, she explained how her MIL made her felt when she told her she isn't a real woman until she goes through that labour pains in a heated argument with her. A colleague at work made similar statement indirectly. 

She almost cried but remained strong because she knows she isnt and cant  be the only one who has passed through such.

I can only imagine how other women must have felt about this too.

When I saw this image I decided to pass the message. Thought it could help.

where's the link to the gif?

as per the rest of your message, not every woman has CS for medical reasons, some prefer it for cosmetic ones.

either way, please find other ways to drum up traffic besides this one.

jmoore:


Ask am oh. No real life example.

I have never seen a woman mocked because she gave birth via CS.

My dear I've seen oh. Especially mother inlaws to dia daughter inlaw. I know a lady who stayed away after child birth to avoid mockery from her inlaws.

Something like that is not even supposed to make one feel bad in my opinion, instead, she should feel sorry for her mockers because their level of stupid1ty is something else.

Juzzybabe:
Humm...this post touch me. I give birth a week ago to my first baby, and CS was never an option I ever dreamt of, but after I had labour for hours,I had to be scanned n it showed my water was insufficient to have a natural birth. The doctors told me CS was my way out. I had to accept to save my life and my baby. Still nursing the cut and pains my mother in law look me in the eyes and insulted me that I was too lazy to push my baby out. She has been telling people and even to my face that I wasted her son's money on CS all because I couldn't push. she said I didn't labour. I am hurt by her words but I pray God have mercy on her.

oh poor baby...heres a hug for you!!!Do not pay her heed!!! Be happy!!! Shes limited in understand to actually know what you went through......

Wedon:


Woow . . . .

That woman is the real definition of SATAN!

No shes not....Its what she understands.....

How will they laugh at people that gave birth through CS ,every method is to deliver a child na
I'm even surprise when I hear women gist of how they rejected CS ,as if the most important thing is not to be alive with your baby.

Juzzybabe:
Humm...this post touch me. I give birth a week ago to my first baby, and CS was never an option I ever dreamt of, but after I had labour for hours,I had to be scanned n it showed my water was insufficient to have a natural birth. The doctors told me CS was my way out. I had to accept to save my life and my baby. Still nursing the cut and pains my mother in law look me in the eyes and insulted me that I was too lazy to push my baby out. She has been telling people and even to my face that I wasted her son's money on CS all because I couldn't push. she
said I didn't labour. I am hurt by her words but I pray God have mercy on her.

Congratulation my dear! Don't mind your mother in law, just forgive and forget her words to be in good terms with her. It must be old age and village mentality that is her problem.
Just take care of yourself and baby.

Who and where?

Only heard of it on NL. Every weird things only happen on NL. Heard they mock IVF babies too. Women, Women , women are their own worst enemies , rarely you will hear such derogatory remark from menfolk. God pass una.

Anyone mocking& shaming ANY medical procedur that prevents senseless death needs a mental reevaluation. Simple.

cococandy:
SMH.
Well thank God you're healthy and your baby is healthy too.

I know of three women who have died in mom's hospital because they refused the option of CS so that people won't laugh at them or say they are not real women who cannot push.
What hurts me most in those cases is that the child normally dies too from distress.
Some strangulate to death because the umbilical cord tied itself around their neck and mom insist on pushing, thereby killing her own baby by herself just to impress the world.
On painful case had the baby choking on the mother's fluids and ingesting his own poop because she had been in labor for 3days yet refused CS while calling on God to help her deliver like the 'Hebrew women' . It is not funny.
Of course he was born still.

You're both fit. baby and mother. That's all that matters.
Don't even respond to her taunts or show any signs that it affects you.

haba.is that story african magic or superstory.na everything you dey knw.

oloyede252:

haba.is that story african magic or superstory.na everything you dey knw.

Sharrap

cococandy:

Sharrap

is dat d name of the story? Dey lie small small na.

Juzzybabe:
Humm...this post touch me. I give birth a week ago to my first baby, and CS was never an option I ever dreamt of, but after I had labour for hours,I had to be scanned n it showed my water was insufficient to have a natural birth. The doctors told me CS was my way out. I had to accept to save my life and my baby. Still nursing the cut and pains my mother in law look me in the eyes and insulted me that I was too lazy to push my baby out. She has been telling people and even to my face that I wasted her son's money on CS all because I couldn't push. she said I didn't labour. I am hurt by her words but I pray God have mercy on her.

Sorry about her words but again I don't think you should take her seriously...It all boils down to ignorance
But again its high time you stood up to a woman like that.. Next time she says a thing close to that tell her calmly but sternly that "You don't have to bother about me, the most important thing is that I and my baby came out safely, it could have been worse"
Tell your husband you cant stand her talking like that.. he better does something about it immediately

Juzzybabe:
Humm...this post touch me. I give birth a week ago to my first baby, and CS was never an option I ever dreamt of, but after I had labour for hours,I had to be scanned n it showed my water was insufficient to have a natural birth. The doctors told me CS was my way out. I had to accept to save my life and my baby. Still nursing the cut and pains my mother in law look me in the eyes and insulted me that I was too lazy to push my baby out. She has been telling people and even to my face that I wasted her son's money on CS all because I couldn't push. she said I didn't labour. I am hurt by her words but I pray God have mercy on her.

two sides to a coin

you did it cos you have no choice so no one can blame you

but there are others who had made the choice even before delivery is near for different reasons, eg I cant stand the pain, or the wait, or the area would widen and hubby will go and carry unilag girls etc

final word from your story: let girls (and even guys) be encouraged to choose a spouse whose parents are late

initiate:


two sides to a coin

you did it cos you have no choice so no one can blame you

but there are others who had made the choice even before delivery is near for different reasons, eg I cant stand the pain, or the wait, or the area would widen and hubby will go and carry unilag girls etc

final word from your story: let girls (and even guys) be encouraged to choose a spouse whose parents are late

Hahahaha omo this your final word ehnnnn.... I laugh piss. its just unfortunate am not lucky to have a good MIL,but I really like inlaws as a whole. they are usually another kind of family we get attached to when we marry. May God help us.

initiate:


two sides to a coin

you did it cos you have no choice so no one can blame you

but there are others who had made the choice even before delivery is near for different reasons, eg I cant stand the pain, or the wait, or the area would widen and hubby will go and carry unilag girls etc

final word from your story: let girls (and even guys) be encouraged to choose a spouse whose parents are late

And is there anything wrong with the bolded

The end point is birthing a baby, not so?

If any woman said that to my face I will pour either blazing hot water or acid directly on her vagyna depending on my mood . such shallowness

Juzzybabe:
Humm...this post touch me. I give birth a week ago to my first baby, and CS was never an option I ever dreamt of, but after I had labour for hours,I had to be scanned n it showed my water was insufficient to have a natural birth. The doctors told me CS was my way out. I had to accept to save my life and my baby. Still nursing the cut and pains my mother in law look me in the eyes and insulted me that I was too lazy to push my baby out. She has been telling people and even to my face that I wasted her son's money on CS all because I couldn't push. she said I didn't labour. I am hurt by her words but I pray God have mercy on her.

And what did her son, your husband, do about such utterances?

No matter what u do, how saintly u are, ppl will always judge u differently. How much of a fvck u give to their judgement determines ur life's pattern.

Opting for CS is a bold step and u'd def be putting the life of ur child above urs considering the dangers of getting a knife cut.


Please ignore the judgmental fools.

Juzzybabe:
Humm...this post touch me. I give birth a week ago to my first baby, and CS was never an option I ever dreamt of, but after I had labour for hours,I had to be scanned n it showed my water was insufficient to have a natural birth. The doctors told me CS was my way out. I had to accept to save my life and my baby. Still nursing the cut and pains my mother in law look me in the eyes and insulted me that I was too lazy to push my baby out. She has been telling people and even to my face that I wasted her son's money on CS all because I couldn't push. she said I didn't labour. I am hurt by her words but I pray God have mercy on her.

what a witch for a Mil

Don't let her words get to you cha cha
You're alive and fine, baby is alive and fine. that's all that matters!

Juzzybabe:
Humm...this post touch me. I give birth a week ago to my first baby, and CS was never an option I ever dreamt of, but after I had labour for hours,I had to be scanned n it showed my water was insufficient to have a natural birth. The doctors told me CS was my way out. I had to accept to save my life and my baby. Still nursing the cut and pains my mother in law look me in the eyes and insulted me that I was too lazy to push my baby out. She has been telling people and even to my face that I wasted her son's money on CS all because I couldn't push. she said I didn't labour. I am hurt by her words but I pray God have mercy on her.

What a mother in law!! My middle finger, up in the air for her..

And what did her son do?

On a lighter note, you did the bravest thing, madam. To hell with her and her definition of bravery.. You and your child are alive, and that's what matters..

Phema:

And what did her son, your husband, do about such utterances?

He's not in the country and I didn't tell him.

It's not just a nairaland story.There are people(women) in real life(especially the older generation) who make snide remarks about women who give birth via C/S.They often say they are lazy.
It's just ignorance that makes them say that.Do they understand why the C/S has to be done in the first place even though some are elective?
Some babies die(of distress)just because the mother won't have a C/S done or end up with birth injuries.

The most important thing is having a healthy baby and a mother who is alive.

^^ Ok

Never heard of it in real life. Have you?

Juzzybabe:
Humm...this post touch me. I give birth a week ago to my first baby, and CS was never an option I ever dreamt of, but after I had labour for hours,I had to be scanned n it showed my water was insufficient to have a natural birth. The doctors told me CS was my way out. I had to accept to save my life and my baby. Still nursing the cut and pains my mother in law look me in the eyes and insulted me that I was too lazy to push my baby out. She has been telling people and even to my face that I wasted her son's money on CS all because I couldn't push. she said I didn't labour. I am hurt by her words but I pray God have mercy on her.

You know, I would have laughed at her and say I agree I'm lazy, I don't give a hoot.
Don't feel bad at all. It could have been worse if you did vaginal delivery.
I was born with one of those brachial plexus injuries because of vaginal delivery and the silly doctor who was trying to force me out.
You think I will think twice if my doctor suggests C&S? lol.
Your baby is alive and healthy, that is the most important thing.

i lost a cousin who was trying to prove to her inlaws dat she would push her baby n be a real woman.after they mocked her that her first baby was a c/s n she was not woman enof.imagine !someone with small pelvis n just had a c/s d year before.Hmmm.she died n her babies were raised in d orphanage n d strangest fact was that d SIL who was d chief advocate was pregnant then too n that pregnancy was her sixth.n she had that one thru c/s after 5 normal deliveries that made her a super woman.i still wonder she did not refuse d cs n be a super woman.rest in peace ND

estheremma:
i lost a cousin who was trying to prove to her inlaws dat she would push her baby n be a real woman.after they mocked her that her first baby was a c/s n she was not woman enof.imagine !someone with small pelvis n just had a c/s d year before.Hmmm.she died n her babies were raised in d orphanage n d strangest fact was that d SIL who was d chief advocate was pregnant then too n that pregnancy was her sixth.n she had that one thru c/s after 5 normal deliveries that made her a super woman.i still wonder she did not refuse d cs n be a super woman.rest in peace ND

Auchh!! People don't know how their spiteful words could hurt. I'm sorry dear.
RIP ND