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Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Burger01(m): 11:34am On May 28, 2015 |
That's women for you. Just use your head and relate with your father the way you should. Women! Smh 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Firefire(m): 11:35am On May 28, 2015 |
then turn against your mother. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by loomer: 11:36am On May 28, 2015 |
Just no worry, e go better. Just don't hate either of them sha at the long run. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 11:37am On May 28, 2015 |
marque: Carry ur family wahala comot for here. This is family affairs and should be settled at home. Everybody here on this forum has their family issues. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by shaynelifa(m): 11:41am On May 28, 2015 |
Act like your father. He knows why he is ignoring things. Women issues aren't worth being pondered upon else it might ruin your own purpose In life. Greater percentage of women have never been understanding right from the time BC! |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by hardbody: 11:43am On May 28, 2015 |
marque: Very sympathetic point. But niqqa, u r 4qed if you rely on your mum this semester. She will remind you. But on a serious note, speak up and discourage your mum. Let her know in tbe presence of your sisters that her approach is a divide and rule tactic and it tears down rather than build up a family. Resolve within you that you must help your family and see how this resolve gingers you to speak up and correct issues. It doesnt mean you are going to be rude. NO. All the best bro. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by dvee2: 11:48am On May 28, 2015 |
Good you are reasoning maturely at your age. Some women are like that. Tell her you love her too even more than your Dad, but in this case she must put herself in Daddy's shoe. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by peeparty(m): 11:50am On May 28, 2015 |
Am happy that u are matured now to reason fins out for yoursef.I'd could be a lot of issues past daht keeps repeating itsef in ur mums mind daht would mk her act daht way.#hurt. Now let not begin to tk side on who is right or wrung.so my advice is tk time out n pray when u have peace in ur hrt.u can now call ur mum n talk to her concerning how u feel about d way things are going which is actually aving an effect on u as a child. Bless up bro |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by M4gunners: 11:52am On May 28, 2015 |
As African parent ur mum will not t ur words even if she knew what you are trying to tell her is truth. I suggest you keep playing ur role by not supporting her in such thing. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by kilode100(f): 11:57am On May 28, 2015 |
Yeye Boy! Your Papa no bother himself, na you come carry am for head like gala.... Mstew! Na your type go dey report him wife when you eventually marry. You talk too much biko. 23 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by bukatyne(f): 11:58am On May 28, 2015 |
How has your parents' relationship back in the day? Can youremember? Cc: marque |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by kilode100(f): 12:00pm On May 28, 2015 |
marque: Eeyah... How sorrowful.. 22 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by 9jatatafo(m): 12:04pm On May 28, 2015 |
What your mother is doing is bad, you are a boy to become a man in this life, women have a way of tricking men. Be she your mother, sister or wife they are the same. Don't let her turn you against your dad. Talk to your mother in a better way but don't be rude to her. Your dad is right and he is in charge of the situation but a woman can frustrate the living day light out of a man. Don't follow the dangerous path your mother is going, the end won't be good unless she turn a new leaf. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 12:05pm On May 28, 2015 |
@ OP, Thank God you are wise. To be honest with you, she is your mother but she is not a very good woman. I have seen some women do this and succeeded in turning their children against their fathers who laboured hard to carter for them and they are happy at what they did. I will be glad if you are up to 18 years. If you are, protect your dad. One day you will be a dad too and wouldn't want such to happen to you. Whenever she calls for such meeting, attend, listen and after she had said all she wanted to say, simply tell her that your dad is the head of the family and his decision is final. Then walk away. Let her get angry with you, she will later understand you won't support her ways and she will let you be. You are a man and must protect your dad. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by helpsystem: 12:05pm On May 28, 2015 |
@op I must say sincerely I share your predicament and I will give you a straight answer through my observation with my own parent. What I realise from them is that my mother try to manipulate us against our dad when ever my dad is not bulging to her demands, though my mom is a good woman but woman tends to over do or find away to achieve their aim. At a time I do support her and as I grow I start to see things in different perspective and to understand all my dads silence during the years when my mom do shed crocodile tears to manipulate us against him. Until you are a father yourself yoy may not understand how manipulating a woman is they try to secure your trust from childhood so that you will always put them ahead of others, and that's why you notice some mother prefers a child to another one and the major reason is simple THEY WILL PICK THE ONE THEY CAN MANIPULATE to secure their future. I regret to say this but our mother's are selfish but yet they love us no matter our decisions. So make yours 5 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 12:06pm On May 28, 2015 |
marque: I am so sorry to disappoint you mister. The hard fact is that both sexes are guilty of these but it is unfortunate that in your situation, it is your mum. Simply ignore her and tell her off when next she sits you down to complain. Make it clear to her that it is between her and her husband and it is of no concern of yours. Also WARN never to get your siblings involve again. If she tries to blackmail you, please ignore her and tell her that no true mother would burden her own children with her issues. Let her know that it took two people to produce you and she is just one of the two and you also have every right to support your dad if truly he is your father and her husband. Parents also need a firm hand. Don't be bullied to do what you wouldn't do because of their emotional blackmail. You have to stand up to her and make your siblings understand her wrongs. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by friends4ever(m): 12:08pm On May 28, 2015 |
sunnydayasaba: You nailed it...good advise. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by emmatok(m): 12:09pm On May 28, 2015 |
@OP your mum is just trying to justify her selfish actions through gaining you support. Anytime she comes with those talks and gossips, just find a way to excuse yourself. Try block your mind from such behavior, because it might affect you relationship with females in the future. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by onyebuchiii(m): 12:11pm On May 28, 2015 |
d reason why naija men sort for a baby boy.... |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 12:12pm On May 28, 2015 |
Burger01: Ode! |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by muhdyaya91: 12:12pm On May 28, 2015 |
jayne8585yahoo:Madam take it easy n don't confuse d boy. I was once n still in his shoes, since wen I was a kid it has been trouble here n there n now I'm grown n still it is dis or dat. Even after the death of our father it still continued. Just waiting for the day I will start my own family. So please let it be coz some women are like dat. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by emmatok(m): 12:14pm On May 28, 2015 |
helpsystem: The Bold is the most baffling of it all, you see them hating their own children due to simple disagreement with their father. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 12:16pm On May 28, 2015 |
op 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by anonym0us: 12:18pm On May 28, 2015 |
sunnydayasaba:sooo dumb must every advice be at a restaurant? |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Fourwinds: 12:19pm On May 28, 2015 |
marque:OP God go bless u all thru ur life. u were born with wisdom.only a special child think dis way. reason and act without emotions or bias. some mothers do dat a lot. my sister does it against her husband. I don't but into such bias because my world goes beyond d one I'm living in presently 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by LASYEM(m): 12:19pm On May 28, 2015 |
fromnigeria:Have been der too ..my advice to u is don't get btw the two of them. Because you are a man makes you to really see the view of your father.. I really pity your Sister for believing your mum always it will surely affect her when she eventually get married. Don't always correct ur mum, if she have a close friend always tell dat one.but don't let her hate you, cos it might be dangerous for you,always make your point n let her see dat you support her always, dats wat most mother want.. Am in similar shoe like you and I try to play my politics well btw the two party. Especially my mum. So try be the man and at the same time the best son to your mum. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by DuchessLily(f): 12:22pm On May 28, 2015 |
NOT all mothers are like that. Talk to her respectfully. And also talk to ur sister, cos what she is learning Frm ur mum is bad and will affect her own marriage. Pray to God to give u d wisdom to help ur family solve this 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by sunnydayasaba(m): 12:22pm On May 28, 2015 |
anonym0us: I will ignore u, but i hp u knw u dnt need to show how retard u r here? Quote me again and u will remain a fool forever. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 12:22pm On May 28, 2015 |
OP. This ur problem is common in most homes in Nigeria. You are not alone. 80percent of Nigeria Mothers are like ur mum. 70percent of children actually fall for thier manupulations. That is why to many people: Mothers are always angels while fathers are always beast. Women are always d victim. that is how many mothers make thier children to think. Those saying is because she might not love ur dad are likely to be wrong. Even when mothers love thier husband, they still want to have most of d love and attention of d children over thier husband. they still manipulate their children even if they love thier husband. Most fathers are usually aware of d manipulations. they just choose to ignore. Note: Some fathers are like women or even worse. In my own case, my father was d one trying to make me hate my mum by all means. My mum didnt even care. Fathers are not so good in manipulation because they try to do it rationally. so it doesnt work well. only about 20percent of children will fall for thier fathers manipulation. But mothers use emotion to manipulate thier children and it work on atleast 70percent of the children 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Mrbigman1(m): 12:23pm On May 28, 2015 |
Oga, thank God u finally found out. Best thing is, stand in between the line, bring peace back Asap, try make ur sisters turn ur own side, this ur side is a side that is btw d line and want a real happy family again. It happens in almost all families even in mine but my elder brother is the " devil may care " type and all he dose is give u any amount of money u seek. I happened to take charge one nyt dey wia making nose and I shouted devil out of both of them especially mum cos my dad dnt have much issues. My two sisters (elders) wia just laughing. This thing ur mum and every mum is doing is breaking homes and they may want to run dia homes d way dia own mum ran dias, or the way someone else is running her hum but it's not d answer. Be d peace maker bro, and I trust u can. Cheers |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 12:23pm On May 28, 2015 |
Op, you shouldn't bring your family matter to NL na. But i can understand that because you are young. It is very natural for women to vent and since you are her kids, she feels free doing it even though it's not proper. That's how most mothers are( some fathers do it too). That been said, here is what you should do- Absolutely Nothing! The matter still remains between your mum and dad so don't get involved. Keep greeting her. She can't keep ignoring you. Infact, she'll soon realise that you are just a neutral, responsible son that respects his parents equally. Most girls will always support their mum so don't be mad at your sister. Keep yourself busy to take your mind off the family drama. Always know when to act,talk and keep silent. I'm talking from experience.....Good Luck. |
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