cococandy:
forgive my pidgin Yoruba. bukatyne refused to teach me

Joavid:


I agree with you wholeheartedly.
I've told myself, if I don't get to a certain point in my career and finance, I won't bother about marriage.

Velocitron:


However you take it, I guess. Hopefully you see where I'm coming from.

FrancisTony:

Funny, exactly.

Ivara Esege doesn't rant about Chimamanda's view.
Jay Z doesn't rant about Beyonce's view.
Hilary Clinton campaign for feminism and Bill Clinton doesn't rant about it.

Sadly, these ones that rant their girlfriends haven't heard the word "feminism" and don't know all it's about.
Why the vexation?

tomy5:


IT IS BECAUSE ALL THE PEOPLE U MENTIONED ARE RICH AND LIVE A NICE LIFE.Name one that is poor.The average people they are deceiving are poor.

calista1234:
Do u knw I actually have to copy some point down
Great speech by a great writer
Although don't totally agree wif the "gay part" nothing like equal right for dat cos the bible is against it

5minsmadness:


In Nigeria, divorce rate have been rising since the beginning of the 20th century, and especially since the 1980s. Some experts contend that the availability of divorce laws has helped weaken the strength of marriage making it difficult for couple to work out the inevitable difficulties that arise in marriage (Browne and Hamilton, 1998; Snyder and Sickmund, 1999; Mezieobi and Okpara, 2007; Edinyang, 2012a). This is evident considering the numerous divorce laws available. But, is divorce truly the answer for family instability? This question is what this research work seeks to explore.(http://www.aessweb.com/pdf-files/ijass%203(3)-772-782.pdf)

Still the U.S. divorce
rate remains high when compared with the rate in
earlier eras and in other societies (Whites 1990).



Number of marriages: 2,118,000
Marriage rate: 6.8 per 1,000 total population
Divorce rate: 3.6 per 1,000 total population (44 reporting States and D.C.)
CENTRE FOR DISEASE CONTROL http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/marriage-divorce.htm


In the United States, couples marrying for the first time have approximately a fifty percent chance of divorcing. (amerian psychological association http://www.apa.org/topics/divorce/ ). With all the modernisation and enlightenment, I wonder why.

bukatyne:


I wonder where we get This African marriages are better or last longer bullshit.

Velocitron:


I never read articles from biased sources or based on biased studies. The study in the article was done by the "The American Association of University Women". Doesn't sound very neutral to me.

Besides, other factors such as work experience, pay negotiation, confidence (to ask for raises), connections, time spent at that company, education etc were not accounted for.

You can fumble with numbers or twists facts as much as you want to. There just isn't a wage gap between men and women in developed countries.

missterious:



Marriage is a beautiful thing. I would love to get married. It is possible to be rich & married & that is what I pray for. But if I had to choose, I would choose money. Being single is not a sin.

FYI, this "feminist crap" is the reason women can vote, the reason your daughter can go to school. Feminism is advocacy for social & economic equality of the sexes.

repogirl:
being single is definitely no sin but the love of money is, and the fact that you strive towards money says so much that I needn't waste my words anymore.
The suffragettes (original feminists) achieved most of their aims and faded into oblivion after that, they fought for worthy causes, they fought for their rights which were being withheld, pls tell me what modern day feminists are fighting for..... That men be given same paternity leave as their wives, that they be allowed to expose their chest areas like men or according to Chimamanda, women should be allowed to break kolanuts, seems as if they envy the men. Mtchewww ..... Just being ridiculous but of course they wouldn't know they are.

Anyhoo, I wish all of you luck breaking out of your self imposed bondage.

conscript1967:
Most equality inclined women only think of benefits. How will they feel if their husband begs dem to step down from the car in de rain to change the tyre or push de car or even search for a mechanic in a strange town. Of course I expect them to jump up to de job because of equality baa?. No more "but u are de man naaaw" abi?
You still see dem lusting for rich powerful men who will take care of them because "dats how a man should be". Is it not sexist? They still won't toast a guy they like because "we ladies can't emotionally handle rejection like men" pffffffhh!
Most of the girls talking about men cooking cannot service a generator or a car or chop wood or handle a hammer or fix burnt wires or even a blown fuse. These are some things men do just because they are MEN. Women can do them but mostly choose not to because they are WOMEN and have their own duties. It is division of labour through gender difference not inequality.

repogirl:
being single is definitely no sin but the love of money is, and the fact that you strive towards money says so much that I needn't waste my words anymore.
The suffragettes (original feminists) achieved most of their aims and faded into oblivion after that, they fought for worthy causes, they fought for their rights which were being withheld, pls tell me what modern day feminists are fighting for..... That men be given same paternity leave as their wives, that they be allowed to expose their chest areas like men or according to Chimamanda, women should be allowed to break kolanuts, seems as if they envy the men. Mtchewww ..... Just being ridiculous but of course they wouldn't know they are.

Anyhoo, I wish all of you luck breaking out of your self imposed bondage.

VictoriaBee:

You mean only breaking of kolanut is all you could pick from her writeup?.
Your short-sightedness is pathetic.
You can tow your path and definitely won't choke it on someone's throat.

So, requesting that justice should be done and respect earned is now envy. Your inferiority complex is pathetic.

I implore you work hard and give your own speech in Ibadan poly.

Menace2Society:
I won't die but I will surely go on exile

VictoriaBee:

You mean only breaking of kolanut is all you could pick from her writeup?.
Your short-sightedness is pathetic.
You can tow your path and definitely won't choke it on someone's throat.

So, requesting that justice should be done and respect earned is now envy. Your inferiority complex is pathetic.

I implore you work hard and give your own speech in Ibadan poly.

missclasssy:
She is correct.

Women have for a long time been made to feel that being powerful, being an authoritative figure or being in a positions of power isn't their right so when such happens it becomes seen as a remarkable thing, as something exceptional.

The political social and religious structures of the world have belittled the feminine gender into being seen as nothing but second to the male gender.
Men are seen as leaders, while women are seen as followers. Men are seen as rulers , while women are seen as helpers and supporters.
Men are seen as strong, while women are seen as weak.

Women are taught silence, while men are taught to speak.
Women are taught to serve men, to obey men, not to talk back at men and a lot of bullshit.
Most of our religious institutions especially ones like Islam, and christianity have a huge role to play in all this through their customs, doctrines and stories.


This has created a default mentality towards what women are supposed to be, So when people see a confident powerful woman, they become amazed. They see her as extraordinary.

Women need to see themselves differently from what they have been told and forced to believe.

repogirl:
You are the inferior ones constantly claiming for equality, really think about it, are you equal with a man?
I don't need a man to tell me I am a small girl and then I go find a lipstick, I use one because I feel the need to use one.
I know what I am entitled to, I know my responsibilities as a woman, a sane responsible man knows his, any sane person should. Right, there are some who disrespect women and that is wrong and should be addressed but the line is drawn when you think you are being unjustly oppressed by the world especially when the world is a free place.

I support a fight for your God given rights and not a fight for ridiculousness and I dnt need to make a speech to anyone to be important. No one has enslaved anyone. If you feel enslaved, that's just too bad.

repogirl:
You are the inferior ones constantly claiming for equality, really think about it, are you equal with a man?
I don't need a man to tell me I am a small girl and then I go find a lipstick, I use one because I feel the need to use one.
I know what I am entitled to, I know my responsibilities as a woman, a sane responsible man knows his, any sane person should.
Right, there are some who disrespect women and that is wrong and should be addressed but the line is drawn when you think you are being unjustly oppressed by the world especially when the world is a free place.

I support a fight for your God given rights and not a fight for ridiculousness and I dnt need to make a speech to anyone to be important. No one has enslaved anyone. If you feel enslaved, that's just too bad.

conscript1967:
Most equality inclined women only think of benefits. How will they feel if their husband begs dem to step down from the car in de rain to change the tyre or push de car or even search for a mechanic in a strange town. Of course I expect them to jump up to de job because of equality baa?. No more "but u are de man naaaw" abi?
You still see dem lusting for rich powerful men who will take care of them because "dats how a man should be". Is it not sexist? They still won't toast a guy they like because "we ladies can't emotionally handle rejection like men" pffffffhh!
Most of the girls talking about men cooking cannot service a generator or a car or chop wood or handle a hammer or fix burnt wires or even a blown fuse. These are some things men do just because they are MEN. Women can do them but mostly choose not to because they are WOMEN and have their own duties. It is division of labour through gender difference not inequality.

missclasssy:

One can never know God's true plan/intention.

emzila:

if man doesn't know God's plan, then man is lost on earth

lavatoz:

Haba! You would go on exile because the presido is 'She'?

VictoriaBee:

You mean only breaking of kolanut is all you could pick from her writeup?.
Your short-sightedness is pathetic.
You can tow your path and definitely won't choke it on someone's throat.

So, requesting that justice should be done and respect earned is now envy. Your inferiority complex is pathetic.

I implore you work hard and give your own speech in Ibadan poly.

repogirl:
You are the inferior ones constantly claiming for equality, really think about it, are you equal with a man?
I don't need a man to tell me I am a small girl and then I go find a lipstick, I use one because I feel the need to use one.
I know what I am entitled to, I know my responsibilities as a woman, a sane responsible man knows his, any sane person should. Right, there are some who disrespect women and that is wrong and should be addressed but the line is drawn when you think you are being unjustly oppressed by the world especially when the world is a free place.

I support a fight for your God given rights and not a fight for ridiculousness and I dnt need to make a speech to anyone to be important. No one has enslaved anyone. If you feel enslaved, that's just too bad.

missclasssy:
She is correct.

Women have for a long time been made to feel that being powerful, being an authoritative figure or being in a positions of power isn't their right so when such happens it becomes seen as a remarkable thing, as something exceptional.

The political social and religious structures of the world have belittled the feminine gender into being seen as nothing but second to the male gender.
Men are seen as leaders, while women are seen as followers. Men are seen as rulers , while women are seen as helpers and supporters.
Men are seen as strong, while women are seen as weak.

Women are taught silence, while men are taught to speak.
Women are taught to serve men, to obey men, not to talk back at men and a lot of bullshit.
Most of our religious institutions especially ones like Islam, and christianity have a huge role to play in all this through their customs, doctrines and stories.


This has created a default mentality towards what women are supposed to be, So when people see a confident powerful woman, they become amazed. They see her as extraordinary.

Women need to see themselves differently from what they have been told and forced to believe.

lexy2014:
Babe I love your confidence. I would have prefered u speaking 2 those graduands at Wesley College instead of chimamanda. I respect her achievements but she seems 2b carrying a lot of hurt from her past and distributing it. Wish u d best