onatisi:
I swear if u are a lawyer ,all ur clients will go to jail . You can't prove ur point. Show me where I said God created men to cheat!!!! This is a simple question.

onatisi:
point out in my post where I said god created men to cheat?? U guys just comment on what u want to see without thinking about what u read . I said god created men to love sex.

Crieff:
Truth is the TRUTH as laid down in the Bible is still the only, singular compass of man in all ramifications of his life that includes marriage.

That 99.9% men cheat is not a valid or tenable reason to make it a part and parcel of married life...it is what it is, an excuse and it is unacceptable.

The boundaries of morality are not fixed which explains why morality's definition is expanded to accommodate all these character flaws. This is where righteousness as a biblical principal trumps morality and is also distinguished from man-made morality.

Married men may fall into adultery but it never should be a norm that must be expected but frowned up and nipped right in the bud.

Nonso23:

You can Sabi vex
Your alarm haf rungged yet?? Have you drunk your miliki yet??

Nonso23:
Why are you all cranky?? How far with your milk? you keep dodging that question?

Stillfire:


Wow, wow, round of applause.
It's not as if women do not or cannot cheat, it's because society frowns at women cheating more than male adultery.
Society's attitudes towards male adultery needs to change. This leniency towards adultery is not helping anyone. It is destroying families. Any person that claims to be family centered would be focused on curbing this menace that is destroying families.

FrancisTony:
I can only speak for Christians.

Bible said love your wife as Christ loved his Church.
Any Christian man that supports OP will definitely not eat his cake and have it.
Adultery and Pre-marital sex is evil - shun it.

Don't be a cheat and expect submissive/respectful wife.


N/B - Quote responsibly...

jaybee3:
I think your attempt at downplaying the significance of a cheating partner is apt but you've failed to consider how the act of cheating in it's entirety reverberates around the foundation that a successful marriage should stand on. In other words, the ripple effect of cheating

Yes cheating to us Men at most times is simply defined as sharing ones body.

These are some of the direct impact of cheating in a relationship:

The obvious STI's
Finance
Trust Issues (both Present and future)
Increase of anxiety on the receiving partner
Emotional Imbalance and in turn cloudiness of judgement when it comes to real issues

VictoriaBee:

Try hardeerrrrrrr!
You'll make sense freely sooner even though you tried here, but all na wash.

onatisi:
this is the truth majority of young married ladies don't understand. But older married women do and that is why they are never bothered when they learn their husbands in cheating outside ,their only problem is him marrying them. Now we have married women who even pack condoms into their husband things when he is traveling. Women must know that the first thing in a man brain about the opposite sex is sex .that is the way god created us.

onatisi:

And this is natural , men see women outside their marriage as sex partners nothing more than that,But sees the wife at home as his [/b]best friend and soul partner.[b]

Nonso23:

Sentiments galore
The solace of the weak.
Love and sex are not the same and hence serve different purposes in a union.
Many people would honor a contract better than that mere celebration in front of a congregation. Reason?
It is simply impracticable today. Being trustworthy has nothing to do with sex as a man.

Read that post again. Too much wisdom to ignore

BABE3:


didn't he though? Those polygamous men of God in the old testament? David, Solomon and Co.

,Monogamy is a direct result of civilization. Religious values change as a result of change in societal values; not the other way around. No one got punished by God for having more than one wife in the bible. But nowadays, polygamy is a sin.

If you look at it from a purely biological point of view, men's biggest sexùal problem is to inhibit themselves from èjaculating too soon.
Women biggest sexùal problem is èjaculating at all. The single most sexùal organ, clitòris, malfunctions like no man's business.

So did God want men to enjoy sèx more? Leading to having multiple sexùal partners?
#justasking.

sunnydayasaba:
OP, your so on point, So ladies think a man marries them because of sex, but that's a big lie. Most men don't get married because of sex, its over rated, so any woman who gets married and wants to kill herself because her husband cheated on her, Can do so, its her life.

For most men, the reason they get married is for companionship. So if he finds u gud enough to be his companion, then bother not abt his cheating habit, but guide him better and talk with him if u suspect that he's cheating. Show how much of a gud companion ur to him. That's why he married U

Amya:
Coming from a pseudo-feminist, it shouldn't be all that alarming.

I was reading a thread yesterday about a young women who tried to commit suicide because she found out her supposedly perfect husband was cheating on her. If she were my kid Sis, I'd have dashed her free slap for that stupidity. This same lady was just justifying her husband's actions when after an argument he pushed her so her hard she banged her head on the edge of a glass table (in the risk of a permanent head injury). This same lady condoned and even justified her husband hating her OWN mother for the flimsy reason that she made some strong recommendations while they were planning their wedding. And suddenly she finds out her husband had a plethora of runs girls at his beck and call, and she overdosed on pills! You've got to be kidding me!

Now, I know my opinion on cheating males is going to be hugely unpopular amongst the female folks in the house (especially the married ones who for some reason think their life's happiness is tied to their spouse's fidelity). I'm also not making excuse for the male folks for cheating, I'm just trying to be realistic about this society. For some reason, men cheat. Most men infact. The sooner women realise this, the happier marriages will be. Sex is not love. To men especially (and me too) sex is just a function that can stand on it's own independent of love and even affection. It's like eating.

Don't be 100% sure that your husband is not cheating or will not cheat on you. That will be living in a fools paradise my dear. It has nothing to do with how pure or holy you were growing up. let's lower our expectations as far as marriage is concerned, and I bet you you'll have a happier and fulfilled marriage.

Or you can always choose not to get married. Divorce is also an option.

Yeah, Yeah I know about the bringing another woman into the house or infecting HIV to the poor innocent wife. Yeah let's hope your husband is sensible enough to not commit to these ladies and he's not stupid enough to not use protection.

FrancisTony:
I can only speak for Christians.

Bible said love your wife as Christ loved his Church.
Any Christian man that supports OP will definitely not eat his cake and have it.
Adultery and Pre-marital sex is evil - shun it.

Don't be a cheat and expect submissive/respectful wife.


N/B - Quote responsibly...

onatisi:
this is the truth majority of young married ladies don't understand. But older married women do and that is why they are never bothered when they learn their husbands in cheating outside ,their only problem is him marrying them. Now we have married women who even pack condoms into their husband things when he is traveling. Women must know that the first thing in a man brain about the opposite sex is sex .that is the way god created us.

Nonso23:


Odogwu k'ibu!

So many intelligent men in this section!! I'm amazed!

VintageCocktail:
Let's agree to disagree.
I am a man of my words, when I said I love you to my wife....I mean it......abstaining from things that will cause her pain becomes my priority not massaging my male ego and basking on the euphoria of being in a man's world and can cheat and get away with it ish. I came from a stable home and I am willing to make it more stable than my parents'.


Anyway, whatever rocks your boat.....
Coming to the bolded...this is the mentality of your average gigolos and runs girls.

gboss4sure:

One bottle of Hennessy for you,
To us men, sex is not love.

Amya:
Coming from a pseudo-feminist, it shouldn't be all that alarming.

I was reading a thread yesterday about a young women who tried to commit suicide because she found out her supposedly perfect husband was cheating on her. If she were my kid Sis, I'd have dashed her free slap for that stupidity. This same lady was just justifying her husband's actions when after an argument he pushed her so her hard she banged her head on the edge of a glass table (in the risk of a permanent head injury). This same lady condoned and even justified her husband hating her OWN mother for the flimsy reason that she made some strong recommendations while they were planning their wedding. And suddenly she finds out her husband had a plethora of runs girls at his beck and call, and she overdosed on pills! You've got to be kidding me!

Now, I know my opinion on cheating males is going to be hugely unpopular amongst the female folks in the house (especially the married ones who for some reason think their life's happiness is tied to their spouse's fidelity). I'm also not making excuse for the male folks for cheating, I'm just trying to be realistic about this society. For some reason, men cheat. Most men infact. The sooner women realise this, the happier marriages will be. Sex is not love. To men especially (and me too) sex is just a function that can stand on it's own independent of love and even affection. It's like eating.

Don't be 100% sure that your husband is not cheating or will not cheat on you. That will be living in a fools paradise my dear. It has nothing to do with how pure or holy you were growing up. let's lower our expectations as far as marriage is concerned, and I bet you you'll have a happier and fulfilled marriage.

Or you can always choose not to get married. Divorce is also an option.

Yeah, Yeah I know about the bringing another woman into the house or infecting HIV to the poor innocent wife. Yeah let's hope your husband is sensible enough to not commit to these ladies and he's not stupid enough to not use protection.