Toks2008:


I pray you do not see reason to believe that any married lady is indeed lucky in a world where sex has become so cheap and guys dont have to marry to be a father,

How can you explain super hot chics like Tiwa salvage,Mercy Johnson,Mercy aigbe,Funke akindele and many more ending up with men who have been married even with children?

Ask many ladies who divorced their spouse based on this reason and they will be sincere to tell you that they wished they never did

slyfoxxjoe:
with all due respect sir u are talking trash.. if this is the case, then how come it is only in backward societies like Africa and Islamic societies like Asia that women are tolerant of polygamy and cheating from men? Try it in the civilised (western) world with a white lady.. u won't only get kicked out of ur home but might also end up in jail! If you want to quote scripture, it always baffles me when we Africans think we know the bible more than the white man who brought it to us yet we are the ones who open our mouths to proclaim such immorality like "a man can sleep around all he wants, his woman should get used to it". Believe it or not, western Christian cultures follow the principles of the bible better than we Africans and a lot of these principles are enshrined in their laws I.e: murder is a crime, stealing is a crime, baring false accounts (under oath) in court is a serious crime, POLYGAMY is illegal etc. As for islamic countries, their holy book states it clearly a man is allowed up to 4 wives so their laws tend to follow that principle too. Now let me tell u the simple truth why most African women condone polygamy and cheating from their men.. its not hard to figure..the answer is two fold: INFERIORITY and POVERTY! Society has conditioned most African women to believe marriage is their ultimate calling in life and they should do whatever it takes to get married and stay married even if it means condoning cheating from their man or accepting a second wife.. and since getting divorced or failing to even get married is such a 'shame' for most African ladies, they tend to act accordingly. That explains low self esteem as for poverty, it is obvious one of the major reasons most African ladies rush into or are even pushed into marriage by their parents is for economical reasons. I.e, they need a financially stable husband\son in law to provide for them.. this is not only the reason most African ladies tolerate philandering from their husbands but also why it is so easy to marry up to ten wives once u make a little money in African societies and no one would ask u any questions. Prove me wrong on any of these points if u can. I'm out.

FrancisTony:

There's something we call control, and you've to do it.
Why should you be with a naked woman at first, if you haven't lured her when she was covered?
Nigerian case of abusive husband is when he beats and batters his wife.
Meanwhile, that scenario you narrated can be reversed where a woman shoot her husband.

By the way, have you heard of Sexually transmitted disease? Oh-kay, till he contacts it and pass it to his wife, then you'll know that abusive husband is still better than a promiscuous man.

Nonso23:


Uj nwa please na lemme just enjoy this trolling

sunnydayasaba:



I reject ur prayer in Jesus name...Quit quoting me if u hv nothing meaningful to say...Am entitle to my opinion.

Nonso23:


My friend go an sit down inside poto poto
I regret that we even share the same forum talk less of gender. You and your kind are the weak men raining on our parade.

Learn from that post . It is filled with wisdom!

Toks2008:


Please try to introduce paragraphs to your write ups for easier comprehension and reading because trust me i found it difficult reading your posts.

But please look at the life of the whites and you will see a pattern, serial divorce cases and at the end they all commit even more sins because a divorcee starts dating and sleeping about so what is the moral in their ways of life.

Anyways, whatever rock your boat dearie and please next time try replacing that word trash with more tolerable and socially acceptable words. Have a great day.

VintageCocktail:
Let's agree to disagree.
I am a man of my words, when I said I love you to my wife....I mean it......abstaining from things that will cause her pain becomes my priority not massaging my male ego and basking on the euphoria of being in a man's world and can cheat and get away with it ish. I came from a stable home and I am willing to make it more stable than my parents'.

Anyway, whatever rocks your boat.....
Coming to the bolded...this is the mentality of your average gigolos and runs girls.

FrancisTony:
I can only speak for Christians.

Bible said love your wife as Christ loved his Church.
Any Christian man that supports OP will definitely not eat his cake and have it.
Adultery and Pre-marital sex is evil - shun it.

Don't be a cheat and expect submissive/respectful wife.


N/B - Quote responsibly...

octopusfreaky:
Best comment ever on planet Nairaland...God bless u abundantly..

onatisi:
this is the truth majority of young married ladies don't understand. But older married women do and that is why they are never bothered when they learn their husbands in cheating outside ,their only problem is him marrying them. Now we have married women who even pack condoms into their husband things when he is traveling. Women must know that the first thing in a man brain about the opposite sex is sex .that is the way god created us.

Moana:
may God give you a sexually adventurous wife in Jesus Name

Kirri:
So u opened this thread to celebrate INFIDELITY...............................what has my generation turned into.SMH

1stCitizen:
Nigerian women are the cause of their own problems. Their husbands cheat and all they can do is cry, cry, cry and come to Nairaland to lament. Try that abroad.....your arse is out da door with only your shaving stick and boxers.

This madness can only stop when the victims divorce such men. Marriage no be do or die... haba! Abi na because Niaja women sabi depend on men for everything from recharge cards, to accommodation to car to kpata sef?

Crysallis:


Oga ooo. What if you are married and your wife is the one with sex in her thoughts? Will you give her condoms to travel with?

MARRIED People should learn to stick with their partners only. Sex no be food.

Joavid:


Generally, religious Nigerians are hypocrites.
Am sure if we were to carry out some research, Christian men will come top.

FrancisTony:
I can only speak for Christians.

Bible said love your wife as Christ loved his Church.
Any Christian man that supports OP will definitely not eat his cake and have it.
Adultery and Pre-marital sex is evil - shun it.

Don't be a cheat and expect submissive/respectful wife.


N/B - Quote responsibly...

onatisi:
point out in my post where I said god created men to cheat?? U guys just comment on what u want to see without thinking about what u read . I said god created men to love sex.

Moana:
may God give you a sexually adventurous wife in Jesus Name

onatisi:
yes ,to a man sex na food . And to the second question of women having sex outside marriage ,hmmmmmm, if we open dat topic u go run I swear . But I will ask u just one question ,what are married women doing on dating sites ?? Just think about that.

Stellaenefa:



Where u there when God created Adam. Did God write you a letter about creating MEN to Love sex? He created Eve for companionship because Adam was lonely. One Man, one Rib, one Woman. Go Find your own missing Rib. Just one.

onatisi:
look let's just be honest with ourselves and not try to be a saint here . 95% of married men have cheated or still cheating on their wives. You maybe one of the remaining 5% who aren't. But that doesn't make u any better or more loving and caring than the other 95% who cheat. With cheating ,there is protection but with abusive husbands there is no protection. Forget about self control or not, men need sex and when the urge comes it isn't all men that have the capacity to contain it and cheating on a wife doesn't mean the man doesn't love his wife. I am just been plain honest about this. Women should do a research about why men cheat and to be candid calling it cheating is even not the right word to use ,it should be why men have sex with other women apart from their wives . If a woman doent want her man to have sex outside , will she allow the man to marry more women then?