luckman20:

And what was the name of the church christ attended

FrancisTony:

Actually, laws in the western world favour them; women.

Cheat on a woman and she divorce you and get some percentage of your wealth.

Hero10001:
Women are crazy cos men are stupid.
Men are like dogs but women are hoes.
Cheating shouldn't be a big deal.

Amya:
Coming from a pseudo-feminist, it shouldn't be all that alarming.

I was reading a thread yesterday about a young women who tried to commit suicide because she found out her supposedly perfect husband was cheating on her. If she were my kid Sis, I'd have dashed her free slap for that stupidity. This same lady was just justifying her husband's actions when after an argument he pushed her so her hard she banged her head on the edge of a glass table (in the risk of a permanent head injury). This same lady condoned and even justified her husband hating her OWN mother for the flimsy reason that she made some strong recommendations while they were planning their wedding. And suddenly she finds out her husband had a plethora of runs girls at his beck and call, and she overdosed on pills! You've got to be kidding me!

Now, I know my opinion on cheating males is going to be hugely unpopular amongst the female folks in the house (especially the married ones who for some reason think their life's happiness is tied to their spouse's fidelity). I'm also not making excuse for the male folks for cheating, I'm just trying to be realistic about this society. For some reason, men cheat. Most men infact. The sooner women realise this, the happier marriages will be. Sex is not love. To men especially (and me too) sex is just a function that can stand on it's own independent of love and even affection. It's like eating.

Don't be 100% sure that your husband is not cheating or will not cheat on you. That will be living in a fools paradise my dear. It has nothing to do with how pure or holy you were growing up. let's lower our expectations as far as marriage is concerned, and I bet you you'll have a happier and fulfilled marriage.

Or you can always choose not to get married. Divorce is also an option.

Yeah, Yeah I know about the bringing another woman into the house or infecting HIV to the poor innocent wife. Yeah let's hope your husband is sensible enough to not commit to these ladies and he's not stupid enough to not use protection.

damiso:
The worst thing that can happen to a marriage depends on the two individuals in a marriage and what their ideals and values are

e.g. A runs girl who dated 15 married men as a young lady was hardly ever in school and sha graduated with a pass and no employable skills whatsoever.She was eventually able to snag an 'island' big boy who married her. They live on Bannana Island she drives the best cars, always decked in Louboutins and Ferragamo (y'all know the pic i am painting ) might feel the worst thing to happen to her marriage is if she has to move to Akute, jump Marwa and have to go to yaba to buy bend down select To her sef as she knows from experience her husband cheating is no biggie. As long as she is the 'wifey' with all the perks its all good.

I know people who believe that a man must cheat but its all good as long as he is a 'great provider'. To some women a faithful poor man is of no use to them .I am just being truthful and factual here.

On the other hand some other women believe cheating is a deal breaker and don't mind being the co/main breadwinner as long as he does not cheat.To some its their spouse not having their back with his/her family.

I personally know someone who divorced her husband after so many years without kids. She is now married to someone else and has kids. She told me the deal breaker was the fact that he was unable to give her children. Some other person might have stayed in that marriage. I equally know another couple married for over 20 years without children and they are ok with it.

In other words like most family issues diff strokes for diff folks.

TooNoisy:
What exactly is your point? So women should expect their husbands to cheat? What nonsense is this?

TooNoisy:
What exactly is your point? So women should expect their husbands to cheat? What nonsense is this?

1stCitizen:
Nigerian women are the cause of their own problems. Their husbands cheat and all they can do is cry, cry, cry and come to Nairaland to lament. Try that abroad.....your arse is out da door with only your shaving stick and boxers.

This madness can only stop when the victims divorce such men. Marriage no be do or die... haba! Abi na because Niaja women sabi depend on men for everything from recharge cards, to accommodation to car to kpata sef?

onatisi:
bros , we have seen numerous cases of married women who were not around or who were sick and actually arranged ladies for their husbands just to make sure he is satisfied and calm his sexual urge,this is done to protect the family by not allowing the man to wander all about. The man too knows it is all about sex. This is what we call understanding ,women need to understand the sexual nature of men, men are moved by what they see and not what they hear. U can talk to a lady on phone and make her cum , but u can't talk dirty to a man on phone and expecting him to climax ,he will tell u,you are crazy. This is a wake up call to women ,never to say no to their husbands when he demands or asks for sex ,he may need it when u are in the kitchen,bathroom or bedroom,just give it to him and make him happy. Because if you don't ,someone else will give it to him in abundance .

hensben:
why not equal favoritism?

onatisi:
bros , we have seen numerous cases of married women who were not around or who were sick and actually arranged ladies for their husbands just to make sure he is satisfied and calm his sexual urge,this is done to protect the family by not allowing the man to wander all about. The man too knows it is all about sex. This is what we call understanding ,women need to understand the sexual nature of men, men are moved by what they see and not what they hear. U can talk to a lady on phone and make her cum , but u can't talk dirty to a man on phone and expecting him to climax ,he will tell u,you are crazy. This is a wake up call to women ,never to say no to their husbands when he demands or asks for sex ,he may need it when u are in the kitchen,bathroom or bedroom,just give it to him and make him happy. Because if you don't ,someone else will give it to him in abundance .

FrancisTony:
I can only speak for Christians.

Bible said love your wife as Christ loved his Church.
Any Christian man that supports OP will definitely not eat his cake and have it.
Adultery and Pre-marital sex is evil - shun it.

Don't be a cheat and expect submissive/respectful wife.


N/B - Quote responsibly...

chykdidi:



Even if you practice the biblical principles of being a faithful husband..
Unsubmissive/disrespectful wife will never change...

Nonso23:


Let her knock herself out as long as I don't find out

FrancisTony:

Their lives, their business.

VintageCocktail:
Let's agree to disagree.
I am a man of my words, when I said I love you to my wife....I mean it......abstaining from things that will cause her pain becomes my priority not massaging my male ego and basking on the euphoria of being in a man's world and can cheat and get away with it ish. I came from a stable home and I am willing to make it more stable than my parents'.


Anyway, whatever rocks your boat.....
Coming to the bolded...this is the mentality of your average gigolos and runs girls.

ttomexy:
please, a cheating husband is the worst thing that can happen in marriage especially to a faithful wife, it is a taboo when a wife cheat but it is normal when the husband cheat?

TO ALL CHEATING HUSBAND- Wa ba eru re ni bode, ole koni gbe ( you will meet your load at the bus stop, it will not be stolen)
TO ALL LADIES CHEATING WITH OTHER PEOPLE'S HUSBAND: check it, you will never experience peace, what you sow, you reap
TO ALL WOMEN/MEN REAPING WHAT THEY HAVE SOWN: Be patient, you just need to reap it any way, but you can also pray for mercyyyyyy
TO ALL FAITHFUL SPOUSES: You will laugh last

My opinion

FrancisTony:
I can only speak for Christians.

Bible said love your wife as Christ loved his Church.
Any Christian man that supports OP will definitely not eat his cake and have it.
Adultery and Pre-marital sex is evil - shun it.

Don't be a cheat and expect submissive/respectful wife.


N/B - Quote responsibly...

FrancisTony:
I can only speak for Christians.

Bible said love your wife as Christ loved his Church.
Any Christian man that supports OP will definitely not eat his cake and have it.
Adultery and Pre-marital sex is evil - shun it.

Don't be a cheat and expect submissive/respectful wife.


N/B - Quote responsibly...

hensben:
so this is the sole aim of feminism.

Amya:
Coming from a pseudo-feminist, it shouldn't be all that alarming.

I was reading a thread yesterday about a young women who tried to commit suicide because she found out her supposedly perfect husband was cheating on her. If she were my kid Sis, I'd have dashed her free slap for that stupidity. This same lady was just justifying her husband's actions when after an argument he pushed her so her hard she banged her head on the edge of a glass table (in the risk of a permanent head injury). This same lady condoned and even justified her husband hating her OWN mother for the flimsy reason that she made some strong recommendations while they were planning their wedding. And suddenly she finds out her husband had a plethora of runs girls at his beck and call, and she overdosed on pills! You've got to be kidding me!

Now, I know my opinion on cheating males is going to be hugely unpopular amongst the female folks in the house (especially the married ones who for some reason think their life's happiness is tied to their spouse's fidelity). I'm also not making excuse for the male folks for cheating, I'm just trying to be realistic about this society. For some reason, men cheat. Most men infact. The sooner women realise this, the happier marriages will be. Sex is not love. To men especially (and me too) sex is just a function that can stand on it's own independent of love and even affection. It's like eating.

Don't be 100% sure that your husband is not cheating or will not cheat on you. That will be living in a fools paradise my dear. It has nothing to do with how pure or holy you were growing up. let's lower our expectations as far as marriage is concerned, and I bet you you'll have a happier and fulfilled marriage.

Or you can always choose not to get married. Divorce is also an option.

Yeah, Yeah I know about the bringing another woman into the house or infecting HIV to the poor innocent wife. Yeah let's hope your husband is sensible enough to not commit to these ladies and he's not stupid enough to not use protection.