bebene:
i have a friend(girl) its normal friendship, and actually i like her. I have started thinking of us being more than friends and with all indications she likes me too.
Things were normal between us until i asked her what is it she is afraid of about marriage life? she told me and ask me same question, i said to her am fraid of the hardship that babies come with,but not that i dont like kids, and even if i should get married now i will not allow my wife to get pregnant untill like one or two years.
since the time we had this discussion she have been acting somehow and i asked her is it because of what i said about babies? she said no.
Nairalanders how can i get her back? i love her.

dharay99:

hahahahahaha,
Funny ppl.

Ur story ain't complete to me.

dharay99:

hahahahahaha,
Funny ppl.

Ur story ain't complete to me.

sinaj:



lol no b small

he is hiding da real bomb.

perhaps he told her d opposite of wot he typed here

naijaboiy:

So what is the complete story?

naijaboiy:
Op I guess you and your girlfriends ideas about marriage are at a clash here.

One of the reasons why some people don't get married despite how much they love themselves is because they couldn't agree on certain things that will definitely affect their marriage along the line.

I don't really see your issue as a problem though because you were simply telling her your own fears and she is meant to understand that. Everything is not meant to go her own way all the time. I hope you told her the reason why you wouldn't like to rush to have kids after marriage.

However,,some things are not really clear here. Like the age of you and your girlfriend. Is she getting old already that delaying child birth may be dangerous?

Or is she just a naïve young girl who sees nothing in marriage except being the mother of the house and having babies.

Please do well to answer these questions for further explanations.

sinaj:



lol no b small

he is hiding da real bomb.

perhaps he told her d opposite of wot he typed here

make him wake me up
wen he is ready to talk...

dharay99:

how can a girl just change like daht
all bcuz of dat simple talk.? Naa

He better open up and stop & giving us cracked stories.

bebene:

she is 23 and am 27

dharay99:

how can a girl just change like daht
all bcuz of dat simple talk.? Naa

He better open up and stop & giving us cracked stories.

dharay99:

yhu guys are forgetting sumfin here,

He didn't say d girl is her "girlfrnd"

Them still dey jonze around.

naijaboiy:

And from what he explained up there you couldn't get the main message he was trying to pass across?

[s]It's just obvious you know nothing about the topic so it's better you observe than embarrass yourself and waste the Op's precious time.[/s]

bebene:

yes

bebene:

what you read was what really happed.what more do you want to know? be precise

dharay99:

now i will take daht like it was nuffin.@stroked text.

U claim u understand daht incomplete write up & yet u forgot d part he mentioned "normal frndshp" huh
And here u are labelling her as his gf.?

Plx, I propose u should b d1 not to jump into conclusions anihw when u don't av d full story of
wah u deliberating on...

Mehn, open up n read daht again.

xynerise:
Your girlfriend probably thinks having babies in marriage is a sign of love, commitment and faithfulness. She is not the type that anticipate before going into marriage. Her definition of marriage is "Go church, wed, have sex, get pregnant and born pikins". How to take care of those kids and give them quality education is not in her agenda. Since you don't swim in that school of thought with her, I guess you are like an alien to her.

naijaboiy:
Op I guess you and your girlfriends ideas about marriage are at a clash here.

One of the reasons why some people don't get married despite how much they love themselves is because they couldn't agree on certain things that will definitely affect their marriage along the line.

I don't really see your issue as a problem though because you were simply telling her your own fears and she is meant to understand that. Everything is not meant to go her own way all the time. I hope you told her the reason why you wouldn't like to rush to have kids after marriage.

However,,some things are not really clear here. Like the age of you and your girlfriend. Is she getting old already that delaying child birth may be dangerous?

Or is she just a naïve young girl who sees nothing in marriage except being the mother of the house and having babies.

Please do well to answer these questions for further explanations.

naijaboiy:

Whether you take it as "nothing" doesn't change anything.

The manner in which an Op puts his write-up is the way he/she wants you to understand it. You don't jump on his thread asking him to give you any more story.

He has reasons why he left some things out. So you simply advise him based on what you can deduce from his write-up or you leave the thread the fhuuck alone.

dharay99:

I axd for more info and if dahts getting u down to ur knees,
fuçk.! daht ain't ma biz ok...

He made d simple write up so cracky to d extent daht even u misunderstood d write up, " ur girlfrnd" huh.? Mtcheeeeew.

I guess u should buzz off threads u don't av full knowledge of, not every cap fits d head niqqa.

Like what really are you saying?

Do we need to start conducting a poll on the number of threads we've both made sensible and educating comments since we joined Nairaland?

I can bet my moniker i'll floor you in that. But that's not my point.

The point is if you can't give an advice simply shut the hell up and don't make a fool of yourself.

It's better to attempt giving the Op an advice than to say nothing at all. And while some people have come on this thread to advice the Op based on what they understand from his write-up and have walked away,,I am yet to see any sensible input from you.

You are still busy asking the Op useless questions. I would love to see your final view of the situation after he has answered all your questions like you are interrogating him.

Nonsense!

Emodeee:



Sheee u dey contest for mr nairaland?

naijaboiy:

naah..

Emodeee:


u for win o, na girls go vote for u pass. Some silly girls go don dey pm u, abi?

Dem too like fine boiz.



Dat ur dp must be driving them crazy.

Female nairalanders, if u r tripping for naijaboiy's dp, like dis post, if u r indifferent, share.

i'm the outgoing Mr.NL